Becky Grace Therapy Eating Disorders ADHD Autism OCD Norwich

13/04/2026

Coming back from my Easter break today and I'm reflecting on how my work has evolved over the last 3 years, I'm now in my third year of private practice and move into corporate wellbeing work/consultancy.

I think I’m moving away from how I’ve been describing my work. I’ve always said eating disorders, neurodiversity, trauma. And that’s not wrong. I still do that work. If I’m honest, it’s not really what I’m doing most of the time. What I actually see are the same patterns, just wearing different outfits. Overthinking. Pressure to get things right. Feeling like you’re either too much or not enough. Holding it all together while quietly burning out. That shows up in eating disorders. In trauma. In ADHD and autism. In people who are “high functioning” and look completely fine from the outside.

Different labels, same engine underneath.

And the longer I do this, the less interested I am in the labels. I care more about how someone has learned to be in the world, and what it’s costing them. Because that’s the bit that actually shifts things. Not just symptom management. Not just coping strategies. But understanding the pattern well enough that it stops running the show.

So I’ll probably still use those words, eating disorders, trauma, neurodiversity, because they help people find me.

But they don’t really capture the work.

27/03/2026

Still spaces left!

20/03/2026

18/03/2026

I think identity-led therapy marketing is starting to go a bit too far.

Everything is becoming:

ADHD
Neurodivergent
Trauma-informed for X

And whilst I understand the intention (I've done it too), people want to feel seen, I think we need to be careful about what we’re reinforcing. Because a lot of the clients I work with are already stuck in quite rigid ways of thinking.

Very certain about who they are.
Very certain about how their mind works.
Very certain about what is and isn’t possible for them.

That certainty is often part of the problem. So there’s a tension here.

We’re trying to help people develop more flexibility, more choice, more space in how they relate to themselves…

But sometimes we’re marketing in a way that can quietly strengthen:
“this is just how I am”. This isn’t about dismissing neurodiversity.
It matters. It needs to be understood and accommodated properly. But I don’t think identity should be the anchor of the work.

Personally, I’ve found it more useful to talk about patterns instead:

people who feel stuck in loops
people with busy, fast-moving minds
people caught in all-or-nothing cycles

That still reaches the right people. But it leaves room for movement.

And ultimately, that’s what most of them are looking for, even if they don’t realise it yet. If our marketing reduces people to labels, we shouldn’t be surprised when they feel stuck inside them.

Curious how others are thinking about this, because I don’t think we’re talking about it enough.

16/03/2026

My offerings and ways to work with me

13/03/2026

Sometimes people come to therapy already understanding their patterns.
They know where things come from.
They’ve done a lot of reflection.
But certain memories still feel emotionally charged. Or their reactions feel automatic, like the body is responding before the mind has time to catch up.

This is often when people begin to explore EMDR therapy.
EMDR works a little differently from traditional talking therapy. Instead of analysing experiences, it helps the brain process memories that still feel “stuck”, so they no longer carry the same emotional weight.

In this short blog post I’ve written about some of the signs that EMDR might be helpful, and how EMDR Intensives can allow people to work more deeply in longer sessions.

Many people who contact me for therapy have already spent time reflecting on their experiences.They often understand their patterns. They may have read books, listened to podcasts, or even had therapy before. But certain memories, emotional responses or reactions still feel difficult to shift.This i...

12/03/2026

Today I’m training in Inference-Based CBT (I-CBT) for OCD.

One of the things that fascinates me about OCD is that the distress isn’t usually about what’s actually happening. It’s about the story the mind creates about what might be true. Traditional CBT for OCD often focuses on Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP).

Inference-Based CBT takes a different angle.

It looks at the reasoning process that creates obsessional doubt in the first place. In simple terms, it helps people recognise when their mind has moved from:

Reality → imagination → doubt

Instead of endlessly debating intrusive thoughts, the work is about helping people reconnect with what they actually know from their senses and experience.

I’m looking forward to learning more about this approach today with the OCD Training School and exploring how it can support the people I work with.

09/03/2026

Many people assume eating difficulties are about food.

But in therapy, it often turns out that food is only the surface of something much deeper.

