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I’m a trusted therapist for Men & Women, especially those in high-pressure roles like the emergency services, military, medical and journalism fields who are feeling the weight of midlife challenges or the impact of trauma.

18/09/2025

Gentlemen,

This is just a quick reminder to look after yourselves. This week has seen my pain levels skyrocket that has only allowed me to do a small amount of things. However, what I’ve learnt is:

Be kind to yourself, beating yourself up won’t make recovery go any faster.

Take time to do something that nourishes you, whatever that is, exercise, listening to music, reading etc

Connect with those you care about, you’re not a burden, and if things were the other way around, you wouldn’t hesitate to give some time to your best mate.

Finally, the key to quicker recovery, is knowing the power of rest. Find a place where you can recharge fully to get back to where you want to be.

There are loads of these ‘take care of yourselves’ posts, however, I’d ask you to take notice of this one, from someone whose been and is still there!

Best wishes 👍

14/09/2025

Imagine this: waking up without the weight in your chest, without yesterday replaying in your mind. Imagine actually being present with your family, laughing freely, no longer carrying the invisible load from the job.

That’s what men discover when they finally allow themselves to heal.
With the right support, you can:
✨ Breathe freely again.
✨ Be fully present with your family.
✨ Feel calm and steady, even in the chaos.

I’ve seen this transformation happen with firefighters, doctors, journalists, and executives who once thought “I just need to get on with it.” They learned they didn’t have to live that way anymore, and neither do you.

I’m opening a few spaces for men who are READY to move forward. If that’s you, send me a message with the word READY and I’ll be in touch.

09/09/2025

Today we say thank you to our emergency services, the everyday heroes who protect us when we need it most.

But behind the bravery, there are real struggles. Long shifts, traumatic events, and constant pressure take a toll. Stress, anxiety, and PTSD are common, and nothing to be ashamed of.

If you’re an emergency worker who feels like you have to “just cope,” please know:
✔ You’re not weak for feeling overwhelmed.
✔ You deserve support, just like anyone else.
✔ Reaching out is an act of courage.

If you’re ready to talk, I’m here to help in a safe, confidential space.
Let’s break the stigma together. 💙

05/09/2025

This week at the Firefighters Charity reminded me of something important: healing isn’t linear.

My back gave out after the gym yesterday, absolutely gutted! But just like the body, the mind takes time as well.

Lean on your resources: family, friends, professionals, and your own strength. Tomorrow’s another chance. If you fall, don’t be too proud to accept a hand up. You never know who’s reaching out.

Grateful to the Firefighters Charity, my family, and friends for their support.

01/09/2025

Although my firefighting and long distance running days may be over. I’m down at the Firefighters Charity working on trying to maintain and increase my movement. The Firefighters Charity is amazing and so supportive.

The learning I’ve taken away so far is the feeling that:

Contact with others is so important to our mental health and having a sense of belonging. I’ve experienced an immediate boost!

Motion is lotion - not just for tight muscles etc, it’s also lotion for our mental health.

Just because I’m disabled, I’m still able and capable.

More light bulbs to come.

Best wishes 👍

29/08/2025

After 29 years as a Firefighter and Incident Commander, I’ve seen first-hand the toll that high-pressure careers take. Whether it’s emergency services, medicine, journalism, or running a business, the weight of responsibility doesn’t just stay at work.

The cost often shows up quietly:
• Sleepless nights and constant alertness
• Strain on relationships
• Burnout that feels like running on empty
• Silent battles with trauma, stress or guilt

In these roles, it can feel easier to keep pushing than to ask for help. But that silence can deepen the wounds.

Here’s what I know: healing is possible. With the right support, men can recover from trauma, ease burnout, and reconnect with themselves and those around them.

If you’re in a high-pressure career and this resonates, you’re not alone. Hope starts here.

20/08/2025

Hi, I’m Justin. I help men who are carrying silent trauma, the kind that shows up as burnout, stress, anger or distance in relationships.

