Psychotherapy in Surrey

06/07/2025

🌿 Bottling Feelings? You're Not Alone. 🌿

One of the most common ways we try to cope with emotional pain is by bottling it up—pushing it down, denying it, pretending everything is okay on the outside while struggling on the inside.

I’ve seen it so often in my practice:
People who hold it together after a painful breakup.
Parents trying to stay calm through tricky situations with their children.
Those quietly overwhelmed by big life changes, afraid to show vulnerability.

But here’s the truth:
Bottling feelings doesn’t make them disappear.
It only stores them away—until they begin to show up as anxiety, exhaustion, tension, or even physical illness.

There are healthier ways to process what you’re going through.
Talking. Feeling. Being witnessed.
Letting go of shame around emotion.
Learning to sit with feelings—not to fear them.

Therapy can help you do just that.

You don’t have to carry it all alone. If you’re ready to explore what’s going on inside and start feeling lighter, I’m here.

💬 Reach out for a free consultation or just to ask questions.
You deserve support.

04/07/2025

🌿✨ An inspiring evening of therapeutic training with the brilliant and creative therapist Angie! ✨🌿

Tonight was all about stones — not just the ones you find in nature, but the ones we carry emotionally, energetically, and symbolically. 💎🪨

We explored:
🌀 Emotional stones and the stories they hold
💬 The powerful use of Transactional Analysis through work with the stones
💔 Grief work using precious stones as gentle anchors
🧘‍♀️ And we ended with a soothing, stone-themed guided meditation

From plain to precious, big to tiny — each stone invited new ways to connect, heal, and open up space for reflection and emotional expression. I'm so excited to begin introducing these meaningful tools into my work with clients. 💗

Feeling grateful for the beauty of creative therapy and all the ways it continues to evolve.

01/07/2025

🌿 July is for Journaling 🌿

Journaling can be a powerful way to check in with ourselves.

In the busyness of life, we often forget to pause. Writing things down helps us slow down, notice what we’re feeling, and make space for thoughts we might not even realize we’re carrying.

Science supports it too — journaling is proven to improve mood, reduce stress, and boost overall wellbeing.

This July, try giving yourself a few quiet minutes a day to write. No rules, no pressure. Just you and the page.

🖊️ What made you smile today?
🖊️ What’s been on your mind lately?
🖊️ What do you need more (or less) of right now?

Give yourself that gentle space. You deserve it. 💛

01/07/2025

Such a moving and thought-provoking evening at Wallace Gallery with Grayson Perry: Delusions of Grandeur. 🌟
I went with a friend and left feeling truly inspired by the discussion around outsider art, creativity, and emotional resilience.
Big thanks to the incredible speakers inclusive arts champion CEO and artistic director Sheryll Catto, psychiatrist and curator Dr David O’Flynn and artist Celia Pym for sharing their insight and heart.
Art really does connect us in the most unexpected ways. 💛🎨

24/06/2025

“Aurelija, do you cry?”
asked one of my clients last month.

“I haven’t cried for years! How did you manage to make my tears feel safe to come out?”
another one shared, eyes full of emotion.

“This is the only space where I allow myself to cry,” said someone else quietly during a recent session.

Tears.
They are never just drops of water.
They carry sadness, overwhelm, relief, connection, and sometimes even joy.
Tears can speak when words feel too heavy.

Do you let your tears be seen?
Do you give yourself permission to cry—alone, in front of someone, in the quiet moments of your day?

Or maybe crying still feels unsafe. Maybe it was something you were taught to hide.
Did you grow up hearing messages like:
“Don’t cry,”
“Be strong,”
“Crying won’t help”?

But what if crying is not a weakness—what if it’s a healing release?
Science tells us it is. Emotionally and physically, our body responds to crying in ways that help us process stress and pain.
It’s a form of emotional hygiene, not a failure of strength.

✨ If you wish to understand your emotions more deeply, to feel safer and more confident in expressing them—whether through tears or in your own way—
I’m here to help.

23/06/2025

20/06/2025

What a fantastic day at the Autism and ADHD Show!

