Stella Patterson, Rapid Transformational Therapist, Irvine Way, Reading (2025)

22/11/2025

I’ve been noticing something about the way I speak…
how often I soften myself with a tiny word: “just.”

“I just wanted to say…”
“I’m just checking…”
“It’s just a thought…”

On the surface it seems harmless.
But the energy underneath?
It’s an apology.
A quiet shrinking.
A way of making myself smaller before I’ve even shown up.

Somewhere along the way many of us learned that our needs, our ideas, our presence should take up less space.
That we should cushion our truth
so it lands more gently.
So we don’t inconvenience anyone.
So we remain agreeable, acceptable, harmless.

But we weren’t born to dilute ourselves.

So now I’m doing a simple experiment:
taking the word “just” out of my sentences.
Not to sound bolder…
but to sound truer.

“I wanted to say…”
“I’m checking…”
“This feels important…”

And the shift is subtle but powerful.
Clearer. Cleaner. More grounded.
It feels like reclaiming space I didn’t realise I’d been giving away.

If any part of this feels familiar…
try removing the word “just” for a day.
Notice what rises.
Notice what changes.
Notice who you become.

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

21/11/2025

“Just be grateful” can feel like a dismissal when your heart is hurting or your body is overwhelmed…
And you don’t deserve that kind of pressure.

Gratitude is not about denying your pain or forcing yourself to be positive.

Real gratitude is the softest thing…
A moment your body actually trusts.
A breath that feels easier.
A pocket of light in a difficult day.
A tiny sensation of relief.

That’s the kind of gratitude that heals.
The kind that honours your humanity… not hides it. 🌷

🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

20/11/2025

Pain doesn’t always ask for big change.
Sometimes it asks for one moment of safety…
one breath…
one sensation your body can soften into…

Gratitude creates those moments.
Not the forced kind, the tiny, truthful kind your body actually believes.

Warmth.
Softness.
Light.
A moment that feels even 1% easier.

These micro-moments teach the nervous system that it doesn’t need to brace as tightly.
And when the body softens, pain often softens too…

🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

19/11/2025

Gratitude isn’t a list you write…
It’s a moment your body recognises as safe.

It’s the warmth of a cup,
the softness of a blanket,
sunlight touching your face,
a dog resting beside you,
one breath that feels like relief.

These are the moments your nervous system trusts.

Micro-gratitude is powerful because your body believes it.

Notice one tiny moment today…. and let your body soften into it.

🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

18/11/2025

Gratitude isn’t about pretending everything is okay…
it’s about teaching your nervous system what safety feels like.

When you feel even one genuine moment of gratitude, the brain shifts out of fear.

It’s not magic.

It’s biology…

…and it’s one of the most powerful tools we have for healing. 🌷

🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

17/11/2025

Most people think gratitude is about being positive…
but it’s really about being safe.

Your nervous system can’t be in protection and gratitude at the same time.

It has to choose.

Fear contracts.
Gratitude softens.

And in that softening…
your body finds a tiny opening.
A breath.
A moment where the world feels a little less heavy.
A moment it can build upon.

Gratitude doesn’t require your life to be perfect, just a single moment where your body whispers,
“This feels okay… this feels safe…”

Those are the moments that change everything. 🌷

🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻 🌷 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

16/11/2025

We’re always expecting something, even if we don’t realise it…

And those expectations quietly shape the way our nervous system moves through the world…

the way our body responds…

and the way life unfolds around us…

This week, pause and ask yourself:

✨ “What am I expecting from my life?”

And then, even more importantly:

✨ “What life would I like to expect instead?”

Your forecast matters.

Your body listens.

And your life shifts when your expectations soften in your favour…

🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

15/11/2025

We don’t just carry memories…
we carry expectations.

Old beliefs, old fears, old pain
can colour the way we walk into each day without us even realising it…

I’ve lived that.
I still have moments where I feel the old forecast rising.

But softening it, even a little,
has changed my entire experience of life.

You don’t need to force anything.

Just try a gentle expectation today:
“Maybe this will feel lighter than I think.”

🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

14/11/2025

Most of us don’t realise how much tension we carry simply because we’re expecting things to be hard.

Expectation can pull the nervous system into bracing, before anything even happens.

Today’s invitation is simple: soften the forecast.

You don’t need to expect magic or joy or transformation.

Just soften…

“Maybe today will be a little lighter.”
“Maybe my body can feel something new.”
“Maybe I can meet myself with ease.”

Every gentle expectation teaches your body a different way to be.

🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

13/11/2025

Our bodies are always listening.

This week I shared the story of a woman whose chronic pain disappeared when she stopped expecting it.

Her healing began not with medication, but with a new forecast… an expectation of softness instead of pain.

Expectation is a bridge between belief and biology.

When we expect fear, our body braces.
When we expect peace, it exhales.

Today, whisper to your body:
“It’s safe to expect ease.”

🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

12/11/2025

The brain’s main job isn’t to react… it’s to predict.

This means your body often lives one step ahead of your thoughts… preparing for what it expects.

That’s why the work of healing is so often the work of softening expectation, of teaching the body a new forecast.

Try whispering this to yourself today:
“It’s safe to expect good things.”

🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷 🪷

Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and for reading this far, it truly means a lot to me. 💜

I pour a lot of heart into creating these posts because I want more people to know they don’t have to stay stuck in pain. Every small interaction helps these healing messages reach more people who may be struggling in silence, and that’s why I create them.

If this post resonated with you, or you know someone who might find it helpful, it would mean so much if you’d follow me, like, save, share, or comment below. Your engagement really does make a difference. 🌿

And if you’re ready to take the next step on your own healing journey, or even just curious, you can book a free discovery call, and we can explore together, how my work can help you move beyond pain and reconnect with your authentic self. ✨

Online therapy, RTT therapist, rapidtransformationaltherapy mind set coach, hypnotherapy, mind body pain, neuroplasticity, neural pathways, pain coaching, tms, autoimmune, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, psychophysical pain, rheumatoid arthritis, anxiety, bespoke therapy and coaching

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