18/07/2025
Today I am away to visit a family who have lost their father and a husband, suddenly.
With teenagers this is such a responsibility, even more so than any other visit and whilst each time you visit people to arrange a ceremony you commit everything you have. These are moments you need to be a little braver.
Today is about treading very slowly, listening even harder, holding your own heart strong and showing a family in their darkest most traumatic moments that you are there to support them to say goodbye.
Saying goodbye and how we do this is different for each of us, every single time.
As we grow and change our memories change with us l. How we carry that memory of these moments helps shape and form our futures and our ability to cope at the worst moment in our lives.
In my bag I carry: tissues, paper and pens for children who sometimes prefer to express their feelings in pictures, biscuits for the tea we may drink as we talk about the person and their life...
And importantly ... dog chews...if they have dogs !!!
It's a good way of breaking the ice and making people feel that little bit more comfortable.
People are often more stressed about their pets when I arrive than anything... We don't mind pets, they bring with them affection and an opportunity to think about something else and they'll sit with you and just love you.
Every celebrant is different and there is no right or wrong way...
You have to see what you are faced with when someone opens the door. But that relationship starts long before that point when you make your first contact, by phone, by text, by email....
Working as a team, with a Funeral Director you trust and you know makes such a difference, it's never just a job, for any of us - ever...
I also take a tiny glass heart nestled in a paper box and a little envelope of forget me knot seeds.
Today I have two of each for the children..
Remember, little things matter.
To those of you in grief right now, take a breathe, take a minute, just be with yourself, this time is exhausting, go slowly on the days you need to.
Rosedale Funeral Home
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