20/04/2026
In my 30+ years as a Therapist there are two two types of people I see
The ones who appear outwardly successful but inside feel there is something missing
And the ones who have been actively focusing on their healing journey but in their life they feel stuck & unable to create success
I have personally been in both places in my life !
I understand how we have been conditioned to believe that life is a series of To Dos , of goals to get - the career , the cash, the car, the house, the husband, the holidays ✔️✔️✔️
But this ‘outside in formula’ just keeps you chasing MORE
Our consumerism society wants you living this way , striving, hustling , chasing, feeling stuck in the superficial busyness of life but not truly feeling fulfilled
One day I woke out of that reality & realised that there must be a different way to be
I recognised that in my 13 hour days (although I loved what I was doing) & in my relationships so focused on loving the other & fulfilling their happiness, I’d lost myself
When I emerged at 40 from a lifetime of these types of relationships, I decided to switch my attention from loving others better to learning to love me
The reality was , I didn’t have a clue & back then we didn’t have the knowledge & wisdom so easily accessible that we have now
I read hundreds of books, went to workshops & seminars, did trainings online & in person, studied NLP, Hypnotherapy , neuroscience, relationships , mindset, meditation, manifestation & so many other modalities joining the dots between science, mindset & spirituality to bring the Mind , Body , Soul into Balance .
Every training I first applied to myself before sharing with others the things that worked to help them navigate through their own challenges & transformations
It was while working with others that I saw these two patterns
The people who strived towards outward success
And the ones trying to mend, heal & fix themselves before moving forward
Both were different sides of the same coin !
The I Am Not Enough Wound has us
- chasing success in order to prove we are enough
& can hold us back from daring to go after our dreams
To be continued….