19/10/2024
https://open.substack.com/pub/vanapapagianni/p/awakening-the-nondual-self?r=2oxvl4&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true
Awakening the Nondual Self
Healing Childhood Wounds for Inner Balance & True Awareness
The ultimate immersion in the Self (true nature) is experienced by newborn infants. They have a sense of curiosity and openness toward the world. Infants are not judgmental; they do not have a sense of good, bad, right, or wrong. They lack a sense of separation from their world.
During childhood, a secure attachment to a caregiver (most often the mother) means that the sense of Self will continue to evolve and mature, offering much-needed self-leadership skills when faced with life’s challenges. The developing child does not experience Self directly but through projection, by borrowing it from the caregiver. The reason children cannot fully access Self on their own but need a harmonious family environment is that they are vulnerable and require protection and learning through supportive family relationships.
Many children do not experience this nurturing secure attachment. Instead, they are defenseless and burdened by traumatic experiences. When they get hurt, they become disembodied; parts push their Self out of the body to protect it, and traumatic, dense energy occupies the body.
When this happens, the worldview is filtered through a lens of wounded parts, obscuring the panoramic clarity of the Self. Parts become stuck and frozen in painful trances, leading to seeking solutions in the external world through addictive attachments, instead of relying on the infinite Self.
Self-healing involves a kind of awakening from the slumber of these past trances. In this awakening, the Self consciously and compassionately witnesses the wounded parts, thus ending their frozen state.
If someone is raised with secure attachment in their family, their parts would be in their valuable state, working harmoniously with each other and remaining connected to Self. Those types of people do not seek therapy.
The truth is that almost everyone experiences the seven veils—the cardinal burdens we all encounter to some degree, passed down from caregivers and ancestors. These veils are Powerlessness, Terror, Shame, Betrayal, Grief, Rejection, and Neglect. They leave scars and put us in a trance. As we grow, parts of us still operate out of survival. We interact with the world from our “survival persona” or separate self. Our true Self and its nondual nature are obscured.
To become who we are meant to be—our authentic personality, free from burdens—we must first reconnect to Self. Self is the compassionate, wise inner guide that can hold space for the inner family system. Then, the healing of our wounds can begin, allowing our true personality to shine and nondual awareness to emerge.
Reference: Awaken to Love by Laura Patryas, Chapter 1
Vana Papagianni
www.vanapapagianni.com
FS-Informed Practitioner, Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist
MSc Psychologist & Published Researcher in Hypnotherapy for Phobias
DhypPsych (UK), MSc Psych (Der)c Psych (Der)
