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Stimming side by side Elias, Amaya & Mummy ✨

18/05/2026

time waits for no one, our 2020 babies are turning 6 this year 😭

18/05/2026

when ever i leave the room she cry's i'm very flattered to be loved this much but i need to p*e 🙃🙃

Thinking about going back to education as a mum especially an autism parent?Here’s the truth no one really says…Nothing ...
06/05/2026

Thinking about going back to education as a mum especially an autism parent?

Here’s the truth no one really says…
Nothing changes if you sit and wait for it to.

There’s no perfect time coming.
No moment where everything suddenly settles, the house is calm, the routine is easy and you finally have “space” to focus on yourself.

That moment doesn’t arrive.

So you either stay where you are,
hoping things improve
or you make the change yourself.

And making that change? It’s uncomfortable.

It’s choosing growth when you’re already overwhelmed. It’s relying on the education system for your only safest and reliable form of childcare.
It’s building a better future while still surviving the present.
It’s showing up tired, distracted, stretched thin and doing it anyway.

Some days will feel impossible.
Some days you’ll question why you even started.

But this part of your life?

It won’t last forever.

The long days, the constant pressure, the feeling of being stuck it’s a chapter, not your whole story.

Every assignment you submit, every late night, every moment you keep going when it would be easier to stop..that’s you actively changing your future.

Not waiting. Not wishing.
Building it.

So if you’re thinking about it, this is your reminder

You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You just have to decide you’re not staying where you are.

Because the life you want isn’t going to appear one day
it’s something you create, piece by piece.

And one day, you’ll look back and realise
this was the moment everything started to shift.

you built the future you wanted, you didn’t wait for the help to come… YOU changed everything.

D I A G N O S I S D A Y 🧩 Today, we finally had the confirmation ASD.Which wasn’t news to us and everyone who knows Ama...
05/05/2026

D I A G N O S I S D A Y 🧩

Today, we finally had the confirmation ASD.

Which wasn’t news to us and everyone who knows Amaya. We’ve always known. Today wasn’t a shock it was validation. Validation for every time I trusted my gut. Every time I questioned myself and every time I was doubted.

She is still my happy girl. The same beautiful soul, the same laughter that fills a room, the same unique way of seeing and feeling the world. A diagnosis doesn’t change her it just gives a name to everything she’s been navigating all along.

But today still carries weight.

Because with that validation comes every memory, the hard days, the tears behind closed doors, the moments of worry about a world that doesn’t always make space for children like her.

We didn’t need a diagnosis to know who she is. But today, it feels like the world has finally stopped and said, “we see her too.”

To my girl you are never too much and never not enough. You are everything you’re meant to be, exactly as you are 💖

I love you endlessly my beautiful girl 💖

3.5 years. Of waiting. Chasing. Being told “just wait.” Of knowing, but not being heard. Of meltdowns, sleepless nigh...
05/05/2026

3.5 years.

Of waiting. Chasing. Being told “just wait.”
Of knowing, but not being heard.
Of meltdowns, sleepless nights and fighting for answers.

Today’s the day for my curly sue 🤍

This isn’t just an appointment it’s everything we’ve been pushing for.

So proud of my girl. Always.
The only way is up from here ✨

The night before my biggest baby turns six, I’m holding my five year old for the very last time. It’s the most beautiful...
30/04/2026

The night before my biggest baby turns six, I’m holding my five year old for the very last time. It’s the most beautiful kind of heartbreak. I’m so grateful to watch you grow, to see you become your own little person but a part of me aches to be selfish… to keep you small just a little while longer.

You’ve taught me patience I never knew I had, resilience I never knew I needed, and a depth of love I didn’t know could exist. Being your mum has reshaped me in ways I never expected.

Motherhood isn’t what I once imagined it would be. It’s harder, louder, more uncertain… but also more meaningful than I could have ever dreamed. Being your mum, being an autism mum, has opened my eyes to a different rhythm of life. You’ve taught me that progress doesn’t always look the way the world says it should. That the smallest steps are often the biggest victories. That communication isn’t just words, it’s connection, patience and understanding.

