10/12/2021
The festive season can feel stressful.
Getting jobs done on time whilst staying cheerful is a challenge.
So, we come bearing good news to help master your mood.
In the words of eminent neuroscientist, Lisa Feldman Barrett, you can ‘be the architect of your experience’…even at festive family gatherings!
Expectations are powerful….but if they aren’t helping you, remember it’s possible to alter them.
Here are our suggestions for what to do when you feel pressure building.
(1) PAUSE – take a breath and aim to untangle the components of your present moment experience. Can you notice the difference between these three aspects:
• Your situation – what are the facts about what’s going on around you? (I’m stuck in traffic, late and still have jobs to do)
• Your bodily sensations – what’s happening throughout your body. Observe with a non-judgemental curiosity (my stomach is gripping, or my breathing has become shallow)
• Your mental functions – what meaning are you attaching to the situation and the sensations you are feeling? (I hate this, or so and so, is no good)
Once you have a handle on the crafty ways that thoughts, bodily sensations and situations are woven together into what seems like a single experience you have an in-road into changing things. Time for the next step.
(2) ASK – How could I feel differently about things?
Check out our previous post on the top five ways to influence your physiology.
By creating a gap between ‘noticing’ your experience and ‘reacting’ to situations you have the chance to avoid triggering knee-jerk emotions.
This reveals new possibilities for thinking differently and acting differently.
Above all, remember to be easy on yourself