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24/04/2026

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26/03/2026

A really important topic that need not be overlooked
If this resonates with you, head over to the Foster Care Uncovered podcast for some great topics of discussion

Would you admit you were struggling? What do you think?

Mental health is taken seriously across children’s services—for social workers, for children, for everyone in the system. But for foster carers? It’s often treated as if it doesn’t exist.

Even though our role carries some of the highest risk factors for mental health challenges in the entire workforce, being honest about struggling can still get you labelled “too emotional,” trigger a standards of care investigation, or leave you feeling blamed and shamed.

And let’s be clear—it’s the role itself that puts us under this pressure, not a mental health problem on its own.

So here’s the question: shouldn’t supporting and maintaining foster carers’ mental health be a core duty of every fostering authority and agency?

How can foster carers offer children a secure base if they don’t have one themselves?"

Look out or next weeks Foster Care Uncovered podcast with myself and Louise Allen where we delve into the unspoken subject of foster carers's mental health.

03/03/2026

What are your thoughts on on this?

Parenting is hard! And sleep deprivation is devastating.

However, I fully support this and hope that more countries follow suit.
It will be difficult to ‘police’, but if implemented with support, guidance and information to new parents who feel like cry it out is there only option, it might make it easier to try a different approach first

Denmark is taking a major step by moving to end the “cry it out” method for babies after a nationwide study revealed potential harms. Over 700 psychologists warned that this sleep training practice could negatively impact brain development and parent-child attachment. The findings emphasise the importance of responsive caregiving during the early stages of life for healthy emotional and cognitive growth.

The study examined the effects of letting babies cry for extended periods and found links to elevated stress levels and possible long-term impacts on brain function. While some parts of the U.S. continue to recommend the method, Denmark’s decision reflects growing concern among experts about the risks versus the benefits of this approach. Advocates of alternative sleep strategies stress nurturing and gradual methods to promote better sleep without compromising developmental outcomes.

This move is sparking viral attention globally among parenting and health communities. It highlights a shift in understanding early childhood care and the need for policies informed by psychological research. Parents and caregivers are now encouraged to explore safer, evidence-based sleep strategies that support both healthy brain development and secure emotional bonds with their children.

11/02/2026

This work is hard. It’s exhausting, invisible, and often thankless. But every time you stay calm, every time you offer empathy, and every time you show up, you are changing a child's brain for the better. You are doing incredible work.

10/02/2026

In the world of therapeutic parenting, progress isn't always a leap; sometimes it’s a tiny shift. A shared laugh, a moment of eye contact, or a child asking for a hug—these are the milestones that matter. Celebrate the "small" today.

09/02/2026

In a residential setting, the "team" is the child's constant. When we stand together with a consistent, therapeutic approach, we create a "solid wall" of safety that allows children to finally let their guard down. Training your team is an investment in every child’s future.

08/02/2026

Big emotions are scary when you don't have words for them. By naming the feeling—"It looks like you're feeling really frustrated right now"—we help bring the thinking brain back online. It’s a small step that makes a massive difference in emotional regulation.

07/02/2026

You can't always "talk" a child out of a survival response. When a child is in fight, flight, or freeze, their logical brain is offline. Focus on the senses—rhythm, warmth, or a heavy blanket—to help their body feel safe again. ssing ive

06/02/2026

"No" is often a shield. It’s a way to keep control when the world feels unpredictable. When we look past the defiance, we often find a child who is simply scared of what happens next. Swap the power struggle for a moment of safety.
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04/02/2026

It can be heartbreaking when you offer love and get "pushed away" in return. Remember: for many of our children, trust was a luxury they couldn't afford. Pushing you away is how they stayed safe before they met you. It takes time to rewrite that script. Hang in there.

04/02/2026

To the carer who feels guilty for taking 20 minutes to themselves: Your regulation is the most important therapeutic tool in the house. You cannot lead a child to a calm place if you are running on empty.
💡What’s one small thing you’re doing for you today?
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