Becky Grace Therapy Eating Disorders ADHD Autism OCD Norwich

11/01/2026

I'm on emergency compassionate leave for the next 4-8 weeks minimum due to my Mum being diagnosed with terminal mesothelioma and she will likely pass in the coming days/weeks.

An email is being sent to all clients shortly and refunds will be issued as soon as practicable on my return.

01/01/2026

I thought I'd spend twixtmas overhauling the website, we (i.e. me) are nowhere near done yet but it's now shaping in a way where I lead the changes, rather than feeling I post what I think I should as a therapist.

And that is 2026 energy, year of the fire horse.

So let's start with something to have a think about if you are thinking of starting therapy this year.

A grounded way to think about beginning therapy without rushing or pressureJanuary often arrives with a particular kind of weight.The calendar resets, the language of “fresh starts” gets louder, and many people find themselves quietly thinking that something has to change. Not in a dramatic rein...

20/12/2025

Here's a trauma informed, nervous system friendly, non pathologising approach to supporting someone with eating distress this Christmas:

Please share far and wide to anyone who needs it

What do we mean by Eating Distress?Eating distress describes ongoing difficulty with food, eating, or the body that is driven by fear, overwhelm, sensory sensitivity, trauma, or threat responses in the nervous system.Rather than seeing the person as “disordered”, this framework recognises that m...

26/11/2025

From January, I’ll be making an important shift in my therapy practice.

I will be reducing my weekly 1:1 caseload and moving toward a smaller number of ongoing clients, with EMDR Intensives becoming a core part of my work.

Over the past year, I’ve noticed two things:
1️⃣ There is a huge demand for more flexible therapy that isn't just based on a weekly therapy model
2️⃣ My own energy, health, and sustainability matter just as much as the work I do

Like many therapists, I’ve been carrying a full caseload for a long time. And while I absolutely love the depth and connection of weekly therapy, I also know I’m at my best when I’m not depleted.

EMDR Intensives give me a way to offer deep, powerful work without the stop–start rhythm of weekly sessions. They create the space for clients to move through trauma, stuck patterns, or long-standing anxiety in a focused block of time, often with faster results and fewer disruptions.

Many people who feel stuck in weekly therapy make huge shifts during an Intensive because the brain stays fully in the processing window, rather than dipping in and out each week.

This shift will allow me to:

Work more sustainably
Offer more meaningful results
Reduce burnout
Give my clients the presence and energy they deserve

I’ll still be offering weekly therapy, but to a much smaller number of clients.

If you’d like to explore whether an EMDR Intensive might be right for you, you can read more or book an initial assessment via my website.

This is a big and positive step for me, one that aligns with how I want to work, the impact I want to have, and the energy I want to protect moving forward. 💜

Link in the comments

19/11/2025

Over the last year or two, I’ve noticed a real shift in how people are coming into therapy. More and more clients are saying things like:

“I need everything to be clear.”

“I get anxious if I don’t know exactly what’s happening.”

“I can’t cope with uncertainty.”

“I feel like I have to get everything right.”

“I need structure or I spiral.”

If this sounds familiar, please know this isn’t a personal flaw. It’s actually something I’m seeing everywhere — and it makes complete sense.

🌱 1. Life has become incredibly overwhelming

Constant information, comparison, and pressure to “get it right” can leave anyone feeling on edge. Perfectionism often shows up as a way to cope.

🧠 2. Neurodivergence + trauma make clarity feel safer

If you’re ADHD, autistic, anxious or carrying old trauma, you may genuinely need more structure and predictability. It’s how your nervous system stays regulated.

💛 3. Past experiences shape current fears

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, misunderstood or unsupported by professionals, you may now feel a strong urge to protect yourself by gathering information, planning everything, or trying to prevent mistakes.

✨ 4. And no — this doesn’t mean you’re “too much”

Your need for clarity or detail is usually a sign of:

wanting to feel safe

wanting to avoid overwhelm

wanting to be understood

trying to stop things spiralling

These are human needs, not character defects.

Therapy can help with this

In therapy we gently explore:

where these patterns started

what part of you is trying to protect you

how to soften perfectionism without losing structure

how to cope when things aren’t perfectly clear

how to build trust in yourself again

You don’t have to change overnight. We just work together with the part of you that learned it had to be perfect to feel safe.

