Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy

Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy MBACP (Accred)
Do you feel stuck, overwhelmed or sad. Perhaps counselling can help.

Sometimes the most healing thing we can say isn't praise for strength, but recognition of what made that strength necess...
24/04/2026

Sometimes the most healing thing we can say isn't praise for strength, but recognition of what made that strength necessary.

When I acknowledge with clients that they shouldn't have had to be brave, something often shifts.

It's the validation of being truly seen, of having someone recognise that childhood courage usually means childhood protection was missing.

You weren't meant to carry that burden.

You deserved to simply be held, safe, and small.

Sobriety is so much more than just not drinking. It's about building a life you don't need to escape from. It's about he...
22/04/2026

Sobriety is so much more than just not drinking.

It's about building a life you don't need to escape from.

It's about healing, growing, and becoming the person you were always meant to be.

We spend so much of our lives fused with our pain, convinced that our struggles define us. But Dr Kristin Neff's insight...
20/04/2026

We spend so much of our lives fused with our pain, convinced that our struggles define us.

But Dr Kristin Neff's insight reveals something revolutionary: we have a choice in how we relate to our suffering.

When we're identified with pain, we're drowning in it.

When we become the compassionate witness, we're still experiencing the pain, but we're no longer consumed by it.

This isn't about positive thinking or dismissing real hurt.

It's about discovering that within you exists both the pain and the capacity to hold yourself through it with kindness.

That gentle, witnessing presence is always available.

The moment you access it, you remember: you are not your pain.

You are the one capable of caring for yourself through it.

And that changes everything.

This quote reminds us that healing isn't about fixing or eliminating parts of ourselves. It's about building a compassio...
17/04/2026

This quote reminds us that healing isn't about fixing or eliminating parts of ourselves.

It's about building a compassionate relationship with every aspect of who we are, especially the wounded places we've tried to hide or push away.

When we approach ourselves with curiosity instead of judgement, we create the safety needed for real transformation.

What part of you is asking for this kind of gentle acceptance today?


What happens when past trauma quietly shapes the way we love, connect, and show up in relationships?In this powerful and...
15/04/2026

What happens when past trauma quietly shapes the way we love, connect, and show up in relationships?

In this powerful and personal podcast, Brian and Stephanie open up about the reality of living with CPTSD and codependency.

They take you behind the scenes of their own relationship, sharing honest insights into how these patterns develop and the real impact they can have over time.

This isn’t just a conversation about struggle.

It’s about awareness, growth, and what it takes to break free. Brian shares how he began to untangle the behaviours rooted in complex trauma, and how that journey led him toward healthier, more balanced relationships.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand, this podcast offers both clarity and hope.

Do you ever feel like you're showing love in all the right ways, but somehow it's not landing with your partner?Here's t...
13/04/2026

Do you ever feel like you're showing love in all the right ways, but somehow it's not landing with your partner?

Here's the thing: we all speak different languages when it comes to love.

Understanding yours (and theirs) could be the missing piece in your relationship puzzle.

In this blog, I share how to decode what truly makes you feel valued, spot the clues your partner's been giving you all along, and start conversations that actually bring you closer.

If you've been wondering why your efforts sometimes miss the mark, this might just change everything.

The hardest truth about recovery? No one can do it for you.You can't guilt someone into getting sober. You can't beg the...
10/04/2026

The hardest truth about recovery? No one can do it for you.

You can't guilt someone into getting sober. You can't beg them, shame them, or give them ultimatums. Real change doesn't work that way.

It happens when something shifts inside. When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the fear of change. When they look in the mirror and think, "I can't keep doing this."

That moment is theirs alone. That decision is theirs alone.

If you're waiting for that moment, it's okay.

If you've already had it, I'm proud of you.

If someone you love hasn't reached it yet, I know how hard that is.

But lasting change? It only comes from within.

One of the most healing things I can offer you is my own humanity. I don't sit across from you as someone who has it all...
08/04/2026

One of the most healing things I can offer you is my own humanity.

I don't sit across from you as someone who has it all sorted out.

I sit with you as someone who understands what it means to struggle, to question, to need support.

My own therapy isn't just professional development, it's how I stay grounded, how I process my own issues, how I remain present for you.

Because you deserve a counsellor who practices what she preaches.

You deserve someone real.

Not everyone who's been hurt goes on to hurt others. Some of the kindest, most empathetic people you'll meet have been t...
06/04/2026

Not everyone who's been hurt goes on to hurt others.

Some of the kindest, most empathetic people you'll meet have been through absolute hell.

They've chosen to break the cycle instead of continuing it.

They create the safe spaces they never had, offer the compassion they were denied, and turn their mess into their message.

Your past doesn't write your future.

Healing is possible, and healers can come from the most wounded places.

Recognising the patterns of overthinking is the first step to breaking free from mental loops. Whether you're replaying ...
03/04/2026

Recognising the patterns of overthinking is the first step to breaking free from mental loops.

Whether you're replaying past mistakes, catastrophising future scenarios, or stuck in analysis paralysis, understanding these behaviours helps you regain control of your thoughts and move forward with clarity.

What if the very thing that makes you feel secure in your relationship is also killing your desire? This podcast episode...
01/04/2026

What if the very thing that makes you feel secure in your relationship is also killing your desire?

This podcast episode with Esther Perel explores the paradox at the heart of modern love: our simultaneous craving for safety and hunger for freedom.

She turns her unflinching gaze on marriage, and what she reveals might just shift how you think about intimacy and connection.

It's essential listening.

Po*******hy can quietly erode intimacy and trust in relationships, creating unrealistic expectations and communication b...
30/03/2026

Po*******hy can quietly erode intimacy and trust in relationships, creating unrealistic expectations and communication breakdowns.

If this issue is affecting your relationship, you're not alone.

Couples counselling provides a safe space to rebuild connection and address these challenges openly.

Taking the first step towards healing is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Your relationship deserves to thrive.

Read the full blog post on my site or get in touch to learn how counselling can help.

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