
07/10/2025
You’re trying to be more self controlled.
You can be good for a while, toughing it out with sheer willpower and determination. Eventually though, a moment of weakness, a s**t day at work or a fly away comment from a family member catches you out, you cave and the floodgates open again. You hate yourself for being being weak and it only makes you more determined to try harder next time.
I see so many people trapped in this cycle when the truth is you’re not weak - you’re resisting.
🩹You see, when you stop numbing out with alcohol, ni****ne, work, exercise, food, endless to do lists, s*x, po*******hy, gambling, retail therapy, Netflix or doom scrolling, you have to face what’s really there - the deep discomforts and unwelcome feelings in your body and mind.
It was Carl Rogers who said:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as l am, then I can change.”
🙏Acceptance is not about giving up, it’s about finding the strength, courage and trust in yourself to face the difficult things you’ve been avoiding and allowing THAT to guide you towards change. It’s not your external behaviour that needs your attention it’s your internal resistance.
👉Becoming more grounded is the first step towards self acceptance because it changes the internal conditions in your nervous system that are driving your self judgment and reactive behaviours.
This is just one of the lessons that helped me free myself from decades of addiction and allows me to continue to mange cravings every day.
🔥🔥It’s why I’ve created GROUNDING INTO FREEDOM - 30 days to steady your nervous system, reclaim control, and replace reactive coping with sustainable grounding.
We start live on Monday 27th October . Comment GROUND to join the waiting list or send me a DM.
I’m 100% behind you friend!
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