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23/11/2025

18/11/2025

✨Sometimes the signs aren’t loud.
Sometimes they look like a quiet child who tries really hard to fit in…
…or a teen who feels “too much” but can’t explain why.
Or someone who notices every shift in the room except their own exhaustion.

✨For years, many people grow up believing these things are personal flaws: Such as
the picky eating, the big emotions, the anxiety, the perfectionism, the feeling of being slightly “out of place” ,needing predictability and difficulty with change.

✨But often… they can be signs of being neurodivergent, that were simply never recognised.

✨ When we understand the subtle signs, we understand *each other* better.
And for the autistic people who’ve spent a lifetime masking, that understanding can feel like finally being seen.

💚At Flourish With Neurodiversity, we specialise in ADHD, AuDHD and Tourettes Syndrome, supporting children, teens & adults with neurodivergent needs through neurodiversity-affirming services. Offering personalised services to support you and find strategies that work for you - through specialised coaching, sensory support, workplace and school navigation, disability benefits guidance, Dyslexia support, training, resources and more.

💜Book a free 20-minute Discovery Call to see how we can support you at www.flourishwithneurodiversity.com or email tasha@flourishwithneurodiversity.com

17/11/2025

17/11/2025

Based on Hoo Peninsula, Rochester.

16/11/2025

I pushed my into dissociative parts of my personality, excluding it from consciousness. Healing has come from befriending these disowned parts of me, developing the self-compassion that I lived all my life without.

Read more: https://www.carolynspring.com/books/

16/11/2025

Good Morning all. ☺️

15/11/2025

So many of us have the tendency to put other people’s needs before our own.

It’s called people pleasing and we don’t always realise we’re doing it because we’ve been this way since childhood.

What it looks like to other people is someone who is always there for them.

Whatever you ask them, they will always say yes, dropping everything to help you.

Even if it doesn’t suit them or their plans, they will change things around to accommodate you.

They just cannot say no, almost as if their life depends on it.

The discomfort they experience saying no is just too much. It might feel like every bone in their body Is saying No! I don’t want to do that! But yet they still give in and say yes.

Sound familiar?

If you look at your life, you might not think of yourself as a people pleaser but you may be starting to FEEL like one.

Maybe these sound familiar.

Activities you would usuallly enjoy start to feel like just another task to complete.

Having the physical or emotional energy for work starts to feel too much.

Managing the kids feels overwhelming.

A night out with friends makes you want to lie on the sofa and shut out the world.

These are the long term results of putting everyone else first and yourself last.

There is a little child inside of you who in the past, learnt to please others as a transaction for love, attention and safety.

But you’re no longer a child reliant on other adults to make sure you’re loved, safe and seen.

That is your job as an Adult to give yourself those things.

So if this post resonates, take that little child by the hand.

Tell them they can stand down now and go off to play.

Allow your Adult self to start practising saying NO and setting healthy boundaries.

Practise putting YOUR needs first to protect your emotional space and start to feel the relief and release of saying no and putting yourself first.

How do I know this? Been there, done that, got many, many t-shirts 🥰

Meme 🙏 StacieSwift

15/11/2025

There's always a good reason for why we think, feel and act the way we do after . It might not be convenient, helpful, or useful, but its logic is that of trying to stay safe in a dangerous world.

Read more in my book 'Unshame': https://www.carolynspring.com/books/