Kerry O'Gorman Counselling

03/05/2026

Some very helpful tips to stop overthinking, you may not be able to stop every one of them but you can choose to not let them grow and manifest, change the channel.

You've got this!

02/03/2026

Looking at the narrative we use in a situation with acceptance will have a direct effect on how we feel, go on give it a try

25/02/2026

To help give your mind that something to do try to start sentences with words like "I can, what is working, what is going well, what do I need to do to get me to my preferred future"

You are in control of your mind.

09/02/2026

You can do this, you have the ways and means to control what you think, yes it does take practice but in doing these tips you will free up your mind. "I can't" is just a statement, imagine how it would be if instead you said "I can"

03/02/2026

Just doing one thing a day can make such a difference, it is time to put yourself first

04/09/2025

11/03/2025

What is the theory behind rupture and repair?

John Gottman suggests that in successful relationships it is not the fact that we fight it is the way in which the fight is handled. I feel this also applies to us as individuals. We have our own unique relationship with ourself and if we can find a way to listen in a kind compassionate manner we can bring peace within our own minds.

A rupture is a break in the connection between two people. Often caused by hurt and anger, ruptures are a normal part of all relationships. Ruptures can vary from a single argument to a much longer prolonged breakdown in communication and trust.

The repair is putting in effort by both parties to emotionally and physically connect. By taking steps this can build into a much stronger relationship than before.

The steps
To identify the minefields (money, in-laws, s*x, housework, to name a few) in a non attacking manner.
Taking responsibility and to maintain a dialogue, so that they don't escalate in our own minds.
Taking ownership of what is happening - "I feel - hurt, upset, taken for granted etc.
Expressing how you would like the situation to play out, listen to the other party and find a way to compromise, find that common ground.
Show appreciation and hope, listen to each other, acknowledgement, build the fondness.
Self soothe.

These steps take time and effort, the results help to build a much stronger, more empathic relationship where you both learn to take responsibility and how to communicate and express yourself in a non judgemental way leading to fewer ruptures.

Seeing a counsellor is a good place to start. It can provide that safe place and to have that person to help to you navigate as a couple or individual to find that common ground and find the way to build on the repair to create the stronger version of yourself or couple.

https://kerryogormancounselling.com/counselling/

22/02/2025

🌼What you focus on, amplifies 🌼

Just by starting your day with a kind thoughtful statement can help your day get off to a good start 🌻

18/12/2024

Changing the way in which we see and talk about things can have an impact our how we feel about ourselves and the life we are living. Why not give it a try - This isn't going to work to This can work!