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Manisha Sheth - Baby Loss & Perinatal Counsellor

Counsellor & trainer supporting parents and professionals with baby loss, perinatal mental health, and culturally aligned care.

27/02/2026

🦋 Not every struggling parent feels sad.

Some feel numb.

They’re showing up. Doing what needs to be done. Managing the day.
But inside, something feels muted or distant.

Numbness is often protection.

When stress has been constant, the nervous system can turn the volume down on all feelings, not just the painful ones.

🍂 It’s not a flaw.
🍂 It’s not ingratitude.
🍂 It’s adaptation.

Gentle check-ins matter in this season.
Not to force emotion, just to notice.

Sometimes simply recognising,
“I haven’t been feeling much lately,”
is the beginning of reconnection.

🌿 PS: I’m officially open to new clients again! If you’ve been thinking about working together, this is your sign. DM or head over to www.manishasheth.co.uk to get in touch.

~ Manisha 🦋

26/02/2026

🦋 Trauma-informed care is often talked about in clinical spaces, training rooms, and professional settings.

But in reality, it lives in everyday conversations.

🍂 It’s in how we respond to our children when they’re overwhelmed.
🍂 How we speak to partners during conflict.
🍂 How managers address mistakes.
🍂 How friends hold each other’s stories.

It’s less about using the “right” words and more about holding the right posture. One of curiosity, respect, and nervous-system awareness.

Trauma-informed care assumes that behaviour has a story. That intensity has a reason. That protection often sits underneath what looks like defiance, shutdown, or irritability.

It shifts the focus from correction to connection, and connection is often what makes change possible.

🌿 PS: I’m officially open to new clients again! If you’ve been thinking about working together, this is your sign. DM or head over to www.manishasheth.co.uk to get in touch.

~ Manisha 🦋

22/02/2026

🦋 “Just rest.”

It sounds caring. Logical. Sensible.

But for many trauma-exposed parents, rest isn’t a switch they can simply flip.

When your system has learned to stay alert, scanning, anticipating, preparing, slowing down can actually feel uncomfortable or even unsafe. Stillness can amplify thoughts. Quiet can make your body feel louder. Pausing can bring sensations you’ve spent years managing.

So when someone says “just rest,” it can land as pressure rather than support.

Often what helps isn’t being told to rest, but being supported to feel safe enough for rest to become possible. That might look like:

🌿 small pauses instead of long breaks
🌿 predictable routines
🌿 co-regulation with someone steady
🌿 gentle grounding rather than forced relaxation

When safety grows, rest usually follows.

~ Manisha 🦋

20/02/2026

🦋 Many people who feel the most exhausted are the ones others describe as “strong,” “capable,” or “the one who holds everything together.”

High-functioning can become a role that is often reinforced, praised, and relied upon. Over time, it can feel safer to keep performing that role than to admit how much effort it actually takes to maintain it.

What often sits underneath is this is adaptation. Your nervous system learns that staying ‘useful’, or ‘productive’ keeps things stable. So it keeps doing exactly that, regardless of the internal exhaustion.

🍂 Burnout doesn’t always arrive loudly. For those who are high functioning, it can show up gradually and quietly, hidden inside competence, responsibility, and reliability.

And because everything looks ‘fine’ and maybe even ‘amazing’, needing support is rarely acknowledged.

🌿 If this resonates, it may mean you’ve been coping for a long time in ways that has helped you survive, and those ways might now be asking for care, space, and gentleness too.

~ Manisha 🦋

17/02/2026

🦋 Knowledge can be empowering. It can bring language, clarity, and understanding to experiences that once felt confusing or overwhelming.

But something I often see, both professionally and personally, is how easily knowledge can become pressure.

🍂 The pressure to improve quickly.
🍂 To regulate perfectly.
🍂 To apply what you know without struggle.
🍂 To be “further along” than you are.

Understanding yourself is meaningful, but understanding alone rarely creates change.

Most of us don’t heal through insight alone. We heal through relationship, through being met, through having our experiences witnessed and held with care.

🌿 Even as therapists, even with training, even with years of learning, we are still human. And being human means we still need support too.

~ Manisha 🦋

13/02/2026

🦋 For a long time, saying yes felt like growth.

It helped me stretch, build confidence, and move towards the life I wanted. But eventually I realised something important... What once supported me was no longer sustaining me.

🍂 The shift to saying no wasn’t about rejecting people or opportunities. It was about listening more closely to myself. About recognising the difference between what energises me and what quietly depletes me.

We often talk about boundaries as if they’re simple decisions. In reality, they require awareness, honesty, and compassion with ourselves. Because boundaries aren’t just about what we say yes or no to. They’re about understanding why.

🍂 Sometimes the most powerful change isn’t doing more.
It’s pausing long enough to notice what truly matters.

If this resonates, what’s one thing you’ve gently said no to recently?

~ Manisha 🦋

10/02/2026

🦋 Children’s Mental Health Week is a reminder of something we often forget in the rush to “do it right”.

