Lee Kane Integrative Counselling & Psychotherapy

19/10/2025

💗 What Is Love?

Love is one of life’s greatest mysteries — something we’re all meant to know, yet often struggle to understand or sustain.

It’s spoken of often, but rarely felt in its purest form. Shaped by expectations, beliefs, and attachments, love can become confusing and challenging in our relationships and families.

This 3-week in-person workshop invites you to gently explore what love truly means — within yourself, your heart, and your connections with others.

🕊 Facilitated by: Lee Kane Counselling & Psychotherapy
📍 In Person | ⏳ Coming Soon
💬 DM me for limited spaces and details

30/08/2025

When you notice the track beneath you isn’t taking you where you want to go, listen to that whisper. Step off with kindness. Every mile in the wrong direction only adds weight to your heart. So don’t ride further in the wrong direction, your peace is worth an early stop.

01/08/2025

In modern society now we often want instant gratification:

New clothes, get next day delivery, fancy a film, Netflix, a date, swipe right.

Though all long term beneficial and nourishing things take time. You can’t just gain a diploma or degree overnight, it can take years. You want to get fit it doesn’t take 2 sessions at the.gym.

Real transformation doesn’t happen overnight, and it rarely feels easy. In therapy, we often want quick change and relief from pain or clarity about what to do next. But true, lasting change unfolds slowly through consistent effort, self-reflection, and learning to sit with discomfort.
Like a caterpillar in its cocoon, growth requires stillness, patience, and trust in a process that often feels uncertain. Healing asks us to let go of old patterns, and that can be unsettling. But with time, support, and compassion, we begin to emerge more aligned, more grounded, and more whole. If you’re in a hard place right now, take heart. The discomfort is not a sign you’re failing; it’s often proof that you’re transforming and an opportunity to learn and grow.

26/06/2025

06/06/2025

Feeling Stuck? Try This Gentle Shift.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I just don’t know what to do, I’ve gone over it again and again, but I just don’t have the answer”?
It becomes a familiar pattern when the mind spins in circles, searching for answers it can’t seem to find.

Because sometimes, the mind doesn’t have the answer.
But that doesn’t mean the answer isn’t there.
There are other parts of us that are quieter, deeper parts, that often do know. Parts that speak in feelings, sensations, intuition. These inner guides don’t shout like the thinking mind. They whisper. And we can only hear them when we pause.
In silence, we begin to reconnect with our inner wisdom. The calm, compassionate, and grounded self that lives beneath the noise.
As the Gestalt therapist Fritz Perls said:�“Lose your mind and come to your senses.”
When thinking too much isn’t working, try softening into presence.�Breathe.�Feel.�Listen.
Sometimes the best way forward isn’t figured out — it’s felt.

12/05/2025

You are not broken. You adapted.

The ways you’ve learned to cope, be it by shutting down, being on high alert, becoming aggressive, people-pleasing or staying small weren’t flaws.
They were strategies. They helped you navigate environments that didn’t feel safe or predictable.
Healing doesn’t mean rejecting those parts of you.�It means understanding where they came from, how they protected you, and slowly inviting in new ways of responding that serve you much better.
It’s not starting over, it’s reconnecting with who you’ve always been, beneath the difficulty and hurt.

21/04/2025

Have you noticed behaviours in your relationships that cause harm to others and to yourself?

Have you’ve noticed patterns in your relationships that don’t sit right with you. At times is your frustration and anger affecting the people you most care about? Leaving you feeling unsettled or regretful.
Maybe you're feeling stuck, or you’re tired of reacting in ways that don’t reflect who you really are or want to be.

These behaviours may come from past pain, disconnection, or ways you’ve learned to survive. But now those patterns and behaviours are keeping you from the kind of relationships and life you truly want.

For over 15 years, I’ve supported people on an individual and group basis to look at these patterns without judgment and compassion. creating a safe space to explore thoughts, feelings and behaviours and what’s underneath these reactions. Then gaining more self-awareness, compassion, empathy and move toward more connected and fulfilling relationships and life.

It’s ok to not have all the answers right now. Sometimes the first step is simply being listened to and heard without judgment.

If this resonates with you it maybe time to take the first step. Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it can start by having courage, curiosity and support.
If you would like support to grow, heal and connect more deeply in your relationships please contact me.

16/04/2025

What if your emotions weren’t something to manage, avoid, or suppress—but something to listen to? What if they were here to guide and support you, especially when life feels overwhelming?

In both my personal and professional experience, I’ve seen how easy it is to become disconnected from our emotions. Often, this disconnection isn’t a conscious choice—it’s something we learn over time. It’s a survival strategy, shaped by early experiences, trauma, or quiet messages from the people around us that emotions are unsafe, inconvenient, or signs of weakness.

Take the belief: “Emotions are a sign of weakness.”What if we turned that around? If it takes strength to push away our feelings during hard times, imagine the courage it takes to stay open to them. To feel sadness, fear, grief, disappointment, powerless and still keep showing up. That’s not weakness. That’s resilience, and true strength lives in vulnerability.
When we allow ourselves to feel, we create space for awareness, healing, growth, and for deeper connection with ourselves and with others.

For many of us, especially those who experienced trauma or difficulties growing up, emotions weren’t something we were taught to navigate. Often, we were left to cope on our own. In that aloneness, we did what we had to do—we adapted.
We might have withdrawn, lashed out, distracted ourselves, or shut down. These responses weren’t wrong—they were protective. They helped us survive.

As we grow older, those same protective strategies can carry into adulthood, in the same or different forms. Maybe it shows up in overworking, people pleasing, aggression, conflict in relationships, or turning to alcohol or substances or other distractions to feel okay.

These patterns aren’t failures—they’re echoes of strategies that once kept us safe. Though they may not be serving us or needed anymore.

Emotions are signals, not threats. They are there to guide you not overwhelm you.
With awareness and support, you can build a healthier relationship with your emotions and in doing so deepen your connections to yourself and those around you.

12/04/2025

Wholeness comes from integration, not suppression.

Carl Jung’s idea of the anima (the feminine aspect within men) and the animus (the masculine aspect within women) suggests that we all carry both masculine and feminine energies within us. These energies aren’t defined by gender, but are fundamental parts of our psyche.

However, from an early age, caregivers and society teaches us to suppress certain traits based on our gender, causing many of us to disconnect from important parts of ourselves. For example, men might be discouraged from showing vulnerability or emotional depth, and instead, are encouraged to focus on responsibility and strength.
On the other hand, ladies may be taught to tone down their assertiveness and competitiveness, while being encouraged to be modest, empathetic, and graceful.

The qualities we are taught to reject don’t disappear. They simply sink into our unconscious, where they quietly influence our behaviors, relationships, fears, and sense of self.

Becoming whole is about reclaiming both masculine and feminine energies within ourselves. It’s not about choosing one over the other, but allowing strength and tenderness, logic and intuition, action and stillness to coexist in harmony. This balance allows us to bring forth what is needed in any given moment to support us.

When we unlearn and stop conforming to caregivers and societal expectations and start living authentically, we align with our true, whole selves. Wholeness doesn’t mean perfection; it means embracing all the different parts of who we are.

Wholeness comes from integration, not suppression.