Psychotherapy in Surrey

Psychotherapy in Surrey With 18 years of experience, I’m a qualified and BACP registered Integrative Therapist, offering a safe and supportive space for individuals and families.

I specialize in working with children, teens, and adults, particularly those with special needs.

The Window of Tolerance.Credit : Lindsay Brahman.We always stand a much better chance of staying on course if they pay c...
19/10/2025

The Window of Tolerance.
Credit : Lindsay Brahman.

We always stand a much better chance of staying on course if they pay close attention to our nervous system.

This is especially true for those with a history of trauma.

Learning about fight, flight, fawn, and freeze can be helpful, but learning how these responses manifest in our bodies is where the magic really starts.

When we understand how fight, flight, freeze, or fawn show up for us, we can develop an internal template to refer back to in moments where we are feeling a lot of (or beginning to shut down and feeling no emotion at all) that alerts us when it’s time take steps to soothe our and return to our window of tolerance.

No one has an innate ability to pause during a conflict and reflect “Gosh, I think I might be moving into a freeze response.”

Instead, this realization tends to be something we recognize as we reflect on an experience later.

Growing the capacity to check in with ourselves and notice, in the moment, when we are slipping into a response is one key to learning how to self-soothe, expand our , grow emotionally, and build .

That’s where my new comes in: it’s a tool specifically for helping us recognize when we are moving out of our window of tolerance (where we can listen, learn, and respond thoughtfully) and into a reaction state.

Like the Emotion Sensation Wheel, the Fight, Flight, & Freeze Embodied Wheel is a tool to prompt conversations and build awareness by showing how each of these responses *tends* to show up through physical sensations.

It's not prescriptive- it's a conversation starter. It's meant to teach, to stir, and to prompt conversations that build awareness, connection, and experience through awareness.

Download a digital copy of this art via Lindsay Brahman's website



life doesn’t always go the way we plan…and that’s okay.The ups, downs, and detours are all part of discovering who we ar...
18/10/2025

life doesn’t always go the way we plan…

and that’s okay.

The ups, downs, and detours are all part of discovering who we are and where we’re meant to be.

You’re not lost, you’re exploring

Trust the process, take your time, and enjoy the journey.

Today is World Mental Health day. Make sure you're supporting your mental health every day, not just on world mental hea...
10/10/2025

Today is World Mental Health day.
Make sure you're supporting your mental health every day, not just on world mental health day!

Pause. Breath. Choose.
07/10/2025

Pause. Breath. Choose.

There are people, photos, journeys… and gardens full of mysterious secrets.Last weekend, all of these came together in a...
30/09/2025

There are people, photos, journeys… and gardens full of mysterious secrets.
Last weekend, all of these came together in a beautiful, mindful space during the workshop with Julia Louise — a space for reflection, connection, and healing.

It wasn’t just any workshop about using photography in therapy. It was a gentle unfolding of stories, a quiet invitation to look deeper — through the lens and within ourselves.
We explored sensitivity, vulnerability, acceptance, and those hidden corners we often leave untouched, covered in the cobwebs of time and pain.

It was a privilege to be in Angie Petrie’s magical garden, where water, flowers, trees, and even bees seemed to be part of the storytelling. A place where nature held space for our process.

I am still sitting with what treasures I received that day. Still uncovering them, slowly.
Grateful beyond words to Julia and Angie for creating such nurturing, grounded, and transformative trainings.

Honestly… these experiences make me a better human being.

Sitting with Fear. This week, my clients and I explored our relationship with fear. We asked ourselves:✨ What does fear ...
26/09/2025

Sitting with Fear. This week, my clients and I explored our relationship with fear. We asked ourselves:

✨ What does fear give us?
✨ What does it take away?
✨ If fear had a personality, what would it be?
✨ Do we hear its loud voice or its quiet whisper?

This morning, I invited my own fear for a cup of tea in the woods. We sat silently together under a wise old oak tree. Using SoulCollage® and Inuk metaphoric cards, I reflected on my relationship with fear.

Strangely enough, the closer we get to know our fear, the thinner and weaker it becomes. In fact, I finally dealt with something I had been avoiding for over a year — all because I sat with my fear instead of running from it.

If you woud like to explore, understand, or simply sit with your fear in a safe and supportive space, I woud be honoured to accompany you. I offer face-to-face sessions, online therapy, or walk & talk psychotherapy. 🌱

💌 Get in touch to book a session.

This post mentions su***de, please read with care. 💜Today is World Su***de Prevention Day and the theme for this year is...
10/09/2025

This post mentions su***de, please read with care. 💜

Today is World Su***de Prevention Day and the theme for this year is 'Changing the narrative'.

If you're concerned about someone's safety, help them to contact their GP or call 111 and press option 2 for urgent mental health support.

