21/01/2026
As a psychotherapist, I often remind people that modeling vulnerability is not a weakness but a deeply human strength. None of us truly “have it all together,” and when we present ourselves as if we do, we unintentionally reinforce shame, comparison, and unrealistic expectations, both for ourselves and for others. I’ve felt this personally in my recent struggle with social media.
The unspoken pressure to be consistent, visible, and “on” because of the belief that all small businesses must maintain an online presence. Coming to accept that it’s okay to be as active or inactive as I genuinely have the capacity for was profoundly freeing. In that moment of acceptance, I noticed a tangible release of tension, physically in my body and psychologically in my mind which became a turning point for me.
It reminded, reaffirmed and consolidated something essential to my wellbeing.
We each have the right to choose when, where, and how we show up, whether in physical spaces or virtual ones. Honoring that autonomy is not only an act of self-compassion, but also a powerful way to model permission for others to do the same.
I invite you to gently reflect.
Where in your own life might you be holding yourself to expectations that no longer serve you, and what could shift if you gave yourself permission to reframe them with more compassion?