It was packed with insightful talks, inspiring speakers, and meaningful connections. I was especially excited to attend the session by Dr. Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker — two well-respected voices in the field of Demand Avoidance. Through humour, storytelling, and powerful visuals, they unpacked a complex topic in such an accessible way. Everyone walked away with a deeper understanding of PDA and practical strategies to support children. I was also thrilled to pick up another one of their brilliant books (and even got a photo with Dr Fisher🙂).

Dr. Myrofora Kakoulidou and Professor Edmund Sonuga-Barke delivered a compelling presentation on emotional regulation in autism and ADHD. Their research highlighted the emotional toll of school-induced stress and the importance of reducing depression risk in neurodivergent students.

One of the most moving parts of the day was hearing directly from autistic adults and those with ADHD. Alex Richardson shared his education journey, while Joely spoke about the emotional intensity and sensory extremes of ADHD. Both have written powerful books — congratulations to them!

I'm leaving this event feeling incredibly inspired (and a bit exhausted!) — full of new knowledge, strategies, and resources to better support my clients.

Looking forward to putting it all into practice!

20/06/2025

🌟It was an absolute honour and pleasure to meet the incredible Hannah Whitfield at the ASD and ADHD Show. Listening to her speak with such honesty, courage, and vulnerability was deeply moving.

Through her powerful podcast Legally Detained, and in her speeches, Hannah shares the raw truth of her journey—how creativity became a lifeline and how she found the strength to be unapologetically herself despite all she had to overcome.

She is not only a survivor, but a true inspiration to so many young people navigating neurodivergence, identity, and self-acceptance.

Thank you, Hannah, for your voice, your story, and your light. The world is better with you in it. 💫💛

17/06/2025

A beautiful day for outdoor therapy with my coworker, Sunny 🌿🐾

Some of my clients find that being outdoors allows for more freedom—whether through mindful walking, breath work, creativity, or simply being present with nature. I often witness subtle but powerful shifts: posture softens, facial muscles relax, and the body begins to feel safe enough to dive into deeper healing work.

I feel privileged to witness the incredible impact that nature and movement can have on emotional wellbeing.

🌱 Benefits of Outdoor Therapy:

Encourages natural movement and freedom

Helps reduce anxiety and stress

Deepens connection to the present moment

Supports creative expression and mindfulness

Can make therapy feel less intimidating or confined

🐶 And of course, sessions may include the calming presence of Sunny, my well-trained and intuitive therapy dog.

📍Outdoor therapy available in the Warlingham and Oxted areas.

Please get in touch if you'd like to explore this beautiful way of working together.
E-mail: a.mulier@psychotherapyinsurrey.co.uk

16/06/2025

The heartbreaking reality for many neurodiverse children in mainstream schools:
They try so hard to fit in, to be accepted—yet they’re often misunderstood. 💔

As parents, it's our role to help our children discover their unique gifts and create opportunities where they can truly shine—in environments that celebrate who they are.

Therapy offers a space for reflection, helping parents support both their children's needs and their own.

14/06/2025

When creativity meets free play in nature, something beautiful unfolds.
We share stories under the oak, weave sunshine with our hands, and prepare our hearts for the solstice.
The sun, the heart, and the fire — all connected in warmth and love.

Let’s shine together.
Let’s create beauty, be kind to nature, and nurture our inner light. 🌞🌿💛

14/06/2025

Currently Reading: To Exist as I Am by Dr Grace Spence Green♿

This book isn’t about overcoming, inspiring heroics, or some dramatic way of recovery. It's about living—plain and complex and unapologetically human. It's about not fitting into what society often labels as "normal" and asking: why is inclusion still seen as a privilege and not a right?

Reading To Exist as I Am has shifted so much for me—how I think about privilege, language, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways ableism shapes our world. It’s made me pause and question the systems we often accept as “just the way things are.”

Grace’s writing isn’t just informative, it’s transformative. She invites us to look at disability not through a lens of pity or “inspiration,” but through reality—with compassion, equity, and honesty.

Inclusion isn’t a favor. It’s basic respect. Access isn’t “special.” It’s human. We need to talk more about this—in workplaces, in schools, in everyday life. Because true inclusion means not just allowing someone in, but creating a world where no one is ever made to feel like an outsider in the first place.

Thank you, Grace, for this book. Everyone should read it.