29/08/2023
It's a contentious subject and many of us have lived various forms of this. This gentleman understands all to well and deserves a mention.
My take, albeit, in hindsight. You do KNOW and see/feel the flags. Be strong in Knowing Yourself and WALK AWAY. You cannot "fix, help, pray or shrink to make them "better". Much love on this glorious day x
The main thing that feeds Narcissism is subconscious shame, not anger.
I've met plenty and been in long term relationships with one. After years of reacting to their abuse,
I finally decided to try to understand why they were so socially disruptive, emotionally possessive and genuinely manipulative and entitled to the point of being abusive.
These are the traits they exhibit, Anger and Rage is when they are called out, caught, or Confronted for their narcissistic personality, when they get cut off from their narcissistic supply they also rage.
They tend to only know how to Love themselves,
Everyone else is a means to an end.
Compassion and empathy are lacking.
They often lack intuitive understanding, and emotional depth.
Many have sociopathic tendencies as well.
Have no concept of Respect or dignity for others , Only to themselves.
They often project their issues on others, abuse people and play the victim, take advantage of others and expect them to be grateful for it.
Accountability is completely lacking unless it's forced upon them, even then they often refuse to accept any responsibility.
Their Anger covers up their Shame, and the underlying fears that feed that shame and exaggerated sense of self are a facade.
One they live so long they tend to believe their own lies.
They are sick, not evil.
Emotionally and Psychologically unwell,
Egotistical to the point of arrogance,
And often have low Emotional Intelligence, regarding themselves.
The native Americans considered the combination of narcissistic entitlement, greed, rage and selfishness a mental illness , they called Wetiko.
Other teachings from other cultures, like Buddhism, have called them "Hungry Ghosts".
Consuming others and eventually themselves.
This doesn't mean that some are not beyond helping, we all have minor narcissistic tendencies at times, there is a healthy narcissism that's necessary to ensure one's own survival and survival of ones family.
It's the degree of how unhealthy and disruptive
It becomes to others, and to oneself.
How much it blinds the individual from self awareness - Jeremy Crochetiere
*Thoughts? P.s this is an open platform for mindful thinking and resolution. No snarky abusive commenting will be tolerated*
