09/10/2025
Every thought you have begins with a question. And those questions create the focus of your life. This is why the quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself.
For example, if you constantly ask, “Why do bad things always happen to me?” your mind will look for evidence that supports that belief. You’ll notice negativity and feel powerless. But if you shift the question to, “What can I learn from this?” or “How can I take back control in this situation?” you instantly create a new mindset—one that leads to positive change.
In therapy, asking better questions is a cornerstone of growth. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, we focus on what’s possible. Instead of “Why am I broken?” we ask, “What strengths do I already have that I can build on?” This shift doesn’t just change your thoughts—it changes your emotions, your choices, and ultimately your life.
When you start to notice the questions you ask yourself, you give yourself the power to rewrite your internal dialogue. With practice, those new questions can lead you toward healing, resilience, and a better quality of life.