Fiona Murphy - Fed Up to Fabulous

20/08/2025

13/09/2024

Had a lovely lunch on Thursday - all the food including the Spanish tortilla was amazing 🤩

18/08/2024

Anyone else been struck down with the most recent bug/Covid going around?🤔

I have pretty much been in bed since Friday with it and still feel rubbish. 🤧

Does anyone test for Covid anymore? 🤔

Does anyone care? 🤷‍♀️

Most importantly does anyone have any top tips of what to do/take to make it better? 🤔

*I have been taking paracetamol and drinking loads

15/08/2024

Yesterday I spoke to Sarah. 😊

Sarah is a client that first came to see me during lockdown.

I haven’t spoken about Sarah before - I’m not sure why 🤔

Sarah, as a woman in menopause who can’t take HRT, was confused, frustrated, annoyed, anxious, stressed, demotivated to name a few of the ever changing feelings she was experiencing. 😬

Sarah had been to see her doctors - for various good medical reasons HRT was not option for her. 😕

Sarah asked what else she could do to help support her through any symptoms she was experiencing and other ways manage her health and wellbeing in the future. 🤷‍♀️

Sarah was told there wasn’t anything she could do other than make some generic lifestyle changes. 😕

Sarah started to do her own research and got more confused and overwhelmed with the many conflicting opinions she was reading and was no nearer finding anyway of helping herself. 😬

Sarah was talking about this to someone else that had been a client of mine and she suggested that Sarah should have a chat with me.

During our first conversation we covered familiar subjects - the symptoms she was experiencing, the misleading & conflicting information that she had heard/seen/read, I heard the frustration and desperation she was feeling.

I also heard how she felt abandoned, not listened to and dismissed by healthcare professionals who were offering her no alternatives or support.

I also heard how she was prepared to help herself and make the changes and do the work she needed to help herself feel ‘normal’ again, so her thoughts and days weren’t being consumed with feeling deflated, invisible and ignored.

It’s a familiar conversation that I have with every client I speak to.

When HRT isn’t an option and they don’t fit the tick box of options that their healthcare professionals have they are left with no options.

That’s where I was a few years ago.

I worked through the different issues and researched the options - it changed everything for me. 😊

That’s how I put together the process that I talked through with Sarah.

Sarah’s journey is individual to her and she needed an individual solution.

That is what we worked through together and it changed everything for her. 😊

Sarah had a very successful career and had her own business but was feeling like it was slipping away - instead she is still very successful and living her best life.

Why was I talking to her? 🤔

Sarah was referring another of her friends to me 😊

If you would like to talk to me about how I can help you message me. 😊

12/08/2024

What time do you get up? ⏰

I get up at 7am - even at weekends.

I would never have said that I’m a morning person as a student I loved a lie in! 😁

By then I had spent years getting up a 5am to be in the swimming pool training at 5.30am as I was a competitive synchronised swimmer.

Then after university when I started work I got my first dog - which meant early morning walks before work.

Then I moved to the countryside and got my horses as well as dogs which meant back to 6am starts to be ready for work.

So now after years of early mornings 7am seems like a lie in! 😁

I still have a dog so I still have a routine - first thing is a dog walk - in all weathers! - and while I’m walking I plan my day and get ready mentally for the day ahead.

Once I’m home it’s time to get ready for work and the long commute to my desk - armed with a large mug of coffee. ☕️

That’s it - that’s how I start my morning and get ready for my day.

How about you?

How does your day start?

*photo of the squirrel hunter…..😁

07/08/2024

Three times this week….🤩

Three times I have been contacted by journalists to contribute towards articles about menopause. 🙌

They are all about menopause BUT they know I only talk about going through menopause without using HRT/hormones.

It’s great to be asked for input - the default setting in menopause articles is all about taking HRT and very little information or suggestions if you are one of the approximately 80% of women who can’t or don’t want to take it.

I have been chipping away and talking about other options for those women and some people are listening! 👏👏👏

Obviously there is a way to go before these articles are published but being contacted to talk about other options is a milestone. 😁

I was also quoted in another article that was published this week - so another milestone that needs celebrating.

It feels good to see progress. 😁

06/08/2024

Every day is a school day….

My clients are women in menopause who can’t/don’t take HRT (that’s around 80% of them!) but are looking to help themselves with the physical, mental and emotional challenges so they can love their lives again. 😍

I do love what I do - that’s not just seeing the huge changes and transformations that my clients experience it’s also the ‘behind the scenes’ stuff.

I spend huge amounts of time researching, reading up to date information, attending masterclasses and ongoing education in the different areas and techniques that I use.

Right now I am putting together resources and support for my clients to help them physically, emotionally and mentally through the differents areas of menopause.

I am really excited for it all to be ready and available for my clients so that they can have access to it 24/7 so the have the support and even the answers when they want it/need it.

Of course it won’t replace the 1:1 or group sessions rather it is there to fill any gaps.

It won’t be complete when it is launched as it will keep being added to - with new information, updates as and when they happen as well as videos of master classes & webinars in specific subjects and the guest expert sessions.

I’ll be launching next month - September - and there will be a special introductory offer - so make sure that you comment below to get the details.

05/08/2024

What is one of the ‘side effects’ of menopause that no one talks about?

