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Most manipulation doesn’t look toxic at first.
It looks like “concern,” “love,” “checking in,” or “just wanting the best for you.”
But underneath… it’s about control.

Gaslighting.
Love-bombing.
Silent punishment.
These aren’t “misunderstandings.”
They are strategies — designed to make you doubt yourself so you depend on them.

Here’s the truth:
If someone makes you feel confused, guilty, or afraid of disappointing them…
you’re not being cared for.
You’re being controlled.

You deserve people who communicate, not people who manipulate.

💡 Save this if you’ve ever had to unlearn someone’s version of “love.”
💬 Comment POWER if you’re reclaiming yours.

09/11/2025

The Drama Triangle — Why We Get Stuck in the Same Arguments

Have you ever noticed how some conversations just go in circles — nobody listens, everyone’s upset, and nothing really gets solved?
That’s what psychologist Stephen Karpman called the Drama Triangle.

There are three roles people fall into when things get tense:
The Victim, the Rescuer, and the Persecutor.

The Victim feels helpless — like life or people are being unfair. They might say, “Why does this always happen to me?” or “There’s nothing I can do.”
The Rescuer rushes in to fix everything, often without being asked. They mean well, but they can accidentally keep others dependent on them.
And the Persecutor? They’re the one who blames or criticizes — trying to stay in control by pointing the finger.

Here’s the twist: we don’t stay in one role. We can switch in seconds.
A Rescuer can suddenly feel unappreciated and become a Victim.
A Victim might get fed up and snap — turning into the Persecutor.
And round and round it goes… drama on repeat.

So how do we step off the triangle?
First — notice it. Awareness is everything.
Then try flipping the roles:
Instead of a Victim, be a Creator — ask, “What can I do?”
Instead of rescuing, become a Coach — support others to solve their own problems.
And instead of persecuting, be a Challenger — set boundaries with respect.

When we move from blame to responsibility, drama turns into real connection.
And that’s where things finally start to change.