
29/03/2025
Do you ever feel shame for getting things wrong?
I used to feel the same way...
Before I dive in, I want to reassure you that this post might bring up some memories, but my intention is to show you that healing is possible. You donโt have to stay stuck in the pain, and thereโs a way to release it for good.
I was a perfectionist, and anytime I didnโt do something absolutely perfectly, Iโd punish myself with shame and beat myself up for it.
It wasnโt just the big mistakes either - even the smallest things, like misspeaking or making a minor error, would stick with me for weeks, months, or even years. Iโd replay the moment over and over in my mind, each time feeling that awful pang of shame.
And it didnโt stop there. Old memories, even from years ago, would flood back - words Iโd said wrong, times Iโd behaved "incorrectly," or moments where Iโd made a mistake. Each time, the emotions came rushing in, retriggering me and pulling me into a spiral of discomfort and self-criticism.
It was exhausting. These memories were stealing my energy, taking me away from living in the now, and stopping me from enjoying my life.
For a long time, I thought this was just how it would always be - that these memories would keep returning and causing me pain.
But then I discovered a way to process them. A way to release the pain and stop the emotional triggers.
Now, when a memory comes up, I can process it quickly and effectively. I take away the emotional charge, so if it pops up again, itโs just a neutral memory... no pain, no shame, no spiral.
Thank goodness I found this! I donโt have time to waste on old things anymore, and Iโm so grateful to be free from the rule of my mind.
If youโve ever felt this way, youโre not alone. Many of my clients have experienced the same thing - some even with memories from 50+ years ago still bothering them, clogging up their body, mind, and energy.
Maybe as youโve been reading this, a memory has popped up for you. I want you to know that itโs possible to process and clear it - you donโt have to carry it forever.
Whatโs something youโd love to release and let go of? If appropriate please comment below... Iโd love to hear from you.
With my love,
Be
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