Manisha Sheth - Baby Loss & Perinatal Counsellor, Nottingham (2026)

14/01/2026

🦋 A lot of the anxiety I see in parents today didn’t exist in the same way before social media.

We’re now surrounded by attachment theory, trauma language, and “what not to do” posts, often without the context that makes them safe or helpful.

So parents end up:

🍂 reading one post
🍂 applying it to themselves in isolation
🍂 and worrying they’re doing lasting damage

Instead of trusting their relationship with their child.

🌿 Attachment research doesn’t ask for perfection.

It asks for good enough.
About 30% of the time.
With space for rupture and repair.

🌿 Learning about psychology can be powerful, but only when it’s held with context, compassion, and curiosity, not fear.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by everything you think you’re supposed to do as a parent… you’re not failing. You’re overloaded.

🦋 What’s one parenting “rule” you’ve seen online that made you doubt yourself?

11/01/2026

Returning to work after maternity or paternity leave is often talked about in practical terms.

Childcare.
Routines.
Logistics.
Drop-offs and pick-ups.

But the invisible emotional labour rarely gets named.

You’re holding separation, guilt, relief, grief, pressure, responsibility, and love, all at the same time.

You might be:

🍂 missing your baby while trying to focus
🍂 questioning your identity, parent vs professional
🍂 feeling pressure to “prove yourself” again
🍂 carrying mental load across two worlds
🍂 navigating exhaustion while pretending you’re fine

None of this means you’re not coping.

It means you’re adjusting to a major psychological shift.

For many parents, this transition also reactivates old beliefs, about worth, productivity, and being “good enough,” especially in systems that don’t slow down for life changes.

You don’t have to minimise how hard this feels.

Support during this phase isn’t a luxury. It’s protective.

🌿 If returning to work has left you feeling stretched, disconnected, or overwhelmed, you don’t have to carry it alone. Reach out if you’d like support.

~ Manisha 🦋

09/01/2026

🦋 The new year often brings pressure to look ahead, set intentions, and “move on.”

🍂 For couples who have experienced baby loss, this can quietly reopen grief, even if you didn’t expect it to.

🍂 January can stir questions about who your baby would be now, where you thought life would be, and how different your paths through grief feel as a couple.

🍂 It’s common for partners to grieve in different ways and at different paces. When those differences aren’t understood, grief can feel isolating, even within the relationship.

Nothing about this means you’re failing each other.

It means you’re navigating loss in a world that doesn’t slow down enough to hold it.

If the new year has brought up distance, tension, or unspoken grief between you and your partner, support can help create space to understand what’s happening beneath the surface, gently, at your own pace.

🌿 You don’t have to carry this season alone. Reach out if you’d like support.

~ Manisha 🦋

06/01/2026

🦋 So many parents tell me they feel like they “should” be starting the year stronger, calmer, more organised, or more motivated.

But for many, January arrives after months of exhaustion, emotional load, grief, change, or survival mode.

🍂 Resolutions can feel like pressure. Another standard to live up to.

Tiny intentions invite something different:

🌿 slowness instead of urgency
🌿 compassion instead of self-criticism
🌿 steadiness instead of self-improvement

You don’t have to transform yourself this year.

You are allowed to move gently, at your own pace, with the nervous system you have, not the one you wish you had.

🍂 If you’re entering the new year feeling tired, numb, overwhelmed or disconnected, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to navigate it by yourself.

🍂 If support feels like something you might need this year, you’re welcome to reach out. I’m here when you’re ready.

~ Manisha 🦋

04/01/2026

🦋 January can feel like a crash after the holidays, especially for new parents.

Through December, many people move through family expectations, disrupted sleep, overstimulation, travel, social plans, grief triggers, and emotional pressure to “make it special.”

Your body often goes into survival mode to get through it.

Then January arrives.

🍂 The pace slows.
🍂 The noise drops.
🍂 The expectations ease…

…and your nervous system finally has space to feel everything you’ve been carrying.

For many new parents, this can show up as emotional heaviness or numbness, exhaustion that feels bone-deep, tension in your relationship, and a sense of “I should be coping better than this.”

Nothing is wrong with you.

This is what happens when your body and mind move out of survival mode. The feelings don’t disappear, they just arrive a little later.

Gentle ways to support yourself this month:

🌿 lower the bar and soften expectations
🌿 build in quiet recovery time where you can
🌿 reconnect with rhythm, rest and warmth
🌿 talk about how you’re really feeling, not how you think you “should” feel

You don’t have to push through January on empty.

If this season feels heavy or you’re finding it hard to adjust after the holidays, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I support parents and couples through these transitions. Reach out if you’d like support.

~ Manisha 🦋

31/12/2025

🦋 2025 has been a year of change and clarity, both professionally and personally.

🍂 I returned to the NHS in a role that circled back to a goal I let go of nearly 10 years ago: working in perinatal mental health. I also started my counselling private practice, and I’ve learnt to create healthier boundaries and say “no” when I don’t have the capacity.

But the biggest shift has been internal.

🍂 I’ve realised that my worth isn’t tied to my professional achievements, and the freedom that’s come with that insight has been immense.

🍂 There have also been big personal changes. Following surgery, my body finally burnt out and I had no choice but to slow down. It’s been uncomfortable at times… but also clarifying.

As I walk into 2026, I’m doing so with a different perspective:

🌿 Notice the signs of burnout before you’re forced to stop
🌿 Move at a pace that truly works for you
🌿 Appreciate the small, quiet parts of life, not just the milestones

Wishing you a gentle, compassionate start to the new year.

~ Manisha 🦋

28/12/2025

🦋 Sometimes the most powerful resolution isn’t about doing more.
It’s about releasing what has been weighing you down.