Over the years I’ve noticed a pattern that doesn’t get talked about very often, the link between trauma, morality, and the pressure to be a “good person.”

Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, conscientious individuals who hold themselves to very high standards. Being disciplined, responsible, and in control can become part of how they feel safe in the world.

And sometimes food becomes one of the places where that pressure shows up.

In this new blog post, I explore:

• why food can start to feel like a moral test
• how trauma can shape the need for control
• why binge eating and restriction often exist in the same system
• why insight alone rarely solves the problem

If you’ve ever felt trapped in cycles of control, guilt, or self-criticism around food, this might resonate.

You can read the article here: https://www.beckygracetherapy.co.uk/post/trauma-morality-eating-difficulties

If it does resonate, I’m also running a small therapy group called Midlife Eating Without the Shame, starting soon in person on Saturday 18th April in Norwich which you can book via eventbrite.

When people first come to see me about eating difficulties, they often assume the problem is food. They might say they want help with binge eating, or feeling out of control around certain foods. Sometimes it’s the opposite, rigid rules, restriction, and the feeling that eating has become somethin...

04/03/2026

Trauma "treatment" that forces a survivor to tell or relive their trauma in ways or on a timetable that is not chosen by the survivor, that the survivor is not in control of, or that serves the agenda, needs, or preferences of anyone but the survivor, is not ethical or effective.

26/02/2026

Saying you’re trauma-informed doesn’t automatically mean you are.

Trauma-informed care isn’t just warm language. It isn’t a soft tone.
It isn’t nodding a lot and being endlessly validating.

It’s about predictability.

It’s about saying:

“This is what we’re doing today.”
“This is why.”
“This is what the process looks like.”
“And you get to choose whether we go there.”

It’s about transparency.

No mystery, no hidden agenda, no sudden shifts in direction without explanation. It’s about collaboration.

Not therapy happening to someone.
Not the client trying to be the “good” or “easy” one.
But two adults working together, with clarity about roles.

And it’s about autonomy.

You can pause.
You can disagree.
You can say no.
You can ask why.

For many people, trauma wasn’t a lack of kindness. It was unpredictability. Powerlessness. Walking on eggshells.
Not knowing what version of someone you were going to get.

In my years working in NHS services, particularly in specialist eating disorder settings where risk, structure and medical safety really matter, I saw how essential clarity is.

When someone’s nervous system has lived in chaos, vagueness isn’t soothing. It’s destabilising.

Kindness matters.

But structure is safety.
Clarity is safety.
Boundaries are safety.

Sometimes the most trauma-informed thing I can do is hold a steady, regulated frame, even when that means not rescuing someone from discomfort.

Trauma-informed isn’t about being “nice”.

It’s about being safe.

23/02/2026

You don’t have to relive everything to heal.

One of the biggest myths about EMDR is that it’s about going back into trauma in intense detail. It isn’t.

EMDR helps your nervous system finish processing experiences that got stuck during overwhelm.

That’s why certain memories don’t feel like “the past.”
They feel like they’re happening now.

When something was too much, too fast, or too unsafe, the brain stores it in its original emotional and sensory form.

EMDR gently supports the brain’s natural healing process using eye movements, tapping, or sounds.

Over time people often notice - the emotional charge softens, their body isn’t on edge in the same way, triggers lose their grip, shame reduces, a sense of distance from old memories.

You don’t have to find perfect words.
You don’t have to explain everything.
You don’t have to perform insight.

This can be especially important if you’re autistic, ADHD, a deep thinker, or someone who finds talking exhausting.

Good EMDR is paced. Stabilised. Collaborative. It isn’t rushed.
And it’s never about “fixing” you.

If you’re curious about how EMDR actually works, I’ve written a short blog explaining it gently and clearly.

I’ll pop the link in the comments.

21/02/2026

I’m now listed on both the Autistic Therapist Directory and Pink Therapy.

For those looking for:
• Neuroaffirming CBT & EMDR
• Trauma therapy adapted for autistic / ADHD nervous systems
• LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy
• Eating disorder work without shame or pathologising difference

You can now find me through these specialist directories as well as via my website.

Norwich-based | In-person & online | EMDR intensives available