Emma Spencer Interpersonal Therapy

01/03/2026

The past couple of months have reminded me how important it is to gather when hearts are heavy.

Grief doesn’t need solutions, it needs community.

Being together is about being strong enough to hold each other’s pain with gentleness. It could be offering a place at your table for dinner. Or meeting for a coffee somewhere safe and peaceful. Connecting through memories and experiences together.

What you’re doing is love in action. Even if it feels small, it’s huge to someone who’s grieving. You don’t need to fix the pain, your presence already says you matter, and I’m not leaving.

You’re not trying to make grief disappear. You’re creating a safe place for it to exist. That matters more than perfect words.

25/02/2026

As a relationships patterns specialist I help people understand why they repeat relationship patterns and how to change them.

Together we make sense of emotional reactions and triggers. Improve communication and boundaries and strengthen emotional resilience.

I aim to help you build practical communication and relationship skills.

If you’re considering therapy, you’re welcome to get in touch.

17/02/2026

Feeling left out or ostracized by a group can be painful and confusing. You might wonder why you sometimes experience this sense of exclusion, especially in adult networks where you expect to feel connected. This feeling is more common than you think, and understanding it can help you improve your wellbeing and relationships. This blog will guide you through what this feeling means, why it happens, and practical ways to work on it even when you’re unsure if your feelings reflect reality.
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17/02/2026

Do you ever feel left out in adult social circles? You’re not alone. Our new blog breaks down why feelings of ostracism happen and gives practical steps to rebuild connection and confidence. Read more: https://wix.to/DvsYcTK

Feeling left out or ostracized by a group can be painful and confusing. You might wonder why you sometimes experience this sense of exclusion, especially in adult networks where you expect to feel connected. This feeling is more common than you think, and understanding it can help you improve your w...

12/02/2026

So I noticed my ears only flare up when I’m overbooked. Turns out psychosomatic symptoms are my bodies way of setting the boundaries I won’t set myself.
Maybe it’s time we listen to ourselves, and our bodies.
Reducing my caseload, taking a holiday and basically living the advice I give!
Anyone else’s body staging interventions? Or just me?

24/01/2026

I love books and find that they appeal to my reflective nature. I value depth, meaning and understanding in life and books offer endless opportunities for all three!

I loved reading Tin-man - Sarah Winman. It’s a novel centred around three people with a deep connection. There is love, loss and grief. But also the effects of class and masculinity and the constraints they place on men expressing love.

Sociopath: A memoir by Patric Gagne. This one is controversial and sparked debate around whether the book sensationalises the condition. Also whether her self diagnosis is accurate, as she is a clinical psychologist. Interesting 🤔

Wintering - Katherine May was bought for me as a present. I’ve dipped in and out and so far enjoying the experience. She talks about periods in her life where she has had to slow down, retreat and endure difficulties.

Ghosts - Morven Eldritch
Whenever I visit a new town I like to find the old vintage bookshops. This one was from a shop in Haworth. It’s a lovely little book for the winter season that I keep by my bed for nights when I need some entertainment and mystery.

Books are so beneficial in self care management and for supporting wellbeing. They are great for stress reduction and also validating at times.

I hope you can enjoy a good book this weekend.

21/01/2026

Grief can shake the foundation of any relationship. When couples face the loss of a parent or another significant bereavement, the emotional strain can lead to misunderstandings, distance, and even marital breakdown. Grief affects mental health deeply, and without awareness and effort, it can cause couples to drift apart, sometimes resulting in break ups, affairs, or divorce. Understanding how grief impacts relationships and learning ways to support each other can help couples stay connected during these difficult times.

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21/01/2026

Long distance relationships (LDRs) challenge couples in unique ways. The physical distance can create emotional hurdles, but it also offers opportunities for growth and deeper connection. Understanding the positives and negatives of these dynamics, along with how attachment styles influence the experience, can help couples navigate the complexities and keep their love alive.

21/01/2026

Loss can be a heavy burden for couples, leading to misunderstandings and distance. Learn how to navigate grief together and prevent disconnection in your relationship. Read more here: https://wix.to/I2PdAyJ

Grief can shake the foundation of any relationship. When couples face the loss of a parent or another significant bereavement, the emotional strain can lead to misunderstandings, distance, and even marital breakdown. Grief affects mental health deeply, and without awareness and effort, it can cause....

21/01/2026

Navigating the complexities of long-distance love? Learn how to create moments of closeness and understand the attachment styles that can affect your relationship. Read more here: https://wix.to/66Gx5PA

Long distance relationships (LDRs) challenge couples in unique ways. The physical distance can create emotional hurdles, but it also offers opportunities for growth and deeper connection. Understanding the positives and negatives of these dynamics, along with how attachment styles influence the expe...

17/01/2026

I don’t use AI much, but when I do it always surprises me. To be fair anyone that knows me will be as shocked as I am about the accuracy of this reflection!

I also had a couple this week that asked me for a copy of the homework and goals we had set from the session notes. Assuming I had used a transcript tool of some kind. (I was a little embarrassed and confused as this something I’ve not offered before) But there are obviously some forward thinking therapists out there that are setting the pace and using AI to do this for them saving time and energy.

So I think I need to get over my avoidance of AI and get myself up to speed! I suppose it has its uses and limitations like anything. Just to point out, I believe the human connection and relationship that therapy offers you will never be replaced by anything non human..

That’s my two pence worth for today. Enjoy your weekend and my window photos!

04/01/2026

January can feel heavy, and not because we’re doing something wrong.
Wintering reminds us that our minds and bodies naturally slow down in winter, even when life expects us to speed up.
Less light, colder days, and the shift back to routine can all affect mental health.
Feeling low, tired, or unmotivated doesn’t mean failure.
It means you’re human, adjusting, and deserving of care.
Let’s normalise softer starts and seasonal compassion