Skylark End of Life Doula Cornwall

18/05/2026

The amazing Ren putting into song how I feel about death. Does this speak to you?

17/05/2026

Often when I am out in nature I see something that makes me think. When I took this photo it made me wonder about what's termed 'terminal lucidity ' or 'end of life rally'.
It's a relatively common occurrence, sometimes put down to delirium through pain or drugs but more often than not seems to be the beginning of transition.
Like this photo I guess the immediate surroundings are a bit of a blur but just 'over there' becomes clear and light filled. People can physically reach out to something unseen or talk about 'having to go' or see long dead loved ones.
Have you experienced this kind of thing? Often if we understand what is happening it can bring peace but if we don't talk about these things it can seem frightening and loved ones fear for their dying person.

10/05/2026

What a phenomenal response I've had this week as we talked about death and dying on my photo page. Thankyou to everyone that's joined in and shared their stories and all those who have taken the time to listen to others. It's been beautiful. Thankyou ❤️

As the sun set tonight at the end of I just wanted to say a mahoosive thankyou to everyone who has got involved and all those who have quietly watched the conversation unfolding.
I said at the beginning of the week we kind of created the world's biggest Death Cafe where we've shared stories and listened to others share theirs. It's been enlightening, heartwarming & heartrending. We have created a heart space where we felt at ease enough to talk about those things we generally put in a box and try not to think about.
Facebook is sometimes a pain...full of ads and crap we don't want to see but the theme of Dying Matters this year was let's talk about death and dying. And by eck people we have talked! (FB does do brilliant stats for nerds like me)
Seven posts since Monday have been viewed 70,436 times. With engagement (likes, shares, comments) at 5774 and 295 stand alone comments where YOU shared your stories. THANKYOU!
I've learnt so much from you guys this week. I know you're all here for my photos and reels of Newquay so it means so much that you trusted this space and me to get involved. And though I will, as my alter ego Skylark End of Life Doula Cornwall use this huge platform I've built as the Maid to keep conversation up now and again but for now you can all breathe a sigh of relief that it won't be daily lol 😉🥰
Thanks again you lovely people xx

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09/05/2026

Another conversation as we talk about this Dying Matters awareness week.

09/05/2026

Good morning. I posted this yesterday and forgot to share. For me nature teaches, reflects and holds me at the edge state of being. What resource do you use to help when you are in that liminal space?

Throughout the seasons I see the seapinks standing proud on cliff edges..their delicate yet tough flowers and grasses weathering all the elements life throws at them. They thrive in that threshold space which is in constant change, surviving storms, erosion and draught.
As we move into day 5 of they remind me of what the remarkable Joan Halifax refers to the "Edge State" of Resilience: She defines resilience as the ability to return to a baseline state of balance, even when feeling the deep pain of others. Compassion allows people to stay engaged at "the edge" of suffering without falling into despair or pathological altruism.
We all at some point will lose a loved one. There are millions of people whose every day work is caring for the sick, dying and our dead. Every single day they, like the sea pinks, are living in an edge state, where their compassion (hopefully) will guide them to do their work well and to give them resilience to maintain balance in the face of life's storms.
As I think about death and dying and how the world meets us at that most emotional of times I want to ask you guys how you look after yourself when you're in that edge state, either caring, working with, living with or facing death yourself? I throw myself even more into nature and immerse myself in the joy of the moment knowing it'll change.

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07/05/2026

Once be again I am sharing my own posts to keep the conversation going in

What would you have on a gravestone or as an epitaph?

Seen on a gravestone...
Remember friend, as you pass by, as you are now, so once was I. As I am now, so you must be. Prepare yourself to follow me.”

It's Dying Matters and I am continuing to talk about death and dying. I always said if I were to have a gravestone (I am not) it would say 'I told you was ill!' 😂

What would your epitaph be?


Skylark End of Life Doula Cornwall

06/05/2026

Good evening lovely people. Just sharing my post with today's something to think and talk about conversation starter.

Where would you like to die and why?

Good evening lovely people! Checking in at 5.10pm this Wednesday evening.

Continuing the theme 'lets talk about death & dying for ' I wanted to ask you if you had thought about and maybe discussed with loved ones your preferred location of death?
Studies show that 75% of people would like to die at home but these numbers direct from the government website show that is far from the case...
Hospital is the most common place of death (42.8%)
Home (28.4%),
Care home (21.0%),
Hospice (5.2%)
Other places (2.6%)

Where would you like to die and why?

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05/05/2026

Thanks to everyone who joined the conversation yesterday. It was really remarkable hearing everyone's stories.

I just wanted to say a massive thankyou to all those who shared your stories and to everyone that took the time to watch the video from this morning and look at the comments. We are a community on this page and what we achieved by engaging in conversation was a big, f*ck off death cafe which 8000 of you watched and nearly 1200 engaged in. That's incredible! YOU are incredible. Dying Matters awareness week is dedicated this year to 'Lets talk about death and dying' and I doubt there's many places where engagement, conversation and storytelling is as wonderful as what we have here. Thankyou! Xx
Crantock beach from Pentire at 7pm

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05/05/2026

Hey guys..I am posting on my Maid in Newquay page every day this week as with 51,000 followers it makes sense to reach as many people as possible in this
Hence why I am sharing my own posts here in case anyone is wondering!

04/05/2026

Let's talk about death & dying for Hospice UK's week

20/04/2026

With regards to my last post I think it's easy for me to say 'Be more Jen' and face the fact we will all die and to prepare for that.
The fact of the matter Jen was quite unique in many ways. The death of her first husband in her early twenties obviously impacted upon her more wisdom than a lifetime of living could.
I know from personal experience that despite dying being life's only guarantee we are more likely to spend time planning our next holiday than looking at advance planning. Generally more research goes into the new car or laptop or even phone than thinking about what you would like at the end of life. This is where a doula can be invaluable in building a relationship to help you understand what's important to you and why and help you get to a place where everything is in order.

Today I was over the moon to hear that some doula client in their late 70s had handed in their Advanced Decisions to Refuse Treatment at their doctor's. (ADRT)
It's taken a while to get their 'whys'. What treatment they would like and when treatment should be stopped or not started. For example if they were to develop advanced dementia AND not able to recognise family 90% of the time they wouldn't want CPR or life sustaining treatment should they get seriously ill.
The forms are free and simple but can be confusing and confronting if it's not something you have thought about. Them knowing I've done mine at 53 gave them comfort it's never too early to prepare.
They thought they may be wasting their doctors time by handing it in and talking about it but the feedback from the doctor was delight they have done it.
Things like this give clarity and empowerment. In a world where dying has become a medical event we want to make sure we get the best treatment possible when it offers us quality of life but also have the right to refuse treatment if it's simply extending the days in our lives but not improving the life in those days.

Drop me a message if you're thinking about doing some advance planning and would like some advice.