11/10/2025
The Chaplaincy Services at both our sites, play such an important part in supporting families when during pregnancy, birth and beyond.
The team knows that there can be few more momentous occasions in the life of parents than the news that they are going to have a baby. For many it is a thrilling, exciting time: parents can begin to look forward to a hoped-for child; a baby to love and cherish. For others the emotions may be more mixed: the prospect of a new baby can be unexpected, the responsibility daunting.
Whatever the initial emotions, the death of a baby, either during pregnancy or soon after is an overwhelming, devastating event. Where there was once hope and expectation, there is now deep disappointment and grievous loss.
One of the roles of hospital chaplaincy is to meet with parents and families during these difficult moments and to share with them the rawness of their grief and sadness. Many parents, in the hours after their baby's birth find it helpful to have a service of naming and blessing. This is an occasion which reassures them that their baby has infinite worth, and that they will always be remembered and loved.
During Baby Loss Awareness week, we are reminded of these emotions and experiences of so many parents are often hidden and unexpressed over the coming months and years. Our Chaplaincy Teams seek to never miss an intake of breath, a drop of the head or a tiny tear. To listen so intently that not one hushed but important word is missed and to be dedicated to absorbing distress and pain that the couple may be steered and focused into quieter waters where they may find peace. To enable the incomprehensible to be accepted as it is, to translate doctor, midwife or nurse into a language we both are able to speak and so act upon.
If the parents wish, then we can steer them through those painful decisions surrounding the funeral that our hospital can provide and lead them in that final loving act on the day. It never stops there. Many of those parents, those families, become part of chaplaincy life. Visits to us to see their child named in our Book of Remembrance, to talk about their time and their experience matter to us and them. Everyone is a family etched into who we chaplains are and what we do.
Together, we care.