Other vital resources include:
Free crisis line 116 123 Samaritans
Crisis line for under 35s 0800 068 4141 PAPYRUS Prevention of Young Su***de
and Mental Health charities such as Mind and Rethink Mental Illness

A parent DD has shared her struggles:💔 Unless you’re a parent of a child with ADHD, you will never truly understand what...
10/09/2025

A parent DD has shared her struggles:
💔 Unless you’re a parent of a child with ADHD, you will never truly understand what being an ADHD mum feels like.
It’s an emotional rollercoaster every single day. The mum guilt that eats away at you… the constant why? Why was my child chosen to have ADHD? The heartbreak when your child tells you they hate you, tells you they wish you were dead, or that they don’t want to be alive. 💔

Then comes the endless fight to be seen by a paediatrician, to get the help and support our children desperately need.

To outsiders? All you see is a “naughty” child. A child whose parents must be to blame. So many dirty looks. So many whispers. So many comments like “Oh, my child would never behave like that.” Well, lucky for you that your child doesn’t have ADHD. Lucky for you that you can live a “normal” life.

But let me tell you this: we are not bad parents. We are doing the complete opposite — we are fighting every single day to be the best parents we possibly can for a child whose brain never switches off, a child who struggles from the moment they wake up to the moment they fall asleep.

We set boundaries. We have rules (yes, even if they don’t look the same as yours). We correct our children when they’re wrong. Sometimes we have to ignore certain behaviours, not because we approve, but because if we don’t, all hell breaks loose. That doesn’t make us bad parents — it makes us adaptable, learning every single day how to support our child in the best way we can.

So to the parents who judge… to the people who think ADHD kids are just “naughty”… to those who think we’re failing:

👉 MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. 👈

We don’t need your opinions. We don’t need your comments. And we definitely don’t need your dirty looks. We already carry enough.

To every ADHD parent out there — you are not alone. You are stronger than you’ll ever know. 🩷

A morning conversation with a wise, old tree 🌳Storms may come — the rain, the wind, the chaos — but if our roots are dee...
03/09/2025

A morning conversation with a wise, old tree 🌳
Storms may come — the rain, the wind, the chaos — but if our roots are deep, we can stand strong through it all.

Today, I'm taking a quiet moment to breathe, to feel the rain, and to be truly grateful. Grateful for the people who surround me, for the support networks that hold me up when things get tough.

And especially grateful for the wonderful nurses at Dementia UK — their care, compassion, and strength mean more than words can say. 💙

If you'd like to support this amazing charity and the vital work they do, here’s the link to donate: https://fundraise.dementiauk.org/fundraisers/aurelijamulier?fbclid=IwdGRjcAMkyvRjbGNrAyON0mV4dG4DYWVtAjExAAEeTAIAYVkCU8UYHompUCW1HdqUSFHAEYFnTYcML0sZ9SR7xRDDz3x5r0u7MYI_aem_C_0sEKrFRVulz9tNuxV-fg

🍂 Happy 1st September – a new season, a chance to pause and care for your nervous system.✨ Self-soothing is simply calmi...
01/09/2025

🍂 Happy 1st September – a new season, a chance to pause and care for your nervous system.

✨ Self-soothing is simply calming yourself by feeling safe, grounded, and cared for. Try experimenting with what works best for you:

🕯️ Create comfort: dim the lights, light a candle, wrap up in a blanket.

👂 Engage your senses: sip something warm, listen to calming music, enjoy a favourite scent.

🐾 Use touch: pet your cat, hold something soft or squishy, trace small circles on a surface.

💃 Move gently: stretch, dance, wiggle, or rock side-to-side – notice what feels good.

🌟 Find a “glimmer”: those tiny moments of joy or connection (a warm mug, your pet’s gaze, a kind smile).

If you would like more support in creating calm, looking after yourself, and making space in your weekly routine, I am here. 💛

I offer a peaceful space in Oxted, online sessions, or autumn walk & talk therapy surrounded by colour.

We’ve all said it without thinking: “You’re okay.” But sometimes… they’re not.That’s why I prefer asking:👉 “Is your body...
28/08/2025

We’ve all said it without thinking: “You’re okay.” But sometimes… they’re not.

That’s why I prefer asking:
👉 “Is your body hurt, or are your feelings hurt?”

This simple question does two powerful things:
1️⃣ It helps young people distinguish between physical pain and emotional pain.
2️⃣ It validates that both kinds of pain matter. 💛

When we tell a crying child, “You’re okay,” we may unintentionally shut down their ability to express what they’re truly feeling. But when we ask, we open the door to trust, communication, and emotional awareness.

Because young people don’t just need us to fix the scraped knee…
They need us to recognize the hurt heart, too.

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