Naomi Light

❤️‍🩹 Should I stay or should I go?
🌪️ Relationship crisis
👇🏼 Evidence-based resources

20/11/2025

What actually separates couples who stay deeply connected… from those who slowly fall apart?
Psychologist John Gottman discovered a simple but powerful predictor: the 5:1 ratio.

For every one moment of tension, criticism, or conflict… thriving couples have at least five positive interactions—a warm touch, a shared laugh, genuine appreciation, or small moments of care.

Think of your relationship like a piggy bank of emotional connection.
The more positivity you intentionally deposit, the stronger you’ll feel when conflict shows up.

You don’t need perfection.
You just need a relationship where the good massively outweighs the hard.

If you’re rebuilding connection, healing after distance, or navigating conflict with more safety—start here.
One positive moment at a time. 💛

John Gottman | relationship therapist | couples therapy london | relationship limbo | should I stay or go

18/11/2025

Most people think the solution to relationship problems starts with talking.

But the truth?

Talking doesn’t work when your nervous system is in threat mode.

A simple 20-second hug can calm your body faster than hours of discussing, analyzing, or arguing.

Safety first. Solutions second.

If you want more practical, science-based tools like this, I’m teaching them live in my free webinar.

Comment CALM and I’ll send you the registration link.

couples therapist london | stuck in relationship | stay or go | chronic ambivalence | marriage therapist

17/11/2025

Most arguments are won or lost in the first 30 seconds.
If you want calmer conversations, deeper understanding, and fewer blow-ups, learning how to open a hard conversation is the real game-changer.

I’m teaching the framework inside my free live training, When Talking Makes It Worse.
Comment CALM and I’ll send you the link. 💛

couples therapy | couples therapist | stuck in relationship | stay or go | marriage tips

16/11/2025

When things get heated, do you ever reach for the nuclear button — “Maybe we should just break up”?

It’s a moment of panic. 🫨 But it chips away at the safety that keeps love alive.

Secure couples know this:

You can argue, but you can’t threaten the relationship.

That rule is what makes conflict

safe enough

to find real solutions.

If that resonates, you’ll love what I’m sharing in my free webinar.

Comment

CALM

and I’ll send you the invite.

14/11/2025

I’m thinking of running for MP 😂 JK!
What's your thoughts?

10/11/2025

💥 Wanna be in my next free training? Comment CALM for the link to join live.

This a a truth that we always miss but that is so critical to our contentment as a couple:

You are interdependent.

Your partner is the fastest way to get secure, but they are also the fastest way to get triggered.

You have to choose which one you're building.

Attachment theory is often misunderstood and almost always misapplied. If you are struggling with connection with your partner but find that ‘just having more communication’ isn’t helping then you want to be at my live training.

I am running a free webinar called “When Talking Makes It Worse: How to Rewire Your Relationship for Calm and Connection”. Comment CALM to get the link to register.

08/11/2025

When love stops feeling alive, it’s rarely because you’ve fallen out of love.

It’s because you’ve stopped being *curious.*

Over time, our brains shift into autopilot — we know each other’s routines, reactions, even sentences before they’re finished. But connection doesn’t thrive on predictability; it thrives on attention.

Real closeness happens when you choose to see your partner with *fresh eyes.*

When you slow down long enough to wonder again —

*What lights them up now? What’s changed in them that I haven’t noticed?*

That’s where the spark lives. ✨

If you’re longing to feel that aliveness again, stay here.

I share tools and insights to help couples rebuild emotional connection — one moment of curiosity at a time.

06/11/2025

That was 8 years ago. I have learned so much since then. We have changed so much since then.

Our relationship is unrecognisable now from the one we used to have.

I am so grateful that I found a man who was willing to rip up the script with me and start rebuilding our love from scratch.

I am so excited to share my “When Talking Makes It Worse” webinar. I have crammed into it so many important keys to understanding your wiring, the systems that run your relationship and how to bring about change even.

- I want to tell you the understandings that changed everything for me
- I want to share with you the steps I took to get out of the toxic ruts we were in
- I want to share with you the keys that unlocked a new way of being together

Comment ‘CALM’ to register for the webinar.

I am really excited to see you inside.

All my love

Naomi

P.S This is for you too if your partner is not interested or resistant to change. Even if you are the only one willing to grow you can alter the future of the relationship one choice at a time. Sign up and let me tell you more.

04/11/2025

If either of you is exhausted, overwhelmed, or emotionally flooded, communication skills won’t save you. I know you have been told to “keep talking” and “just improve your communication” but I want to let you know why that advice is working against you.

Because when your nervous system hits fight, flight, or freeze, the logical part of the brain goes offline. The part of your brain that knows what to say is just not functioning like normal. That’s why you say things you regret and take everything personally.

Late-night “we need to talk” sessions fail — not for lack of love, but for lack of regulation.

I’m hosting a free webinar training called “When talking makes it worse: how to rewire your relationship for calm and connection”. I am bringing all the things I know from my practice with couples to help you and your partner find new ways to handle the most stressful interactions.

I’d love you to be there.

This training is for you if:

- You often have the same fight and are getting more frustrated every time
- You trigger each other accidentally and things escalate quickly
- You shut down or your partner shuts down and it’s hard to get reconnected
- You have tried ‘communication tools’ but they are not working or talking is making things worse, not better.

If you want to be in on the training just comment the word “CALM” below and I will send the link.

I can’t wait to see you there.

Naomi

03/11/2025

Perhaps there is someone who needs this too.

I wish someone had said these words to me in 2018 when my life was falling apart and my marriage was in pieces.

I know now what I didn’t know then.

That darkness has to come before the light.

That your courage will rise and that you will know what you have to do.

Hold on dear heart, if this is you.

Be patient with yourself.

Your new beginning is already on its way.

much love,

Naomi

31/10/2025

Does anyone relate to this?

Let me know in the comments your experience of breaking

Have you built a stronger relationship?

How did you do it?

👇

29/10/2025

Your relationship isn't what you imagined. Now what?

Maybe you thought the kids would bring you together, or that your differences wouldn't matter. When the reality of your relationship doesn't live up to the dream, it's easy to feel stuck.

The path forward isn't ignoring the gap—it's allowing yourself to feel the sadness of it. This is how you let go and create a future that could be better than you ever imagined.

Tag someone who needs to hear this today.

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