Because of you, I’ve learned to slow down. To notice the things I would have once rushed past the way the trees sway in the wind, the rhythm of the waves rolling in and out, the quiet moments that don’t seem like much but mean everything. You’ve taught me that life isn’t about keeping up, it’s about tuning in.

There are days that stretch me, moments that test me and nights where I wonder if I’m doing enough but then there are moments like this holding you closem, knowing how far we’ve both come and I realise this journey, exactly as it is, is the one that was meant for us.

I wouldn’t change it. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s ours.

So tonight, I hold you a little tighter. I breathe you in a little longer. And I thank you for choosing me, for teaching me, and for making me the mum I am today.

Happy almost 6th birthday, my love 🤍

25/04/2026

because WHY???!?!??

People don’t always understand that in a household with autistic children there is no such thing as “just 5 minutes.” Fi...
10/04/2026

People don’t always understand that in a household with autistic children there is no such thing as “just 5 minutes.” Five minutes unattended can be five minutes too long. Someone always needs something. Someone is always pulling on me sitting on me calling for me.

I don’t sit down at home. Not properly. Not without being needed within seconds. There’s no switch-off no quiet no moment where I’m not “on.”

An autistic household is full of love but it’s also relentless. It’s constant noise constant movement constant emotion. Routines have to be followed or everything unravels. Meltdowns come from overwhelm not bad behaviour and you hold it together while your heart breaks watching your child struggle in a world that doesn’t understand them.

My children are non-verbal. They may not speak but I hear everything. I’ve learned their language in their eyes their hands their cries the way they find me when they need safety. And when they can’t express themselves that pain has to come out somehow and I carry that with them.

It’s being needed when you’re exhausted. It’s never fully sleeping never fully resting. It’s living in a constant state of alertness because you have to.

It’s loving children who may never say “I love you” but feeling it in the smallest moments and holding onto those moments like they’re everything because they are.

It’s grieving the ease you thought parenting might have while loving your children with everything in you. Both can exist. Both are real.

And then there’s the guilt for needing space for wanting silence for dreaming of just sitting down without being touched or needed.

So this quiet moment This space

It isn’t selfish. It’s survival.

I love my kids endlessly. But I’m human too and sometimes I just need to breathe reset and find myself again so I can keep going.

To anyone living this life I see you.

If you know you know 💛

Specialist Resource Bases are something I personally struggle to agree with and I need to say why.My child was offered a...
10/04/2026

Specialist Resource Bases are something I personally struggle to agree with and I need to say why.

My child was offered a place in one and I refused it. Not because I don’t want support but because it didn’t feel safe or right for his needs. These bases often group children together with completely different profiles autism behavioural needs additional learning needs all in one small setting with limited staff and very little truly tailored education.

To me that doesn’t feel like individual support. It feels like segregation dressed up as provision.

How can one setting properly meet such a wide range of needs in one space when every child communicates learns and regulates differently? It becomes a blanket approach for children who need something deeply individual.

And the reality is children notice everything. Even if adults try to explain it differently they see who is in the base and who is not. They see difference. And that difference can turn into misunderstanding exclusion and isolation not just for the children inside the base but for others around it too.

There is also the emotional impact that often gets overlooked. Being moved out of mainstream learning or separated from p*ers can affect confidence identity and belonging especially for children who are already vulnerable.

I also can’t ignore the bigger picture. Councils talk about early intervention constantly but where is it in practice? Why are families still fighting for years just to access appropriate support? Why are children left out of education or placed in limbo while waiting for something suitable?

My son was kept out of school for a year while we fought for the right provision. A whole year of waiting advocating and pushing. Eventually after refusing what didn’t feel right he was placed in a school that truly understands him and now he is finally in the environment he deserves and is thriving.

But I keep asking myself why is this the system.

Why are we pouring money into units that feel more like containment than inclusion? Why are we creating small rooms for children instead of building properly funded specialist schools designed around real individual need with trained staff consistent therapies and real long term support?

Because from where I stand it doesn’t feel built around children. It feels built around budgets and placement pressure.

And I don’t think enough people are willing to say that out loud.

If we truly believe in early intervention inclusion and support then it has to be real support. Not just a room. Not just a label. Not just a placement.

Our children deserve better than being boxed in.

10/04/2026

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