04/01/2026
🎉 About New Year’s resolutions and goals 🎉
The new year can put so much pressure on us to think we have to make resolutions and goals, make drastic changes to some area of our life, and become a different person. Suddenly. Overnight. All while it's freezing outside and Christmas just made the past two weeks all over the place 🫠
Year after year we make our resolutions and hope this time we will actually stick to them! But most New Year's resolutions end up failing pretty quick.
Why? 🤔
Because we can’t just wake up, live the same way we have been, have the same thoughts, and think we can change at a deep level. If we don't do the inner work, our resolutions likely won't stick.
➡️ We have to change our deep rooted beliefs, how we hold our body, and our nervous system patterns. These are what drive our behaviours and choices.
The New Year resolutions we create: to join a gym, start a hobby, eat healthier, not let a certain person trigger you anymore, cut down alcohol or lose weight…. means a huge change to the current wiring and patterns of our brain and nervous system. And our brain and nervous system subconsciously seeks the familiar, to know it’s safe. Unfamiliar can feel unsafe. So it will keep seeking your current habits and patterns rather than new ones. As well as some of these things being our coping mechanisms such as food and alcohol. This is why change is so hard! 🤯
➡️ A lot of the things we desire actually come more naturally when we do the inner work and let go of limiting beliefs, regulate our nervous system as much as we can throughout the day, and hold compassion for ourselves.
So instead of battling your willpower, get curious!
✨ How does your nervous system feel on a regular basis? - Frazzled? Stuck and tired? Angry? Depressed? Can’t switch off?
✨ What are your common thoughts? - I’m not good enough? Life is stressful? People don’t like me? My body doesn’t look good? I won’t be okay without this?
✨ How do you hold your body? - Tense? Frozen? Buzzing? Slouched?
Really begin to notice what state you hold yourself in, throughout your day, day in day out.
Start to soften the tension, and mobilise any frozen energy. Realise all the negative stories about yourself that you’ve built up since childhood, allowing yourself to understand them and why they are actually inaccurate. Bring calming practices into your day that soothe your nervous system and remind you you’re safe.
This is where real change happens, and you start to create the life you want. As you become a vibrational match to that which you are seeking. And create more safety and capacity for new things.
So rather than make goals and new year resolutions, just start noticing yourself more. Slow down. Soften. Just be here without thinking there is something wrong. Slowly unwind the tension and false beliefs.
This is true change and regulation at a deep and lasting level.
And don’t forget, the actual new year begins in springtime! 🌸🌿🌤️
When everything starts coming alive again, more life giving sunshine appears, flowers bloom and seeds sprout! 🙏🏼
