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Mind Your Future with Leanne, Northwich (2025)

06/10/2025

People pleasing has absolutely nothing to do with pleasing people, and it isn’t just about being kind.

It’s fear. Fear of criticism. Fear of confrontation. Fear of letting people down. Fear of abandonment. Fear of not being liked or not fitting in.

When fear is present, your brain constantly looks out for threats related to that fear. For example, if you fear confrontation, your brain might perceive unpredictable people as a threat. To remove or reduce that threat, you please them.

People pleasing is a behaviour used to avoid fear — and to avoid the anxiety you’d feel if you displeased someone. That’s why you smile… but behind the smile is fear and anxiety in disguise.

👉 Whether you’re people pleasing yourself, or supporting someone that is. Take a look at the 7 people pleasing resources in my bio. Or visit
https://thecbthub.co.uk/welcome-2503

10/09/2025

7 Therapist-Designed Tools. Just $7

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What’s inside:

🧠 People-Pleasing Psychoeducation Guide
🙅 People-Displeasing Boundary Exercise
🔍 Core Belief Discovery Worksheet
📅 People-Pleasing Timeline Tool
🧭 Values Clarification Workbook
🗓️ 30 Days to Unlearn People-Pleasing Journal
💬 CBT Mini-Journal: Say No with Confidence
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28/03/2025

I may be a qualified psychotherapist, but this week has truly pushed me outside my comfort zone. I have felt anxious and scared a lot of the time. Learning to ski didn’t come naturally to me or Shauna, and it’s been a rough few days.

We were placed in a group where everyone else seemed to pick it up effortlessly, and we found ourselves wondering why we weren’t. But that mindset only held us back. So, we had a word with ourselves, remembered all our therapist tools, and made the decision to only compare ourselves to who we were yesterday. This shift in perspective helped us focus on our own progress instead of others’.

I fell so many times and have the bruises to show for it, but each time, I got up and told myself, “I am not giving up.” As the days went on, we still didn’t feel confident enough to head back into the mountains, so we decided to ask for extra help—and that help made all the difference. With the extra support, we were back on the slopes in no time.

It hasn’t been easy, and at times we wanted to quit, but we never did. We knew we were capable. We are all capable of anything, but some of us just need the right support to get there. It’s okay to admit that and ask for help, just like we did.

The end result? We skied down the mountain—something we had only dreamed of! Fear isn’t real. We have to face it, believe in ourselves, embrace failure, and never give up.

08/03/2025

Are you constantly sacrificing yourself for others? Struggling to say no? Feeling exhausted, stressed, frustrated, or anxious? Never feeling good enough despite trying so hard every single day?

Join my workshop tomorrow, and I’ll explain why this is happening—and how to break free!

DM me for details!

01/03/2025

Are you an ambitious, hard-working woman who can’t help but try to please others?

What if I told you that people-pleasing isn’t a positive trait—it’s actually holding you back?

You say yes when you want to say no.
You take on extra work to avoid disappointing anyone.
You bite your tongue instead of speaking your mind.

You constantly worry about what others think, overanalyse conversations, and feel guilty for putting yourself first—even for a moment.

💡 It’s time to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and start prioritising YOU.

In my upcoming workshop, you’ll learn:
✅ The HARD truth about people-pleasing
✅ The hidden cost of saying yes at your own expense
✅ Why people-pleasing has nothing to do with kindness
✅ The root cause of your people-pleasing behaviour
✅ How to recognise your triggers and respond differently

This is your sign to stop putting yourself last. DM me "BREAK FREE" to sign up!

31/12/2024

For years, I compared my life to others, constantly feeling like I wasn’t measuring up—only to realise that everyone is fighting their own battles. No one is exempt from life’s struggles, not even the rich and famous as this year has sadly shown us again....and social media only shows the highlights...don't forget that. Wherever you are on your journey, you’re doing just great.

But if you feel stuck and want 2025 to be a happier, healthier year, remember that help is available. The first step is reaching out and asking for it.

Wishing you and your loved ones a happy and healthy New Year!

