13/05/2022
Friendship Friday
Loneliness is the theme for so a great topic to explore to finish off the week.
We have all felt lonely at times. Some more than others, but it’s definitely something that everyone has in common.
Feeling lonely doesn't have to mean being alone. This is often misunderstood. You can be perfectly happy in your own company and not feel lonely at all. In contrast, you can also be surrounded by people and feel like the loneliest person in the world. So loneliness can be subjective and mean different things to different people. In general, a person feels lonely when there is a gap between their desired level of social contact and their actual social contact. It can also be a feeling of not being understood by the people surrounding you or feeling very different to those around you.
Loneliness in itself is not a mental health condition but both are closely linked and have an effect on each other. Loneliness can increase the risk of mental health conditions and mental health conditions can also put you at higher risk of loneliness.
Being open about your loneliness can be helpful. For me becoming a mum for the first time, and living hundreds of miles from my family and friends was one of the loneliest and toughest times of my life. It was a massive shock to the system; going from working every day and going to the gym as I pleased, going away with friends at the weekends (living a pretty carefree life) and seeing lots of people to being stuck in the house tiny helpless little human to take care of and not knowing what to do or where to go. It did get easier with time and some strategies put in place, but as an adult making friends is not the easiest.
You are not alone in feeling lonely, it is something that is more common than you think. To end mental health awareness week please share your experiences of loneliness in the comments to help others see that they are not alone.