Your Birth Story

01/05/2026

Ignore, deny, go to sleep to help the vast majority of early labour to pass by x

01/05/2026

Policy and guidlines can give a sense of safety and when working under immense pressure, long hours and with little support, yes it can feel confronting to have a recomendation questioned.

only by gathering information amd making informed decisions can you get woman centered care over policy and guidline driven care.

Be curious
Be collaborative

30/04/2026

Building confidence and a vocabulary in gathering information during pregnancy xan really benefit your birth.

Even routine offers that you are totally comfortable with are a great opportunity to practise gathering information and making a decision rather than blindly trusting and saying Yes.

Because even things that feel benign like being weighed can potentially have an impact on access to water, when induction is offered and choice of place to birth. And these recommendations may change without strong evidence to support them.

By gathering information early you can protect your birth and build confidence in making informed decisions

29/04/2026

I have a lot of issues with the advice of "just say no"

This ignores cultural norms, societal expectations amd power dynamics.

There are better questions to ask to shift the power back in your favour rather than just saying no to a recomendation or suggestion.

Make sure the birth partner ypu choose is not a people pleaser, otherwise they will have real trouble being the advocate you need in your birthing space

24/04/2026

24/04/2026

Action bias doesn’t just show up in you during birth, it shows up in birth partners, too.

When labour gets intense, the instinct to do something can kick in: offering constant suggestions, asking lots of questions, trying to “fix” what’s happening. It comes from love but birth isn’t a problem to solve.

It’s something to accept and surrender to

Here are a few ways your birth partner can support without overwhelming:

BIRTH PARTNER TIPS

• Be a steady, grounded presence your calm matters more than constant action
• Follow their lead, take cues from what they’re doing, not what you think they “should” do
• Pause before speaking, ask yourself if it’s helpful, or just easing your own discomfort
• Keep reassurance simple: “I’m here”, “you’re doing it”, “you’re safe”
• Get comfortable with the intensity, You don’t need to fix it for it to be okay
• Prepare ahead of time, talk through preferences so you’re not guessing in the moment

Sometimes the most supportive thing you can do is less, not more.

You don’t need all the answers, just your presence 🤍

SAVE THESE TIPS AND SEND TO YOUR PARTNER. If you want more indepth holding, send a DM and find out more about my birth team Ready course. Designed to take your birth partner from fixer to holder

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23/04/2026

Guidlines and the chefs special have the same legal power. When you realise this, you can feel more confident to gather the informatuon you need to make a decision that is right for you.

Simple reframing tools can be a powerful way to gain back control in your birth

17/04/2026

There is no right or wrong answer to how you manage this situation.

Ask yourself:

Where do I feel most safe and in control?

What do I need to put in place to navigate the challenges that might come with this option?

How does it feel and look to take this option?

When you have explored your options and found which feels aligned for you, you can start planning for it so it doesnt feel like an emergency in the moment, just a plan unfolding gently.