15/11/2024

"I should, I should, I should!" Even just saying it is exhausting, let alone living under the constant pressure of these demands. Perfectionism is no laughing matter; it’s a growing issue in today’s world that we need to take seriously.

Perfectionism often leads to placing unrealistically high demands on yourself, usually starting with thoughts like “I should” or “I must.” These demands then drive your daily behaviours, and because they are rooted in fear, the idea of not following through feels impossible.

But here’s the problem: over time, these relentless demands can lead to burnout, leaving you physically and mentally exhausted. You may find yourself too ill to continue, and suddenly life becomes incredibly difficult. Just last month, I started working with two clients whose health had severely declined because of perfectionism.

Prevention is always better than a cure, which is why it’s so important to recognise these patterns early. Everyone’s perfectionism looks a little different, but if you notice that you’re placing constant high demands on yourself, stop and ask: Is this perfectionism?

Perfectionism often stems from low self-worth and the need for external validation. If this resonates with you, please don’t ignore it. Over time, those demands will only get louder and more intense. This isn’t how life should be.

Help is available. Whether it’s with me or another therapist, know that you’re not alone. Many people struggle with this, and it can be overcome.

If you found this post helpful, please share it to help others. And if you need support, DM me—I have a few options available and would love to help you.

11/11/2024

Overthinking doesn’t cause suffering; it’s fighting the thoughts and believing them that does. You can overthink without suffering. Here’s how:

The moment you stop giving those thoughts all your attention, separate yourself from them, and stop believing them to be true, they lose control over you. Thoughts can’t change how you feel if you don’t let them.

Try it for yourself—next time you have a thought, picture yourself letting go of the rope and smile, reminding yourself that *you* are now in control. It’s a game-changer. You can overthink and still enjoy your life. Eventually, you’ll notice the overthinking settles because you’re no longer feeding it.

Remember, thoughts come from fears and beliefs you didn’t ask for in the first place, so they’re not your thoughts to give attention to.

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07/11/2024

I practice what I preach when I encourage people to face their fears. I am about to take on a huge challenge—the biggest yet: applying for a TEDx talk. I have no idea if I’ll be accepted, but the fact that I’ve committed to the coaching and the application process makes me feel so proud of myself. I’m willing to get on that stage and share my message, and that alone is a big step outside my comfort zone. So, whether I get to the stage or not, I’m proud to be at a point where I’m ready and wanting to do this.

I truly hope I get the chance to stand on that stage, because the message I want to share about empowering people to take control of their mental health feels urgent. We are facing a crisis with limited support, and I believe this message needs to be shared now more than ever.

Wish me luck, and thank you for being with me on this journey!

07/11/2024

I practice what I preach when I encourage people to face their fears. I am about to take on a huge challenge—the biggest yet: applying for a TEDx talk. I have no idea if I’ll be accepted, but the fact that I’ve committed to the coaching and the application process makes me feel so proud of myself. I’m willing to get on that stage and share my message, and that alone is a big step outside my comfort zone. So, whether I get to the stage or not, I’m proud to be at a point where I’m ready and wanting to do this.

I truly hope I get the chance to stand on that stage, because the message I want to share about empowering people to take control of their mental health feels urgent. We are facing a crisis with limited support, and I believe this message needs to be shared now more than ever.

Wish me luck, and thank you for being with me on this journey!

04/11/2024

You weren’t born a perfectionist, so there’s a reason behind it, and it’s important to understand that reason. Ask yourself: *If I were to let go of these high standards and stop caring so much, what would that mean? What does my mind tell me could happen?*

Reflect on what comes up and share your thoughts in the comments!

31/10/2024

Here's how I stopped burning out...

I stopped seeing burnout as *the* problem and started seeing it as a symptom of a deeper issue. Burnout often happens when we put too much pressure on ourselves—it's our body’s way of saying, "Since you won’t stop, I’ll force you to stop." Remember, if you don’t make time for wellness, you’re forced to make time for illness.

So, ask yourself: *Why am I putting so much pressure on myself?* What’s driving it? What do I think would happen if I didn’t maintain these high standards? Often, it’s rooted in fear and self-worth issues, feeling like we're not enough. Focusing on this deeper reason, rather than just the burnout, can lead to lasting change.

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