RJCounselling

19/11/2025

RJCounselling stands with men and their mental health. Whatever your gender, reaching out for support is always okay.

To find out more visit www.rjcounselling.co.uk

19/11/2025

Men’s mental health is no joke. I’m receiving more counselling enquiries from men at the moment, and it’s fantastic to see. Reaching out is a strength, not a weakness. Let’s keep breaking the stigma around men’s mental health.

Behind every statistic is a father, brother, son, or friend. Today, on International Men's Day, we're launching England's first ever Men's Health Strategy to tackle men's mental and physical health challenges.

We’re meeting men where they are to support with the health challenges they face.

More: https://www.gov.uk/government/news/government-unveils-englands-first-ever-mens-health-strategy

17/11/2025

“Ok, I’m listening.”

Three very powerful words.

In counselling — and in life — those words create space for someone to be seen, heard, and understood. They don’t offer solutions, judgement, or assumptions. They simply offer presence.

You don’t need the perfect response.
You don’t need all the answers.
You just need to be there.

Sometimes the greatest gift we can give another person is our full attention — not to fix, but to witness.

Listening communicates:

You matter.
Your feelings are valid.
You don’t have to go through this alone.

Never underestimate the healing power of being truly heard.

17/11/2025

The 5 F’s (fight, flight, freeze, fawn, flop) are your body’s built-in survival responses.
If you find yourself slipping into one during conflict, you’re not “overreacting” — you’re responding exactly as your nervous system was designed to.

Therapy helps us recognise these patterns and develop healthier ways of coping.

13/11/2025

12/11/2025

‘Just because the shoe fits doesn’t mean you should wear it.’

Sometimes a situation, relationship, or opportunity seems to fit simply because it’s familiar or convenient. But just because something is available to you doesn’t mean it’s healthy for you or aligned with your values.

You’re allowed to walk away from what no longer feels right.
You’re allowed to choose what supports your wellbeing.
You’re allowed to prioritise peace over pleasing.

The right fit isn’t just comfortable — it feels honest.
Choose what honours who you are and who you’re becoming.

11/11/2025

Every Tuesday from 7:30pm at The Green Dragon, Wymondham.

Free for all men to come and feel like they’re not alone!

11/11/2025

🕯️ Remembrance Day – 11th November 🕯️

Today, at 11:00 am on the 11th day of the 11th month, we pause to remember and honour those who have served, sacrificed, and given so much.

It’s a day to reflect, show gratitude, and acknowledge the emotional impact of loss — something that can affect everyone, whether personally or collectively.

In counselling, we recognise that remembrance can bring up powerful emotions, and it’s okay to seek support if memories, grief, or anxiety feel overwhelming.

Take a moment today to pause, reflect, and care for your emotional wellbeing. 💛

11/11/2025

🌿 ADHD & PMDD: An Overlooked Connection in Women’s Mental Health 🌿

Many women experience intense emotional and physical symptoms every month — mood swings, anxiety, depression, fatigue, even pain — and are told it’s “just PMS.” But new research suggests there may be something much deeper going on.

Women with ADHD are shown to be three times more likely to experience PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) — a severe hormone-related condition that can lead to overwhelming emotional changes and significantly impact daily life.

Why does this happen?

Because the ADHD brain processes hormones such as oestrogen and progesterone differently. When these levels fluctuate during the menstrual cycle, symptoms can intensify — emotional sensitivity increases, focus worsens, sleep becomes disrupted, and impulsivity feels harder to manage.

👉 Many women go years without a diagnosis.
👉 Many are dismissed or told they’re “too sensitive.”
👉 Many don’t realise there is a legitimate medical explanation.

If this resonates with you, please remember:
✨ You are not “overreacting.”
✨ You are not imagining it.
✨ You deserve support and proper care.

If you suspect PMDD or you're struggling with ADHD-related hormonal changes, counselling can help you understand your patterns, develop coping tools, and advocate for the right medical support.
You do not have to navigate this alone. 💛
Message me if you’d like to explore support options.

11/11/2025

💭 “Counselling feels like a luxury right now…”
You’re not alone in feeling that. The cost of living has made it harder for many people to prioritise their mental health — and it has also affected those of us providing counselling.

Behind every session are rising room hire fees, insurance, supervision, and training costs — all of which have increased too. Counsellors do their best to keep fees fair while covering these essentials.

If you’re struggling financially, please don’t be afraid to talk about it. I’ll always try to be as flexible as possible — because your wellbeing matters. 🌿

Counselling is an investment in you — not a luxury.

DM to chat or visit www.rjcounselling.co.uk
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11/11/2025

✨ You don’t have to go through it alone ✨

Depression and anxiety can make everyday life feel overwhelming. You may look fine on the outside, while on the inside you’re fighting battles no one sees.

Counselling offers a safe space to talk openly — without judgement, without pressure, and without having to “be strong”.

Recent research shows that depression affects the brain at a cellular level, not just emotionally or mentally. That means you’re not “weak”, you’re not “dramatic”, and it’s certainly not your fault.
Your struggles are real. Your feelings are valid.

Counselling can help you to:

understand your thoughts and emotions

develop healthier coping strategies

rebuild confidence and self-worth

create lasting change at your own pace

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply need someone to listen, reach out.
Talking is powerful. Healing begins with one conversation.

📩 Message me to book a confidential session.
You deserve support. You deserve peace.

08/11/2025

🕊️ As the year draws to a close, have you noticed a quiet stirring inside — questions about the job you once loved, the friendships that no longer feel quite right, or even the place you call home?

There’s something about this time of year: the pace slows, routines loosen, and we finally hear the whisper beneath the noise.

Reflection doesn’t mean you need to have everything figured out. It simply means you’re giving yourself permission to ask:

What do I want to carry into next year?

What might be ready to let go of?

You don’t need to make big changes overnight. Sometimes the bravest step is simply being honest with yourself — and open to what comes next.

If you’re sitting with these questions and would like a compassionate space to explore them, I’m here.

➡️ Read more: https://rjcounselling.co.uk/when-the-year-turns-why-we-start-questioning-everything/

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