Children don’t regulate in isolation.
They borrow calm. They borrow safety. They borrow rhythm.

So when your child is dysregulated, overwhelmed, or acting out, it’s not a sign that you’ve failed. It’s a cue to slow the moment down and look at what’s happening around them, not just within them.

🍂 This is especially important for parents carrying stress, trauma, loss, exhaustion, or the invisible load of daily life. Your nervous system has been through a lot too.

🍂 Supporting children’s mental health isn’t about creating perfect emotional environments.
It’s about building enough safety, enough repair, and enough compassion, for them and for you.

🍂 This week, maybe the question isn’t
“How do I fix my child’s behaviour?”
but
“What support does my nervous system need right now?”

If this resonates, you’re not alone... and you don’t have to figure it out on your own either.

~ Manisha 🦋

08/02/2026

🦋 Intimacy often dips after a baby, and not because something is broken in your relationship.

Becoming parents brings broken sleep, physical recovery, hormonal shifts, identity changes, and a nervous system that’s often living in survival mode. When your body is focused on keeping a tiny human alive, desire doesn’t disappear. It simply takes a different shape.

What usually doesn’t help is pressure.
🍂 Not calendar dates.
🍂 Not “we should by now”.
🍂 Not comparing yourselves to who you were before.

What does help is safety.

🌿 Feeling emotionally seen.
🌿 Small moments of closeness without expectation.
🌿 Touch that isn’t a demand.
🌿 Conversations that acknowledge how much has changed.

With Valentine’s Day approaching, it can be easy to feel like intimacy should look a certain way. But real reconnection after baby is often quieter, slower, and built in tiny, human moments.

Intimacy grows best where there’s patience, kindness, and room to breathe. Not pressure.

🌿 If this season feels confusing or distant, support can help you find your way back to connection in a way that fits who you are now, not who you used to be.

~ Manisha 🦋

06/02/2026

🦋 Person-centred counselling isn’t about fixing, directing, or fast-tracking people through their pain.

It’s about trusting that you are the expert on your own experience and that my role is to walk alongside you with care, curiosity, and steadiness.

Especially in perinatal work, identity shifts, and baby loss, people often arrive having already been told how they should feel, how quickly they should move on, or what the focus should be.

This work creates space to slow that down.

🍂 Sometimes that means simply being listened to deeply.
🍂 Sometimes it means gently making sense of what’s happening in the body or mind.
🍂 Always, it means protecting your pace and your autonomy.

The relationship is the work.
Everything else is there to support you, not override you.

🌿 If this resonates with how you’re hoping to be supported, you’re very welcome to reach out.

~ Manisha 🦋

04/02/2026

🦋 There’s often an unspoken pressure to be grateful, capable, coping. To hold the joy and the responsibility without showing the cracks. Over time, many parents learn to edit their inner world before it ever reaches their mouth.

🍂 I hear this so often in my work, not because parents don’t want to talk, but because they’re unsure if there’s space for the whole truth. The tired parts. The resentful parts. The confused, grieving, ambivalent parts.

🍂 Time to Talk Day isn’t about having the perfect words or knowing exactly what you feel. Sometimes it’s simply about allowing a sentence to exist without correcting it, justifying it, or pushing it away.

🍂 If any of these thoughts landed for you, know this:
you’re not alone in them, even if it feels that way.
And if today feels like too much to speak, that’s okay too.

Being gentle with yourself is a form of care.

~ Manisha 🦋

31/01/2026

🦋 For many neurodivergent parents, winter isn’t just colder. It’s more intense.

Less daylight.
More layers, noise, smells, expectations.
Disrupted routines.
Children home more.
Social pressure mixed with exhaustion.

All of this can quietly push your nervous system into overload.

What looks like “low energy,” irritability, or withdrawal is often sensory fatigue. Your system working overtime to cope in a season that offers very little regulation.

If you’re finding winter harder than usual, it might be because your nervous system is responding exactly as it’s designed to.

Small adjustments matter:
🍂 Lowering expectations
🍂 Creating pockets of sensory calm
🍂 Protecting your energy where you can
🍂 Letting “good enough” truly be enough

You don’t need to push through this season the way others seem to. You can move at a pace that feels safer for your body and mind.

🌿 If this resonates, save or share, or remind yourself today that rest is not a failure, it’s care.

29/01/2026

🦋 One of the hardest parts of baby loss is realising that life keeps moving, while your heart is still holding something sacred.

🍂 Friends return to normality.
🍂 Families stop mentioning your baby.
🍂 The world expects you to be “okay” again.

But grief isn’t something you finish.
It’s something you learn to carry.

Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you loved deeply.

If this season feels especially isolating, please know you don’t have to hold it alone. There are spaces where your baby is remembered, your grief is respected, and your pace is honoured.

🌿 If this resonates, you’re welcome to share or save, or simply let it sit with you today.

~ Manisha 🦋

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