It’s actually a really important one and one which has a massive impact on not just the woman’s life but also her relationship.

It’s s*xual libido, s*x life, intimacy…..

There are lots of ways of saying it - it’s all the same.

It comes up with every single client I have - it’s normally starts somewhere down the bottom of the list that they want help with.

Until we really start to talk about it and they register the impact that their apparent loss of s*x drive is having in their life both physically, mentally and emotionally and just how important it really is to them - and it goes to the top of the list!

Don’t be shy - it matters - to you and you partner.

It may feel like it’s just you, no one else has felt like you do - you are not alone I have found many women just like you.

Here is a link to recent article talking about s*x in menopause that I was asked to contribute to - I hope you find it interesting.

What middle-aged women are never warned about is the impact of menopause on their s*x lives.

02/08/2024

Just over seven years ago I started my first hypnotherapy training.

It was a scary commitment of both time and money.

It felt like it was the right decision for me.

It was a big commitment - both in money and time but one that after much research I was ready to make in myself and my future.

It has turned out to be one of the best decisions that I have made. 😊

So I started the training - and I was like a sponge learning all the techniques and processes - it was absorbing and fascinating learning how our minds work - as well as how totally transformative Hypnotherapy can be.

Without taking that training 7 years ago my life would look very different from how it looks today.

If I hadn’t done that training I may very well have been lured back into a corporate role again and all that goes with it.

Instead I have started to create the life that I want doing something that I love and find endlessly fulfilling helping so many women feel good about themselves and their lives.

It has been an interesting journey so far - there have been a few twists and turns - let’s throw a global pandemic into the mix! 🤦‍♀️ - to end up where I am today.

It was on this journey that I found my ‘thing’.

There was a pattern appearing amongst my clients - they were mainly women over 40 who were approaching or in menopause but for whatever reason can’t or don’t want to take HRT but were still looking for ways to manage their physical, emotional and mental health.

Thanks to my previous experience working in women’s health for 25 years as well as being a woman who can not take HRT it is an area I have done a lot of research and work in and still do.

Now I have a way to share this knowledge and experience with other women who are in the same place.

My clients turn up feeling ignored, dismissed and/or frustrated by conventional healthcare and maybe experiencing any of the many challenges of menopause which are impacting their lives hugely - both professionally and personally.

Their changes are transformative which means that they see huge improvements in so many areas of their life including mind fog, poor sleep, self confidence, self esteem, libido….all of which means that they see and feel huge improvements in all areas of their lives - again both professionally and personally.

I help them move from Fed Up to Fabulous. 🤩

My journey from Fed Up to Fabuloys started just over 7 years ago - and it has been so worth it. 🤩😁

01/08/2024

Hi I’m Fiona 👋

Let me introduce myself.

I’m older than I look - from a distance! 😉

I’m a great listener, problem solver and networker.

I’m in recovery from working in corporate roles - it takes longer than you think!🤦‍♀️

I live in a small market town in rural England - I grew up in London and then went to University in Birmingham and lived and worked there.

I finally had enough of city living and as I had a job where I could WFH (years before it was a ‘thing’) I relocated to the countryside.

I was in a relentless cycle of mergers/restructuring/ consultations for redundancy in my roles in pharmaceutical companies. 😬

I finally took redundancy and quit as I had found what I wanted to do.

I retrained as a hypnotherapist and added to my coaching skills so that I could help people in a positive way.

Over the last 7 years I have helped many people with many different issues, however there was a running theme amongst the clients contacting me for help.

That is how I found my ‘thing’. 😊

That is helping women through menopause who can’t or don’t take HRT.

This is also me.

I can totally relate to their journey and the frustrations and overwhelm they experience.

What they need is help and support with the physical, mental and emotional issues they experience.

What they often get from conventional/traditional healthcare professionals is nothing. 😕

Everyday I get to help these women regain balance in their life which means that…

❤️ they feel better - physically, emotionally & mentally
❤️their confidence & self esteem soars
❤️they regain control in their work life
and
❤️their relationships improve

That’s me. 😊

18/07/2024

Why I am not just ‘another menopause’ coach….

I get it - it’s one of the hot topics of the moment with countless celebrities talking about it - and promoting their book…😉

It’s great that it is being talked about more - however the focus of all this publicity is hormone replacement therapy (HRT).

What this doesn’t do is help the 80% of women who can’t or don’t want to take HRT or have taken in but it’s not been the silver bullet that they thought it would be.

If you are one of the 80% that conventional medicine isn’t helping - alternatives routinely offered are antidepressants and sleeping tablets - what to do next can be confusing and overwhelming.

Menopause is physical, mental and emotional - and there is no one tablet that can help with that.

For those is us in that 80% we still want and need alternatives that make us feel ‘normal’ again, that will help live our best lives - not to just be dismissed and told to live with it.

I help by helping you tackle the issues that are impacting your life the most - physical, mental and emotional.

There are other things that you can do to alleviate the physical aches & pains and weight gain.

There are other things you can do to calm the stress and anxiety, help with your depression or poor sleep, reduce your mind fog so you feel like you function again at work.

There are most certainly things that you can do to improve your emotional wellbeing - get your relationship back on track and boost your libido.

Boost your self confidence and self esteem and get the ‘old’ you back - she is only hidden not gone forever.

You are not alone 😊