Kairos Counselling

30/10/2025

30/10/2025

29/10/2025

Ever heard of TRE (Tension/Trauma Release Exercises)? This is a method based on our natural instincts to shake off tension and help calm our nervous system response to come back into balance. Once learned, it’s a skill that can be used throughout the rest of your life.

Debbie Miller is a fantastic practitioner in this discipline and she’s offering online sessions, either 1:1 or in a group. Having worked with her myself I can absolutely recommend her with confidence.
If you’re curious to know more, get in touch with her to find out how TRE might help you.

Join a group to learn TRE and begin your at home practice. Learn about your nervous system and recognising when you are dysregulated and activated. Learn how to access your body's innate tremor mechanism to turn off the fight/flight/freeze response and gently release tension and trauma from the body...

29/10/2025

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Doing "the work" in a relationship doesn't mean fixing your partner or managing their emotions. And it definitely doesn't mean losing yourself in the process. ⬇️

We're told relationships take effort. And they do…the kind that starts with your own self-awareness and emotional responsibility.

Real growth in a relationship begins with personal accountability. It looks like regulating your own nervous system, communicating your needs clearly, and taking responsibility for your own happiness and healing.

What it doesn't mean is becoming your partner's therapist. Or suppressing your needs to avoid conflict. Or taking on their unresolved trauma as your project to solve.

When you focus on your own growth instead of trying to change someone else, you stop waiting for permission to feel secure in your own relationship. ❤️

28/10/2025

Everyone has their own opinion, but the most important opinion of all is your own. Consider that it’s not only an opinion; it’s grounded in your life experience, intuition, and values. Always check in with yourself.

Drop a 💛 if you agree.

28/10/2025

You are looking for a sign — something that is very clear, very loud, and very impossible to deny. Call it a message from the universe, or a word from someone else, or a miracle that confirms what your intuition has been slowly but surely telling you all along. But the truth is, the silence you are engulfed in, the anxiety that is waking you up at 3 a.m., the fatigue that is so pervasive you cannot get rid of it no matter how much you sleep — that is the sign. The sign that your body and spirit are really asking you to stop putting up with it. It’s not that a sign is nonexistent that keeps you in this situation. It's your unwillingness to recognize the already very loud ones that are coming through your discomfort.

Once in a while, life does not give you a definite answer since you subconsciously already know. You are not lost — you are simply avoiding the pain that is associated with the truth. However, if you keep ignoring it, you will only suffer longer. Trust the discomfort. Trust the restlessness. Trust the way your soul retreats in certain situations. The signs are there. They might not appear the way you imagined, but they are directing you exactly to where you need to be: away from what depletes you and into what rejuvenates you.

— Balt

28/10/2025

Your comfort zone isn’t really comfortable.

It just feels familiar. It only feels safe because it’s known.

But staying there quietly steals pieces of you.

Familiarity can keep you small, disguised as safety.

You don’t grow by keeping things easy.
You grow by trusting that what feels uncomfortable is simply the beginning of becoming who you’re meant to be.

Change is scary, yes, but so is never finding out who you could become.

-Loaa