The emotional burdens many people carry into a new year aren’t always obvious. They often sound like:

🍂 “I should be coping better by now.”
🍂 “I don’t want to disappoint anyone.”
🍂 “I’ll rest when things calm down.”
🍂 “I don’t want to talk about it, it’s fine.”

But your body keeps the score.

Fatigue, irritability, distance in relationships, loss of motivation, tension, shutdown... These are often signals of emotional overload, not personal failure.

As you move into the new year, consider gently letting go of:

🌿 unrealistic expectations you’ve placed on yourself
🌿 guilt for needing rest, space or support
🌿 people-pleasing at the cost of your wellbeing
🌿 carrying everyone else’s emotions but your own
🌿 self-criticism that keeps you stuck rather than supported

Letting go isn’t about forgetting or minimising what happened.

It’s about freeing up emotional capacity so you can move forward lighter, steadier, and more connected to yourself.

🌿 If you’re carrying more than you can hold right now, you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out if you’d like support as you move into the new year.

~ Manisha 🦋

25/12/2025

🦋 Your first Christmas as a parent is often painted as joyful, cosy, and full of magic.

For many new parents I work with, the reality can feel very different.

🍂 You’re exhausted. Your relationship is changing. The day feels busy, loud, and emotional... and you’re trying to hold it all together while wondering why you’re not feeling what you thought you “should.”

Nothing is wrong with you.

🍂 Becoming a parent is a huge psychological shift. It’s normal to feel pulled between love, responsibility, loss of freedom, and pressure to “be okay” for everyone else.

🍂 And for parents navigating this season after baby loss, the emotions can be even more complex. Grief, longing, love, and remembrance all finding their place in a world that keeps moving forward.

Sometimes the most meaningful thing you can do today is lower the bar, slow down, and notice the small moments that are real, even if they don’t look magical on the outside.

🍂 If this season feels heavy, or you’re finding it hard to adjust to life after becoming a parent, or life after loss, you don’t have to work through it on your own. I support couples through these transitions, especially when things feel overloaded, disconnected, or stuck.

Reach out if you’d like support in the new year. I’m here when you’re ready.

~ Manisha 🦋

23/12/2025

🦋 Winter often asks couples to slow down, whether they want to or not.

Less light. Less energy. More emotional load. More togetherness... but not always more connection.

🍂 Many couples I work with tell me they feel distant in winter, then judge themselves for it. But disconnection isn’t failure. It’s often a sign that your nervous systems are tired.

🍂 Connection doesn’t need to be loud or romantic right now.
It can be quiet, repetitive, and very human.

🍂 Tiny rituals like shared tea, intentional touch and brief check-ins help your bodies remember that you’re on the same side, even when life feels heavy.

If winter has created more distance than closeness between you, you don’t have to navigate that alone. Support can help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface and gently find your way back to each other.

🌿 Which of these rituals feels most doable for you right now?

~ Manisha 🦋

21/12/2025

🦋 “We’re not the same couple we were last Christmas.”

And that can feel unsettling, especially when the season carries so many expectations of closeness, joy, and togetherness.

A year can change a lot.

Pregnancy. Birth. Loss. Sleep deprivation. Grief. New roles. New responsibilities.
Even beautiful changes can quietly stretch a relationship in ways no one prepares you for.

You might notice:
🍂 Less energy for each other
🍂 More practical conversations than emotional ones
🍂 Different needs, rhythms, or ways of coping
🍂 A sense of distance that feels confusing or worrying

This doesn’t mean something is wrong with your relationship.
It means you’re adapting.

Relationships aren’t static. They move through seasons just like we do. Winter often invites slowing down, reassessing, and letting go of who we were so we can meet who we are now.

🌿 Instead of asking, “Why aren’t we the same?”
Try asking, “Who are we becoming, and how can we meet each other here?”

🌿 Gentle check-in for today:
What does your relationship need this winter, not last year’s version?

You’re not behind.
You’re adjusting.

🌿 If this resonates, I want you to know I’m now trained as a couples counsellor, supporting partners through the emotional, relational, and identity shifts that come with parenthood, loss, and life transitions.

🌿 Consider this a gentle invitation to get support, whether that’s a conversation, counselling, or simply not carrying it alone anymore.

You deserve care too.

~ Manisha 🦋

18/12/2025

🦋 Festive gatherings after having a baby can bring mixed emotions... connection, pressure, guilt, joy, overwhelm, sometimes all at once.

As new parents, you’re not just adjusting to a baby.
You’re adjusting to new identities, new limits, and a nervous system that’s already doing a lot.

🍂 It’s okay if this year looks quieter.
🍂 It’s okay if your boundaries are firmer.
🍂 It’s okay if you listen to your body and your baby more than expectations.

You don’t have to perform gratitude, strength, or togetherness.
You’re allowed to move at the pace this season requires of you.

If you’re navigating this transition and need support holding boundaries, managing family dynamics, or making sense of the emotional load, you don’t have to do it alone.

🌿 What feels hardest about festive gatherings this year, and what would help soften it just a little?

Save this for when the invitations start rolling in.

~ Manisha 🦋

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16/12/2025

🦋 I went to a crochet workshop recently, and it surprised me how regulating it felt.

The steady rhythm.
Using my hands.
Focusing on something small and tangible.

🍂It wasn’t about creating something perfect. It was about giving my nervous system a break from constant thinking, scanning, and holding everything together.

Anxiety doesn’t always need fixing or analysing. Sometimes it needs grounding. Sometimes it needs something simple, rhythmic, and gentle enough to remind your body that it’s safe to slow down.

If you’re feeling on edge lately, it might help to ask:

🌿 What’s one small, soothing thing my hands could do today?

No pressure. No productivity. Just care.

~ Manisha 🦋

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