Nikila Davis Counselling

17/04/2026

S E S S I O N S . . .

What counselling can look like (in real life!)…

Some sessions flow easily 🌿
Some feel a bit stuck 🫥

Some are emotional 💭
Others super calm 🌊

Sometimes there’s a clear sense of direction 🧭
Other times it feels messy and muddled 🌀

Sometimes you talk about what you expected to 💬
Other times things surface that you never saw coming ✨

Sometimes there’s lots of laughter 😂
Sometimes there is not 🤍

Some sessions celebrate the wins 🎉
Others are about acknowledging trauma 🫶🏽

Sometimes it’s about childhood 🧸
Sometimes it’s about what happened on the way to therapy 🚗

There’s no “perfect” or “right” way to do it.

All of it is welcome 🖤

08/04/2026

Closing your eyes and lifting your face towards to sun is its own special kind of therapy!!!
🔆🔆🔆

31/03/2026

29/03/2026

DID YOU KNOW… 🥸✨

You don’t have to be in crisis to come to therapy 🚨❌
You don’t need a big, traumatic story 💥❌
You don’t have to be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship 💔❌
You don’t need to be struggling with addiction 🍷❌

All of you is welcome - not just the “serious” stuff. 🤍☝🏽

Therapy can also be a space and a place for…

• that quiet sense of discontent, disappointment or disconnection 🌫️
• feeling a bit “off” without knowing why 🤷🏽‍♀️
• inner restlessness, feeling unsettled🌀
• confusion or feeling stuck/flat 🧩
• wanting to grow, stretch, or challenge your own patterns 🌱✨
• learning new ways of being/showing up in the world 🌍

You don’t need to justify coming.

Your ‘stuff’ doesn’t need to be ‘big’ enough or ‘serious’ enough.

And…your reasons don’t need to make sense to anyone else.

🖤

26/03/2026

CuRiOuS about Counselling??? 🤔

A few wee nuggets of practical info for anyone who’s been wondering how I work…

I offer counselling sessions
👉🏽online
👉🏽face-to-face
👉🏽or a blend of both,
whatever feels most comfy and manageable for you.

You’ll find me in Poole town at The Dorset Practice, and also at The Courtyard Craft Centre in Lytchett Minster.

Contact me via text, call or email on-
👉🏽07510 165089
👉🏽nikiladavis_therapy@outlook.com

(Or pop me a message on here!).

Sometimes just knowing some info makes taking that first step feel a tiny bit easier.

Nikila
💛

13/03/2026

This little guy came to therapy today…he was in touch with his feelings, but wasn’t really up for talking about them!!! 😉🐾🤎

28/01/2026

T h e I n n e r V o i c e . . . 🎤

That voice in your head,
the one commenting on everything…
have you noticed it?

What does yours sound like?
What’s the tone?
Does it remind you of someone else?

Is it warm, kind, patient, understanding, loving?
Or is it harsh, judgey, shouty, tell-offy… always disappointed?

Do you have more than one?
One cheering you on, at war with another one that shames you?

Does your inner voice speak truth… or spit lies?
And can you tell the difference?

For a long time, mine was mostly unkind.
It made me feel small, guilty, fearful, not enough, confused.
And it mostly ignored the evidence right in front of me.

I could see that I’d created or done something good (evidence!)
The voice would say: “Meh. Not that great.”

I could see someone doing something kind for me (evidence!)
The voice would say: “They probably didn’t really want to do that.”

I could feel completely frazzled and overwhelmed, my body screaming for rest (evidence!)
The voice would say: “Stop being lazy, other people keep going.”

That inner voice can be a sneaky lil thief, robbing us of goodness.

Through therapy and a whole load of intentional work on myself, I’ve trained my kinder voice to be louder.
The other one hasn’t vanished altogether, but it has been demoted!
It no longer controls the mic.

This stuff really matters, because when the inner voice sounds more like a best mate and less like an enemy, life feels so very different, better.

This is possible for you too!

💛

07/11/2025

LOVE IN THE LITTLE THINGS ♡

I am currently sat on the sofa eating marmite on toast, and drinking tea out of my favourite mug. My dog has joined me, snuggled up ready to snaffle up any crumbs that might fall.
I have just got back from the morning school run, which I did in the car wearing un-matching pjs (which just about pass as ‘lounge wear’), fluffy socks and pink crocs. I drove home in silence-no radio, no bluetooth calls to anyone.

None of this is fancy, but it is purposeful. I have paid attention.

In my quest to be a responsible grown up(!!), I am tuning in more and more to the small things I can do to take care of myself and calm my nervous system.
Mini moments of rest.
Little acts of love.

💛🖤 Marmite on toast. Comfort food.

☕️ Tea in my favourite mug that my sister bought me. Reminds me I am loved.

🧦 My clothes are loose and soft on my skin. My body feels cosy and hugged.

🐶 My dog gives good cuddles, we are enjoying each other’s affection.

🙉 I enjoy chatting on the phone to those I love. But this morning I noticed I just needed quiet.

I love to love others.
I love to be loved by others.

This morning, amongst the busyness of my life, in this small window of time, I have loved myself through food, warmth, comfort and silence.

I have shown myself love in these simple, unfancy, little things .

💛

08/10/2025

🖤🖤🖤

I am in complete awe of the clients who bring themselves to therapy sessions.

