Lottie Passell-Syms

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Lottie Passell-Syms

All in a safe, secure and confidential environment. As well as s*xual abuse, addiction, infidelity and childhood trauma.

I offer a bespoke therapy tailored to each individual and couple, assisting them to explore areas of concern; communication, intimacy issues, s*xual difficulties and other relationship problems. About Me
I have experience working across a broad variety of issues and difficulties that include: relationship difficulties, stress, anxiety and depression, s*x and intimacy issues, s*xual dysfunction in both men and women, low self esteem, specific age and stage related issues. I have a vast array of tools, techniques and templates for all manner of issues, that have proven to be incredibly beneficial in repairing and healing the lives of those I have worked with. How I Work

I am here to work through your goals whether that is to increase passion and pleasure in your relationship, communicate openly with ease or reconnect with yourself and partner. Of course, at its heart, therapy is about forming a relationship, working with a person you can both trust and build a rapport which is vital. I would also say it is probably the most important element of successful therapy. I describe myself as a progressive therapist who generates change. The focus will be coming out of crisis to develop a new contract which will allow for a healthier happier relationship. Individual and couples therapies are available by appointment, as well as via FaceTime and Zoom. As a member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) I adhere to their Code of Ethics and practice guidelines.

15/09/2025

My FREE monthly workshop for couples is Wednesday 24th September at 8pm and this month's topic is:

"Relationship MOT"

After a summer of travel, childcare, interrupted sleep, and not enough time or s3x many couples are left asking:

- Where did the time go?
- How do we find our way back to each other?
- Where is the spark?

These are not couples in crisis. The love is still there but something feels flat.

Join me on my next live Wednesday 24th September at 8pm where will talk about how to give your relationship and MOT and find connection again.

HOW TO ATTEND:
If you're on my mailing list and you will be sent the link. Otherwise you can head over to my private Facebook Group: S3x, Intimacy and Relationship Workshop join from there.

Please like, share and tag anyone who you feel would benefit from this FREE Live Workshop.

NOTE: This is for Couples, however Therapists are more than welcome to join and learn for personal or professional reasons.

Lottie x
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12/09/2025

If these sound familiar, your boundaries might need attention:

1. Answering work emails at 10pm, even on weekends.
2. Taking a time off but feeling guilty the whole time.
3. Asking for space but apologising for it.
4. Saying, “I’m not available for that conversation”, but only in your head.
5. Hesitating to unfollow, unfriend, or block someone who drains you.

Book Your First Session
Take the first step toward a healthier, more connected relationship today - book a FREE 15 min consultation with me.

https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/book-online

Lottie x
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10/09/2025

Most people think boundaries push partners away. In reality, they’re the very thing that keeps love alive.

For years, “no” wasn’t in my vocabulary, not with my parents, my boss, my friends, or my partner.

I thought saying yes made me kind, but all it really did was leave me resentful, exhausted, and invisible.

If you’ve been feeling overextended, taken for granted, or quietly simmering with frustration in your relationship, it might be a boundaries issue, even if you’ve never called it that.

Boundaries Aren’t Barriers. They’re How Love Grows: Learn how saying "no" with love can deepen trust, respect, and connection in your relationship.

Lottie x
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08/09/2025

Remember intimacy doesn’t need big gestures.

A whispered “How are you? What do you need from me?” can feel more powerful than a date night.

It’s about those small moments where you both remember: we’re not just housemates, we’re lovers too.

Lottie x
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03/09/2025

Boundaries Aren’t Barriers. They’re How Love Grows: Learn how saying "no" with love can deepen trust, respect, and connection in your relationship.

Read my blog post on 'Saying "No" can save your Relationships' which includes:

- Why boundaries matter in love
- Signs your boundaries are missing
- The cost of avoiding boundaries
- One phrase that changes everything

Please follow the link below ...

https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/post/boundaries-in-relationships

Lottie x
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01/09/2025

The colours are bursting, the air is warm, and the hedgerows are heavy with ripe, lush blackberries.

Nature doesn’t hesitate - it grows, blooms and bears fruit regardless of last season’s storms.

What about you?

Where in your life or relationship are you holding back from your own growth?

What parts of you are ready to ripen and be savoured?

Lottie x
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29/08/2025

Just like the seasons, we all respond differently to the weather:

For some, the Summer heat brings playfulness, confidence, and more skin on show.
For others, Winter can feel more inviting for intimacy, cuddles under blankets, warm drinks, cold feet pressed together with a laugh.

Reflection for you both:
How does the energy of the weather affect your connection?

Lottie x
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27/08/2025

The key to more s3x in your relationship is to REBUILD INTIMACY.

Every relationship goes through s3xless seasons but a lack of physical intimacy doesn’t have to mean the end - it’s an opportunity to strengthen the emotional foundation and build a connection that lasts:

- Come out of the Power Struggle
- Give yourself healing time
- Be aware you are being triggered in this relationship
- Look at seeking help to feel the real deal of harmony

Start your steps towards a better connection today ...

Lottie x
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25/08/2025

Sometimes it’s hard to share or explain what we truly need but real communication can create the connection and closeness you’re both seeking.

Show up for each other, fully.

Don’t let your relationship go from strangers to lovers and back to strangers again. You have a shared history, good times, and the potential to build something even stronger.

Start creating your road map today.

Lottie x
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22/08/2025

Predictability in a relationship can both strengthen and challenge relationships.

Predictable habits in your relationship can provide a sense of safety and stability: small, consistent actions (like morning coffee together or a goodnight kiss).

These build trust and fosters emotional security.

But while predictability can be comforting, it may also lead to complacency or boredom over time. When habits become mechanical, they can lose their meaning and reduce opportunities for genuine connection.

Injecting spontaneity and mindfulness into routines keeps the relationship vibrant.

I invite you to reflect on your own habits and make intentional adjustments for connection, growth, and intimacy.

Lottie x
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20/08/2025

My newsletter will be reaching inboxes this Sunday, so if you aren't already on my mailing list, please follow the link below and join my juicy monthly newsletter today ..

Each month I cover:

- My latest news
- Invitation to my next FREE Live Workshop on S3x, Intimacy & Relationships
- Blog post on a hot topic
- Upcoming events / offers
- Relationship tips and opinions

You do not want to miss this .. just follow the NEWSLETTER SIGN UP link below.

https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/monthly-newsletter

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