True Self Counselling and Psychotherapy

01/03/2026

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People with ADHD often experience difficulties when plans change unexpectedly. This isn’t simply forgetfulness or impulsivity, it’s related to how their brains mentally rehearse events. Individuals with ADHD frequently pre-plan and visualize upcoming tasks or social interactions to manage attention and anticipate challenges. When last-minute changes occur, these mental rehearsals are disrupted, creating stress, frustration, and cognitive overload.

Psychologists explain that ADHD brains rely on structured anticipation to regulate attention and reduce uncertainty. Sudden alterations force the brain to reallocate cognitive resources rapidly, which can overwhelm executive function and emotional regulation. This explains why someone with ADHD may appear irritable, anxious, or overwhelmed during unexpected shifts, even for minor changes.

Strategies such as flexible planning, mindfulness, and incremental adaptation can help reduce the stress of unpredictability. Breaking plans into smaller steps, building in buffer time, and acknowledging potential disruptions allows individuals to adjust more easily while preserving focus and emotional stability.

Understanding that these challenges stem from neural processing patterns rather than laziness or poor planning fosters empathy and better communication. With awareness and adaptive strategies, people with ADHD can navigate last-minute changes with less stress while maintaining productivity and emotional well-being.

23/02/2026

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13/02/2026

Due to some clients going away for the half term I've got a few random slots available. If anybody needs a personal check in, longer intensive therapy session or some support/advice regarding child/Young person plesse drop me an inbox and I'll try my best to get you in :)

12/02/2026

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09/02/2026

Morning all! Dunchurch has basically turned into a gridlocked island surrounded by murky water so unless you're coming by helicopter I'd suggest allowing some extra time!

12/01/2026

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24/11/2025

Due to a random collection of cancellations all on the same day I have a 3 hour window availabile tomorrow if anyone wants a single session. This can be helpful for previous clients wanting a check in or some ad hoc time to process an event/s. Or a parent/carer wanting some time to discuss their young person's needs and behaviours and how best to help support them or some strategies for managing your own emotions and reactions to their challenging behaviours.
Please inbox me to discuss further.

28/10/2025

16/09/2025

👫INCLUSIVE SPACES GROUP SESSIONS👫

We still have some spaces available on our Inclusive Spaces group sessions. If you would like to join us, you can book a space via this link- https://www.enhancingfutures.co.uk/group-sessions

⭐️If you would like to book a trial session to see if our sessions are the right fit for your young person, you can email us at groups@enhancingfutures.co.uk and we can arrange this for you. Our trial sessions are 1 hour and cost £5 per young person. ⭐️

📍Our sessions are held at- One Regent Place Wellbeing Centre
1 Regent Place
Rugby
Warwickshire
CV21 2PJ

If you have any questions, please email groups@enhancingfutures.co.uk

15/09/2025

This is tough. Managing to accept the trauma and then using energy for healing.
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15/09/2025

Sensory processing is how people feel and react to information received from their senses. Autistic people can be much more or less sensitive to sensory experiences than non-autistic people.

14/09/2025

You're never too much

I wonder if anyone has ever dared to tell the ocean it's too big.

That it takes up too much space on the map; that its waves are too loud, too wild, too persistent. That it should calm down, shrink itself. Learn to stay within the lines drawn by logical hands and tidy minds. I wonder if anyone has ever stood on a cliff above the roaring blue sea and shouted, “Could you just not be so much?”

It would be futile, because the ocean doesn't answer. It just keeps moving; vast, unapologetic and sometimes overwhelming, kissing the shore with salt and secrets, swallowing the sand in its tides. It doesn’t shrink to fit a postcard. It doesn’t hush itself so fragile hearts can sleep. It doesn’t care if someone’s shoes get wet because they stepped too close and didn’t understand what they were standing next to.

And yet, here we are: asked every day to be smaller, quieter, softer. To make our griefs neater, our joys quieter, our rage more reasonable. We are told to wear our emotions like perfume -just a hint, just enough to be interesting, but never too much. Never too much.

But you, my love...

you were not born to be 'just enough'. You were not put here to smooth out the edges of someone else’s comfort by shrinking and silencing yourself. Just like the ocean, your depth is not a flaw; it is a force. So when life feels like the waves - vast, unapologetic and overwhelming - allow yourself to feel it.

You don't have to apologise for your tears, my love. The ocean doesn't bow to those that stand at its edge and complain about its depth.

*****

Becky Hemsley 2025
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This was the brand new Sunday poem on my Patreon page last week.