Trauma isn’t always dramatic or obvious. It also doesn't have to be one big emergency or event. Sometimes it’s those hidden experiences that have happened to us that we never talk about, the weight we’ve carried for years without even realising it. Over time, it can leave men feeling exhausted, disconnected, or stuck.

How do I know about Trauma? It's not something that I've just read in a book. I spent 29 years as an operational Firefighter and qualified as a counsellor.

The good news? Healing is possible. When men start to work through trauma, I see them rediscover hope, in themselves, in their families, and in life.

If this speaks to you, or someone you care about, I want you to know: you’re not alone. Hope starts here. Just get in touch, a warm welcome and understanding await.

18/08/2025

I learnt an absolute truck-load during my time in the Fire Service. I think one of the main things I learnt, was how to stay calm under immense pressure.

Just like men & women in other high-pressure roles, for example, the Police, Paramedics, military, medical staff, and journalists, we're all expected to maintain 'millpond' like composure when we're up against it.

But composure doesn’t mean trauma hasn’t left a mark. It can surface as disrupted sleep, irritability, disconnection in relationships, or a sense of losing touch with yourself...sometimes, a longtime later, in some cases, many years later!

For those still serving or long since retired: these are not signs of weakness, but human responses to extraordinary demands.

You don’t have to carry the load on your own. Support is available, and reaching for it is a sign of strength.

If you're struggling, I'm here for you. Just get in touch. 👍

12/08/2025

When you change, everything changes.

You can’t control everything,
but you can take ownership of how you respond, how you show up, and what you carry.

That’s where change really begins.
I’ve supported men who’ve felt stuck for years, through burnout, emotional disconnection, hidden anxiety, and deep-rooted shame.

Shame is a very common thing. It has kept me stuck for a long time, ashamed of my disability, ashamed of my appearance with skin issues, ashamed of my own performance at work when things have fallen below my own exacting standards.

And I’ve seen what happens when they finally have a space where they’re not judged, but understood.

They stop reacting.
Start relating.
Build healthier boundaries.
Rekindle connection, with themselves and their partners.

The world doesn’t need “tougher” men. It needs healthier ones.

If you’re ready to change the game, in how you lead, love, and live.

Let’s talk. https://whycounselling.co.uk/lets-talk/

06/08/2025

When nothing changes, it’s not bad luck…it’s a sign you’re stuck!

If you’re anything like me, it was leaving a toxic relationship, changing Watches, or roles in the fire service. If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably told yourself things like:

“I’ll go for that job when things calm down.”
“The relationship is not that bad.”
“Why do I feel so scared?”
“What if ’X’ happens, I won’t be able to handle it”

But months, and sometimes years go by, and nothing shifts.
Same feelings and emotions. Same arguments. Same sense of disconnection. Same sense of being left behind!
You might be functioning, even succeeding on the outside, but inside? Quiet frustration, tension, shame, or loneliness.

The truth is:

When you don’t change, nothing changes.

It’s not a failure. It’s a signal.
And change doesn’t have to mean ripping your life apart.
Sometimes, change starts with one honest conversation, with someone who you can relate to, who understands what you’re going through, who just gets it!

Curious what that could look like for you?

Just get in touch, I'm here for you!

03/08/2025

Change is scary. It could be a job change, retirement, end of a relationship, or the beginning of something new.

Especially when you’ve kept things together for so long.
You don’t want to mess up what’s working.
You don’t want to feel weak for needing help.
You’re not sure where change would even start, or where it might lead.

But here’s the truth:

Change doesn’t mean losing control.
It means finally taking it back — from anxiety, shame, burnout, or disconnection.

I support men who are quietly struggling behind the scenes —
the ones who look fine but feel stuck.

And I help them move forward in a way that’s grounded, steady, and safe.

If you’re tired of spinning your wheels but unsure where to begin,
you’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure it out alone either.

DM me or click here https://whycounselling.co.uk/lets-talk/ to start a conversation.

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