18/11/2025

Hi everyone 👋

A little introduction post, especially for anyone new here. Although I've been on Facebook since 2004/5 (I actually can't remember which specific year as I'm an elder geriatric millennial)

I’m Becky, a BABCP accredited CBT & EMDR Therapist, and also a Registered Mental Health Nurse. I specialise in complex trauma, neurodiversity and eating disorders. I help deep thinkers, sensitive souls and neurodivergent adults untangle their relationship with food, body and identity so they can live with a full battery instead of running on empty.

In the last few years I’ve also started teaching therapists and supporting workplaces to become more psychologically safe and neuroinclusive, especially for people who process the world more intensely.

I’m sharing this because I’ve been invited onto a few podcasts recently, and I’ve realised how much I enjoy these conversations.
So if you host a podcast (or know someone who does), and you’d like an honest, down-to-earth chat on any of these topics, I’d love to hear from you:

✨ Trauma, shame and the inner critic
✨ Neurodivergent eating (ADHD, autism & binge cycles)
✨ EMDR intensives — who they help and why
✨ How sensitive people can thrive without burning out
✨ Sustainable therapy practice for caring professionals
✨ Creating workplaces where deep thinkers do well

My DMs are open, or feel free to tag someone below.

17/11/2025

The one piece of advice I wish people would stop giving:
“If you want it badly enough, you’ll make the time.”

Whether it’s healing, changing your relationship with food, managing ADHD/Autism demands, building confidence, or taking a step toward therapy… this phrase can feel so heavy.

Because most people aren’t struggling due to a lack of desire.
They’re struggling because life is overwhelming, their nervous system is tired, or they’re simply doing the best they can with the energy they have.

Here’s what I see in my work every single day:

People want to change.
They care deeply.
They’re trying incredibly hard.
They’re not “making excuses”, they’re trying to function with a drained battery.

Telling someone to “just make the time” doesn’t consider:

• ADHD executive function
• autistic burnout
• chronic stress
• grief
• parenting/care duties
• trauma
• the emotional load of simply getting through the day

A kinder, more realistic truth?

It’s not about wanting it more.
It’s about having the capacity to take the next small step.

Healing grows when the conditions are right, not when you shame yourself into “trying harder.”

Rest is a condition.
Support is a condition.
Understanding your neurodivergence is a condition.
Cooking one more nourishing meal, or adding one grounding practice, is a condition.

And your pace is valid.
Your effort counts.
Your nervous system isn’t the enemy, it’s trying to protect you.

If the next step feels tiny, that’s still a step.
You’re not behind. You’re not failing.
You’re human, and you’re carrying a lot.

And change, real, sustainable change, happens when your system finally feels safe enough to move forward.

29/10/2025

The “Eating Disorder Voice” What It Gets Right (and What It Misses)

You’ve probably heard people talk about “the eating disorder voice.”

That internal dialogue that criticises, controls, and convinces you that you’ll only be safe if you follow its rules.

For some people, naming this voice can be really helpful.
It makes the eating disorder feel separate, something you can observe, challenge, and eventually loosen your grip from.
It can be a powerful way to understand that the harsh thoughts aren’t you.

But for others, especially if you’re neurodivergent, the “voice” might not sound like a bully at all.

It might feel more like a structure, a sense of safety, or even a coping system that helped you survive when the world felt too unpredictable.

Sometimes, what gets labelled an “ED voice” is actually:
💭 Confusion around hunger or fullness (interoception)
💭 Sensory overwhelm and the need for control
💭 A drive for predictability in a chaotic environment
💭 The nervous system trying to protect you from fear or rejection

When we frame recovery as a fight against that voice, we can accidentally reinforce shame, or miss the wisdom underneath.

Instead, I often invite clients to ask:
✨ What is this part trying to protect me from?
✨ What does it need in order to feel safe?
✨ How can I bring curiosity instead of criticism to this part of me?

Because recovery isn’t about silencing your inner voice.
It’s about learning what it’s trying to say, and helping it rest.

24/10/2025

Rare therapy availability this week 🌟

If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy with me, I have a couple of rare spaces open, and you can now book directly into a first call using my client portal. I have some slots today and next Tuesday.

Sessions are available in-person at my Norwich office (Sackville Place) or online from anywhere in the UK or internationally (excl US/Canada)

No waiting lists, no back-and-forth emails, just an easy way to see if we’re the right fit to work together.

🪷 Book your first call today: https://clientportal.uk.zandahealth.com/clientportal/beckygracetherapy