Becky Grace Therapy for Trauma & Eating Disorders Norwich

14/08/2025

We used to practice uncertainty every day without even realising it.

Now, our brains are used to instant answers, instant plans, and instant reassurance, and that has a cost.

If you’re neurodivergent or living with an eating disorder, uncertainty can feel even harder:

Rigid rules and routines can feel safer than “not knowing”

Perfectionism can make mistakes feel intolerable

Uncertainty can trigger spirals into anxiety, overthinking, or unhelpful coping behaviours

The good news?

Uncertainty tolerance is a skill you can train, just like a muscle.

Even small, daily acts of “I don’t need to know yet” can start to rewire your brain’s relationship with the unknown.

How do you currently cope when you don’t have all the answers?

11/08/2025

"Brief reflections on therapy themes over this past quarter:

Morality

I see people with OCD as well as eating disorders - whether you have either -the idea of being a ‘good person’ or a ‘bad person’ crops up frequently and this fascinates me. Even the idea of ‘healthy vs unhealthy’ ‘clean or dirty’. Many people hold lots of internalised shame regarding how they come across to others.

I also find the increasingly polarising and binary nature of being online, really makes that fear more palpable and makes the fear of gaining weight or OCD compulsions much much worse.

Perfectionism within therapy

I find occasionally, in therapy, I feel a strong pull to be ‘doing something’ or ‘creating a change’ or ‘solution’ or ‘fix’ even if the client knows that therapy isn’t about being a fix, it’s a process for clients, that can be super frustrating at times - perfectionism isn’t about perfection, it’s about high expectations and criteria for others and when we don’t meet them, we can disengage. I find I have to communicate super clearly that my therapy although grounded in evidence based interventions, I’m not a skills or tools therapist. Anyone can ask ChatGPT/AI for these, but again it’s the application where AI will struggle. Our relationship is paramount and it’s important to lay out our expectations on on the table - as sometimes assumptions will make an ass out of me and you! I’m messy, imperfect and there is no such thing as perfect therapy. It’s just important we talk about it. So if I see it, I will name it with you.

Intellectualising/analysing with an absence of feeling

Again, many of my clients want rationality, certainty and control over the future, so this is where if we ‘know’ everything, then we can just make a change - but ultimately, eventually, we need to feel under that. Feeling is key. How we get there? We need to unpick layers of dissociation and titrate safety to feel."

Summer 2025 edition

08/08/2025

08/08/2025

⭐Client Journeys⭐

“I know I’m not in danger anymore, but my body doesn’t believe it.”

A q***r man in his late 30s sought therapy for CPTSD and OCD. He had grown up in a highly religious environment where shame and fear were used to control. Despite now being safe, his body remained stuck in hypervigilance, and intrusive thoughts left him feeling ashamed and isolated.

We worked on gently unpacking the spiritual and moral injury beneath the compulsions. Through EMDR, compassion-focused work and parts work, he began to separate his identity from the fear-based narratives he’d internalised, and create space for safety, authenticity, and freedom.

NB: These stories are composite case examples based on the real work I do with clients. Each one reflects common themes and struggles, but they do not represent any individual.

These stories are composite case examples based on the real work I do with clients. Each one reflects common themes and struggles, but they do not represent any individual. All identities have been changed to protect privacy.

05/08/2025

Solo camping was definitely an experience! Here are a few eating tips for whilst you are away on holiday

Bitesize Summer Series

04/08/2025

⭐Client Journey⭐

These stories are composite case examples based on the real work I do with clients. Each one reflects common themes and struggles, but they do not represent any individual, as therapists have an ethical duty to protect confidentiality:

“I can’t relax. Even when nothing’s wrong.”

A non-binary person in their 20s described feeling constantly on edge. They had grown up with emotionally inconsistent caregiving and had never quite felt safe in their own skin. As a neurodivergent person with sensory processing difficulties, the world often felt overwhelming.

Therapy focused on helping them build a sense of internal safety. We used a combination of psychoeducation, somatic tools, and parts work to explore their trauma responses and re-establish connection with their body. Over time, they began to notice what safety felt like, and trust their own needs.

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31/07/2025

We've said this before, and we'll say it again you can't make progress without safety first. Nervous system safety is a priority when food or eating is involved.

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28/07/2025

What you see here isn't happiness - I mean there is happiness as I had finished my Mental Health Nursing degree in 2016 but what you don't see here is that I had just finished one of the most restrictive diets I had ever been on (and I have been on a lot!!). Here I had a list longer than my arm of things I couldn't eat, it was an influencer peddling a very restrictive 'healthy' diet. I could eat seeds, but not allowed to have ANY oils, I started the day with seeds (SEEDS!!) and I wasn't allowed to eat anything processed at all, there were many other rules I had to follow, but I have dissociated from all of them, quite frankly.

I can't tell you how many books I've read as well who claim to have the answer - and then it's just ended up as a restrictive eating diet, which will always lead to a binge and potentially mess up your hormones, metabolism and long term health.

Yet, I have never had more compliments than at this time, in fact every single restrictive diet I have been on always ended up with compliments, attention and praise.

I'm fu***ng awesome at my current weight by the way, I no longer measure my worth by my size as I was always bloody amazing.

Edit: We need to ask ourselves as individuals and as a wider culture why we feel we need to compliment people on their weight loss, we are all part of the solution to disordered eating. The current ideological shift from GLP1s is also part of this. We do not exist in isolation. Eating Disorders are actually political, social and justice related.

24/07/2025

⭐Client Journeys⭐

These stories are composite case examples based on the real work I do with clients. Each one reflects common themes and struggles, but they do not represent any individual. All identities have been changed to protect privacy.

“Food is the only thing that calms me, and I hate that.”

A woman in her 40s, recently diagnosed with ADHD, came to therapy struggling with binge eating, low energy, and constant self-criticism. Her eating felt chaotic: long periods of restriction followed by late-night binges, often while multitasking or overstimulated.

Therapy involved building ADHD-friendly structure around food, working with sensory regulation, and shifting away from cycles of guilt and punishment. We explored what her binges were trying to soothe. With time, she built in more support, learned to meet her needs earlier, and began to see food not as a battle, but as a relationship that could be healed.

22/07/2025

So many of us are living with chronic input, and our bodies weren’t designed for it.

We’ve trained ourselves to be available to the world 24/7, but unavailable to our own inner world. We’re hijacked by devices, by performance culture, by the pressure to keep up, and it’s severed our link to embodiment.

What we’re calling “burnout” is, so often, a miscalibrated nervous system in a culture that won’t slow down.

And what we’re calling “disconnection” is, underneath it all, a wound of loneliness, one that tech can’t actually soothe.

From screen addiction to spiritual disconnection, exploring the quiet trauma many of us are carrying and how to start healing.