Kim Sturgeon Counselling

25/07/2025

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22/07/2025

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22/07/2025

It can feel really difficult to reach out for support after sexual violence and abuse. You might be confused about what happened or feel like what happened to you wasn't as 'serious' as other forms of assault. We're here to tell you that you matter - your experiences and feelings are valid - and you are worthy of support.

If you get in touch with us you'll be listened to, believed and never judged.

Visit our website for support resources and to get in touch: https://bit.ly/3GifkpP

21/07/2025

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Trauma doesn't just affect us as survivors – it affects everyone who hears about it, often provoking a deep avoidance and dissociation: a desire not to know.

Listen to 'Trauma is not just a distressing event' on Spotify or at https://www.carolynspring.com/podcast/trauma-is-not-just-a-distressing-event

18/07/2025

Experiencing Sexual Violence can be isolating and lonely. We can be left with so many questions, wondering, 'is it just me?'

For this reason, I'm starting a small, closed support group for women impacted in any way by any form of sexual violence. It will be a space to sit with others who 'get it', a space to make sense of the various ways sexual violence can impact, and a space to give and receive support.

For more information, visit: kimsturgeoncounselling.co.uk/svgroup

18/07/2025

We now understand that trauma’s imprint is both psychological and somatic: long after the events are over, the body continues to respond as if danger were ever-present. My professional mission for the past 25 years has been to bring a neurobiologically-informed understanding of trauma to both clients and their therapists. I believe the key to healing is not just knowing what happened but transforming how the mind, body and soul still remember it. Most of all, healing is an act of accepting, reclaiming, and being able to love our most wounded and rejected young selves.

I have had the good fortune to have been taught by or worked alongside the giants in the field of psychological trauma: Judith Herman, Bessel van der Kolk, Pat Ogden, Dick Schwartz. And as much as these pioneers taught me, the most powerful and gifted teachers I have are the survivors who gave me a window into the inner experience of trauma, taught me what always to say and what never to say, and helped to validate or disprove what the experts and theorists were claiming. It has been a privilege to learn with them and from them.

18/07/2025

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09/07/2025

We compassionate folks often stuff our uncomfortable feelings (so we can continue to be loving, kind, and caring to others).

But without boundaries, our behavior can begin to become rather codependent and people-pleasery…

Plus, we’re kinda afraid of our own feelings, to be honest!

After all, walking on eggshells, not using our voice, and not rocking the boat is required if we’re going to keep OTHERS comfortable…

And if have to we feel *our* feelings, we might mess that up.

So we get really good at pushing down our emotions in order to keep others pleased.

Tha’s become the name of the game for us:

Keep *everyone else* comfortable.

Except for ourselves. ☹️

…Not that we really notice that. Cause we’re not feeling our feelings. 😮‍💨

We stuff. We numb. We deny. We repress.

Aaaaaand we wonder why we struggle with setting boundaries.

❤️

Molly
Therapist & Boundaries Guide

PS. Contrary to what we’ve thought, our emotions are rich and beautiful things. Far from problematic, they can be powerful and organic boundary-setting guides. ✨

(In my opinion, we can’t do deep boundaries work without them).

Thankfully, discovering how to work with our emotions can be a lot of fun — and a gift that keeps on giving. 🥰

Yep. Change is possible. Just because we’ve behaved in ways that are codependent or people-pleasing does NOT mean we have to stay that way.

If you’d like to learn more, my
Boundaries Breakthrough Mini-Course
is a beautiful place to start:

Http://boundaried.com/breakthrough ✨