Odette Darge - Equestrian Coaching & Bodywork

Odette Darge - Equestrian Coaching & Bodywork Qualified Equestrian Coach and Equine/Human Sport & Rehabilitation Massage Therapist. Norfolk based for confidence/training/pain related issues.

13/01/2026
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09/01/2026

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There's something nobody tells you about keeping horses in winter. It's not in the glossy magazines or the Instagram feeds filled with summer show photos. But every real horse owner knows this truth in their bones, especially when the ground turns to iron and water buckets freeze solid overnight.

What happens when the dark comes far too fast and steam rises from warm nostrils under starlit skies? You find yourself standing there, hands numb through soggy gloves, somehow covered in mud even though you swear you were careful this time. The arena becomes a mirror, the lanes become a test of nerve, and you start questioning every life choice that led you to trudge out "just to check" on them one more time before bed.

But here's the thing that changes everything. The horses stand there, completely unbothered by your internal crisis. Fed. Watching you like this is perfectly normal behaviour, because to them, it is. They don't mark the days on a calendar or count down to spring, they only know what matters in this moment.

Hay arrives. Water matters. You came back. That's their whole world, and somehow it's enough.

In the deep mid-winter, something remarkable happens that you won't find in any training manual. There are no rosettes pinned to your jacket, no audience applauding your dedication, no summer dreams that feel anything but impossibly far away. There's no pressure to progress or post about your achievements, just the quiet, unglamorous work of showing up.

Care. Consistency. Choosing them when it's cold and thankless and nobody's watching.

And this is where everything shifts. This is where the bond deepens in ways that sunny trail rides and successful shows never quite capture. It happens in those frozen mornings when your alarm goes off in the dark and you still pull on your boots. It happens in the last barn check at night when you're exhausted but you go anyway. It happens in the shared breath in the darkness, in the routine that becomes ritual, in choosing them again and again when there's no glory in it.

This is not the season that gets celebrated. This is not the glamorous part of horse ownership that anyone dreams about as a child. But ask any lifelong horse person and they'll tell you the same thing: this is the season that matters most.

This is the faithful one.

Because in the deep mid-winter, love stops being an abstract feeling and becomes something you can measure. It looks like hay carried through the snow. It looks like warmth provided and water checked three times because you're paranoid about ice. It looks like turning the barn lights off at night knowing they are safe, fed, and cared for, even when your fingers are still thawing and tomorrow will bring more of the same.

So the next time you're out there in the cold, questioning why you do this, remember something. Those horses standing calmly in their stalls, unbothered by the weather or the early darkness, they know something we often forget. They know that love isn't always warm summer days and blue ribbons. Sometimes love is just showing up in the deep mid-winter, doing the quiet work that no one sees, being faithful when everything else falls away.

That's the real measure of an equestrian. Not the trophies or the training level or the fancy tack, but the willingness to be there when winter strips away everything except what matters most. Are you still there when it's just you, them, and the cold? That's when you know this isn't just a hobby or a phase. That's when you know this is who you are.

What does your winter barn routine look like? Are you out there in the deep mid-winter too?

🎉 Many thanks to all my clients for their support this year! 10% discount on your first 2026 booking as a thankyou from ...
31/12/2025

🎉 Many thanks to all my clients for their support this year! 10% discount on your first 2026 booking as a thankyou from me for new an existing customers when you share and like this post. 🎉

Let’s make 2026 your most successful yet with your horse! Taking bookings for:

⭐️ Riding lessons on your horse
⭐️ Equine/human massage
⭐️ Confidence building
⭐️ Equine training

Based in Dereham/Norwich. Friendly, affordable, qualified and insured.

Last busy day of 2025, mixture of human & equine bodywork and coaching (Christmas tree poles exercise 🎄) helping both ho...
18/12/2025

Last busy day of 2025, mixture of human & equine bodywork and coaching (Christmas tree poles exercise 🎄) helping both horse and riders together!

A few slots left for January, so if you feel you and/or your horse could do with a bodywork session/coaching session to improve any pain or confidence issues pop me a message.

Thankyou to all my clients for your support this year ⭐️

How many of us can relate to this 💕
22/11/2025

How many of us can relate to this 💕

“Maybe you used to ride braver, stronger, freer. But you’ve lived through things now.
This version of you is softer and wiser,
Let her ride too“

- BEAU Equestrian Mental Wellness

19/11/2025

It’s Time🎄🤶🌲🎄🤶 the Christmas Show Schedule is revealed:
Date: 20th December 2025
Time: 11.30am start with the fancy Dress competition
If you would like to enter please contact Juliet on 07733016757.
Horse hire is available to current customers only and will be allocated on a first come first served basis!!

17/09/2025

Why Being Too Clever Can Get You Into Trouble with Horses

Now, people like me - the “clever ones.” We’ve solved life’s puzzles with thinking: algebra, essays, careers, actually reading the IKEA instructions. Thinking is our Excalibur. Then that horse that doesn't behave as expected comes along, and we think: “Ah yes, another tricky problem for my mighty intellect to conquer.”

So we diagnose him with “generalised anxiety disorder,” order supplements with the words "calming" in the name, buy 3 new expensive saddle , 63 new bits, and Google: “herbs to help sensitive geldings.”

At no point do we consider the obvious: maybe the problem isn’t HIS brain. Maybe it’s mine. Or, even worse - my body.

Because here’s the kicker: horses don’t care about your IQ 🤓.

They’re not impressed that you can draw the chemical structure of morphine, or that you can pronounce quinoa without hesitation. They only care whether your insides match your outsides.

If your nerves are leaking out of your hands, your seat, your breathing - they’ll clock it instantly. If you ride like a stiff, lopsided backpack, they’ll notice. If you creep around trying not to upset them, they’ll find that deeply upsetting.

The bitter pill I had to choke down (and trust me, valerian root tastes like regret 🤢) was this: my horse didn’t need a genius. He needed a martial artist 🥋. Someone whose body and mind were aligned, balanced, communicating clearly.

Someone who rode and facilitated the transfer of load through locomotion and didn't disrupt it - not someone who just knew the physics equation behind it.

Once I stopped trying to think my way out of trouble and started training my body - to balance, to breathe, to match the rhythm of movement, to be coordinated enough to convey meaning - the horse’s “anxiety” mysteriously vanished. Because it wasn’t anxiety at all. It was him reacting to the horror of being piloted by a disconnected brain in a wobbly meat suit who was telling him the world was terrifying whilst yanking on his mouth at the same time!

So here’s your collectible advice: horses don’t want purely brainiacs. They want martial artists. They want your body and your mind to show up in the same place, at the same time and be coordinated. And if that offends your intellect? Brilliant. Because now you know exactly what you need to focus your attention on.

Collectible Advice 21/365 — part of my Notebook Challenge.
This is meant to be saved, shared, and reflected on — but not copy–pasted. Because copy–paste is uncool, and horses can smell inauthenticity from a mile away. 🐴😉

02/09/2025

Wanted
We’re looking for home for one of our school horses to retire. Still rideable great hack just needs quite quieter life.
Pm for details

31/08/2025

Mindset is so important with horses! Credit: Horsey

14/08/2025

🐴🐴 Companion Wanted to loan/buy🐴🐴

On behalf of a client, looking for a pony/cob (or 2 small ponies) to keep on private land as a companion for a 14.2 gelding, NR20 area. To live out with access to shelter/stables.

Dm if interested.

05/05/2025

⭐️Have a last minute slot tomorrow morning 10am for coaching or human/equine massage, also Friday 10-2pm ⭐️

Address

Weston Longville
Norwich
NR19

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