Feeling emotionally naked, vulnerable, wobbly, unsure if they are worthy of therapy, with the stuffing kicked out of them- these incredible humans taking action to improve their lives, despite the wrong that is or has been done to them.

It will never get old for me. I will never not be bowled over by the bravery I witness daily.

Social media will swamp you with all that is wrong in this world, but I see, in the privacy of the therapy room, all that is right- all that is beautiful and courageous- in the faces of my clients.

Always in awe 🖤

12/08/2025

Y o u ‘ r e N o t B r o k e n . . .

There is something about us humans- we often have more understanding, acceptance and compassion for animals, plants and objects than we do for ourselves or each other.

Some examples…

🪫~ When a car isn’t topped up with fuel or a phone isn’t charged, we understand why these cannot function. We do not expect them to perform on ‘empty’.

🏋 ~ When a shelf collapses under too much weight, we don’t look at the shelf as faulty, we understand it was overloaded.

🐕 ~ When a rescue dog displays wonky behaviours, we don’t judge it, we understand that this is what happens as a result of mistreatment or neglect.

🌵~ When a plant isn’t given the right conditions, we expect it to wilt. We wouldn’t expect a cactus to thrive in a rainforest, or mushrooms to grow in a desert.

🚤 ~ When a boat is battered in a storm, we don’t blame the boat.

📖 ~ When pages of a book are missing we understand why the story doesn’t make sense.

🌧️ ~ When a river is fed by relentless rain, we’re not shocked when it overflows.

⚠️ ~ When any machine is run non-stop without care or maintenance, we’re not surprised when it breaks down.

And yet there are huge numbers of humans living with anxiety, confusion, depression, and overwhelm, genuinely believing deep down that they are somehow broken. The question swirling and on replay- ‘what is wrong with me?’

But if we dig a little deeper and take a look at our environments, the circumstances that surround us or the experiences we have endured, we’d see the truth 👀.

We are not broken, we are responding (exactly as anything else would) to the conditions we have been given.

💛

08/07/2025

D r a i n s & R a d i a t o r s 🫩 😊

I love this picture of drains and radiators- it’s one of my favourite tools in my life’s toolbox and something I often share with clients. It’s a simple idea that can really help when life feels messy, and anything but simple.

Certain people, places, events or commitments can either drain you or radiate energy toward you.

🪫 vs 🔋

DRAIN = when something or someone leaves you feeling depleted. You might feel heavy, resentful, or totally worn out after an interaction or activity. It’s like the energy has been quietly sucked out of you. You might notice a sense of dread beforehand, or feel like you’re running on empty afterwards.

RADIATOR = when you feel energised, lit up, and more like you. You feel lighter, inspired, peaceful, grounded, joyful. These are the people, places or activities that bring warmth and goodness into your life- they give more than they take.

🧐 🧐 🧐
Tuning into this- viewing life through the ‘drain and radiator lens’, can help you understand yourself and your needs better. It can also guide how you use your energy and time, and where to place (or tighten up) your boundaries.

You don’t have to cut out every drain- but you might decide to limit how long you spend with one, or how often. You might also intentionally schedule in time with those radiators to recoup and recharge 🥰.

I don’t believe this is selfishness, it’s self-awareness. It’s about noticing how things impact you and responding in ways that care for your energy and well-being.

And I think that when we are kind to ourselves we are in a better place to offer kindness to others.
You can’t pour from an empty cup!!

🔆

13/06/2025

T h e I n v i s i b l e O n e s . . .

The ones who…

☑️ Had ‘good’ childhoods.
☑️ Came from stable homes with no financial hardship.
☑️ Had supportive parents who stayed together.
☑️ Were high achievers with a ‘bright’ future.
☑️ Had holidays, hobbies and privilege.
☑️ Felt they had ‘no right’ to be struggling.
☑️ Suffered no major trauma.
☑️ Who, to the world, seemed to have it all.
☑️ Whose lives look “bang tidy” on the outside.

I have been thinking about these folk a lot lately.

The ones who think they don’t ‘deserve’ therapy. That they shouldn’t feel anxious, less than, lost, numb, or disconnected.
The ones who are deeply grateful for their upbringing and feel guilty or even disloyal for struggling.

BUT…

📢 Not all wounds are loud.
🌪️ Not all pain comes from chaos.

Sometimes it’s the subtle things-
🔹the pressure to be perfect
🔹not knowing how to express your pain/emotions
🔹the quiet (unintentional) emotional neglect that no one sees or talks about
🔹feeling misunderstood even in a ‘good’ family.

S o m e t r u t h s :

▪️High expectations can create perfectionism, shame and anxiety. Especially if failing feels like it is letting down the very people who supported you.
▪️Feeling like you owe your parents for all they have done for you can keep you from exploring your unmet needs and unresolved feelings.
▪️”Other people had it worse” becomes a mahoosive block to seeking therapy and invalidates/silences your own pain.
▪️When everything looks “peachy” on paper, it can be super hard to find the words to explain how you’re feeling. And terrifying to risk seeming ungrateful.

M o r e t r u t h s (Listen up!!! ☺️) :

✔️YOU DESERVE SUPPORT.
✔️YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL.
✔️YOUR PAIN IS VALID.
✔️THERAPY IS FOR YOU TOO.

Even if you don’t hop on the therapy bus, I hope through this post you feel just a little more seen.

🩶