06/06/2021
Own your choice...
Sometimes in life, many times in fact, we make decisions with short term importance and no long term consequences- these are the easy decisions. What to wear, what to do on your day off, what colour to paint the shed... all short term dilemmas with minimal, if any sequelae. The key definer of these is that they haven’t been mused over for a long time and the outcome is not critically important.
Now, the other decisions in life matter more. They have real impact on self and those around you. Examples could be career choice, marriage/divorce or whether to have weight loss surgery etc. Decisions that need careful balance of pros and cons or risks versus benefit. The key definer of these decisions is they are one way, life changers. We can call these decisions “lifer decisions”
We have several mantras in our service which we obsessively, repeatedly discuss so that they become automated. One of our mantras is “the only way is forward”. We keep moving and can’t go back. This is a way of saying forget and park what has gone before and embrace the future. So back to the lifer decisions...
If we fuse those with our mantra, there is no choice but to accept and embrace them. Time spent missing what went before, or time spent worrying what others think is wasted time that does not serve you and actually wastes your precious time. A day feeling sad about what you might be missing is a days worth of time on Earth wasted. COVID has taught us this. Life is precious and short. Sad retrospective reflections often glamorise how you THINK you felt, but actually the reality of that time was not quite as good. You get the point? If you think back to a time looking at a photo - smiling faces, what was behind the smile? Not always remembered in the photo...
You have made a decision- a decision that was based on information and personal circumstance. You made a good decision, a brave decision, now own it. For your detractors or haters, cut them out. Really important to keep your circle small with only genuine vibes. The best way to identify a narcissist is to call them out on their behaviours and see how quickly they run away- no one has time for the narco’s in their lives. Your life should be enriched by your circle and should be joyful. Your lifer decision should be celebrated by them and this should bring your validated powerful ownership - “I made this decision, I’m owning this decision and those who make me feel sad, ciao bye”
Today, reflect on your lifer decision and smile that little bit wider.
Have a great Sunday folks x