Kim Sturgeon Counselling

09/09/2025

07/09/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1B9tK11nWn/

It’s one of the hardest truths to sit with:
Yes, they were hurting.
Yes, they had trauma of their own.

But that doesn’t make what they did okay.

Your empathy doesn’t erase your pain.
Their brokenness doesn’t cancel out the harm.

You’re allowed to grieve what happened.
You’re allowed to hold both truths:
They were struggling, AND they hurt you.

And you didn’t deserve that.

Love, Jen 🪷

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_whispers_

07/09/2025

.org

28/08/2025

https://youtube.com/shorts/hUO0ukQP5EM?si=TmbcIFxSTY9CPHlY

23/08/2025

.therapist

23/08/2025

Am I an emotionally sensitive person?

Heck yes (high five?)

Am I proud of it? Do I see as a strength?

Now I do, but to be real for a long time I didn't too.

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Where on earth did we learn the idea that feeling emotions deeply was a bad thing?

That the simple fact of having emotions and wanting to express and communicate them is a form of weakness on our part?

Aren't we all human?

I think there is a deeper and sinister message layered in with this too.

Because if being an emotional person is supposedly a bad thing, aren't we simply being encouraged to be emotionless people too?

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"What a resilient person".

"Look how independent they are".

And we wonder why there is a multi-generational mentality that asking for help or seeking support is a weak point or flaw.

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"You have such a good kid, they don't cry or make trouble at all".

(If I cry I am a burden)

"You're just being sensitive, stop being so dramatic"

(The world has no space for my feelings)

And then we wonder why we live in a multi-generation society of emotionally repressed individuals.

Where the norm is just to fit in, appear okay - where in truth we know that depression is on the rise and half of the population feels lonely.

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You see, I once thought that sensitivity was a weakness too.

But that was because I was made to believe that it was just that.

Yet tell you what though - because this is what I've come to discover.

It was sensitivity that got me in tune with myself (when I stopped pushing it away).

It was sensitivity that allowed me to feel what others feel (that's empathy for you).

And it was sensitivity that not just healed me, but helped others heal too.

Of course, with great power comes great responsibility.

Used in the right way, our sensitivity is a superpower.

So embrace this superpower of yours okay?

And just for the sake of it - imagine a generation of us where we no longer say "stop crying".

But have learnt to say "I'm listening" too.

Ripples of an ocean.

Making waves.

That's what we are :)

Take care,
Hernping

Ps. Dedicated to our vulnerable volunteers and community at iash.sg!

20/08/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/19bWZkwhJj/

16/08/2025

Having the experience of having our trauma dismissed, or minimised adds a new layer to the trauma.

To heal, we need spaces to be seen, heard, and believed.

14/08/2025

This might resonate quite a bit... AND, let's reframe it a bit....

The three big, common triggers for most people that have experienced abuse over a long period of time, often within a relationship or during childhood, are feeling trapped, feeling controlled and feeling 'in trouble'.

Because the abuse was inescapable due to social, systemic, financial or other circumstances, it happened over a long period of time and often unfolded in ways that meant it was hard to see until a point of complete annhilation of self, and there were people around at the time who either didn't notice, didn't say anything, or blamed/ shamed us for what was happening.

10/08/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/16zuEbbsfr/