New Frame Therapy

30/07/2025

Sometimes the nervous system doesn’t need another journal prompt.

Or another suggestion to go meditate on your own.

Sometimes it needs someone.

Someone who sees you, doesn’t rush you, and helps you feel safe enough to be where you are.

Because nervous system regulation isn’t always about doing it alone.
It’s not always a deep breath or a cold plunge.

Sometimes it’s a friend who doesn’t ask you to explain your tears.

A therapist who tracks your pace, not the clock.
A soft “you’re allowed to feel this” when your brain says you’re being too much.

We heal through co-regulation first.
Before self-regulation becomes truly possible.
Before the tools start to land.

If you’ve spent your life in survival mode, you might not trust that kind of connection yet.
That’s okay too.

But I want you to know it’s not a weakness to need others.
Especially if your early experiences taught you that you had to hold it all alone.

This month, I have space to work 1:1 with a few women who are ready to explore what healing in relationship can feel like, at a pace that feels safe and doable.

We work gently with the nervous system, attachment, and the deeper layers that have shaped how you relate to yourself and others.

You don’t have to try and figure it out on your own anymore.

💌 DM me or head to the link in bio to find out more about working together this summer ☀️

14/07/2025

10/07/2025

If your father was emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or simply not there you may have learned to rely on yourself early.

To be the capable one.

The one who doesn’t ask for much.

The one who gets on with it.

But underneath the high-achieving and over-functioning, there can be a deep fear of being too much, or not enough.

A sense that closeness isn’t safe.

That if you depend on someone, it might fall apart.

Father wounds often show up quietly.

In the pressure you put on yourself,
in the way you apologise for having needs,
in how hard it is to soften, even when you’re exhausted.

Naming these patterns can help you to finally break free from putting pressure on yourself to be everything you didn’t receive in childhood.

07/07/2025

Self abandonment shows up in all of the little ways that you silence yourself.

Scroll to the end for a somatic practice that helps you to check in with yourself and get back into your body.

30/06/2025

Childhood trauma goes deeper than what you experience - it’s also what you didn’t receive.

When parents minimise or invalidate your feelings, you’re left believing your emotions don’t matter.

Maybe you were told things like, “You’re overreacting,” or, “It’s not that serious.”

Over time, you start to push your feelings aside because the message you received was clear: your emotions aren’t important.

As an adult, this can show up as difficulty expressing your needs, feeling like you’re “too much,” or guilt when setting boundaries.

You might find yourself staying in unhealthy relationships, repeating that old pattern of ignoring your emotional needs.

Healing means learning to trust your feelings again.

It’s validating yourself in ways you weren’t taught growing up.

While it takes time to rebuild this connection, your emotions are valid, and you deserve to honour them.

Healing begins with giving yourself permission to feel.

29/11/2024

You can now listen to my new podcast Healing Childhood Trauma for Millenial Women available in all the usual ways you find podcasts.

If you want to learn how to overcome people pleasing, how to thrive after experiencing trauma and how to improve your relationships, this podcast is for you.

There are four episodes available now to get you started on your healing journey.

Have a listen and let me know which is your favourite episode!

🎙️Link to the show in the comments⬇️

20/10/2024

Being the bigger person does not mean you put yourself in harms way.

Showing empathy is not martyrdom.

Share this post and use it as your reminder that your emotional wellbeing matters.

14/10/2024

Sometimes, ‘being the bigger person’ is just code for ignoring your own needs.

For people pleasers, this can feel like the right thing to do—but it often leaves you feeling drained and resentful.

Standing up for yourself isn’t about being a villain; it’s about creating space for healthy relationships, where your voice and boundaries are respected.

You’re not being ‘too much’—you’re simply choosing self-respect, and that’s the foundation of any real connection.

08/10/2024

✨ Thinking about starting trauma therapy but not sure where to begin?

It can feel like a big step, but it’s one that can truly transform your life.

If you’re ready to dive into your healing journey, send me a DM, and let’s talk about how we can work together to get you feeling more secure and confident. 💬

Before we jump in, though, here are 5 things you should know before starting trauma therapy.

These tips will help you feel more prepared and understand what the process really looks like
(spoiler: it’s not all about reliving the past).

Swipe through and let me know which one resonates the most with you! 💞

Lizandra x

30/09/2024

Trauma doesn’t just live in our minds; it’s carried in our bodies, our nervous systems, and our relationships.
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When we talk about trauma in therapy, it’s not about reliving the past—it’s about understanding how the past shows up in your present.
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The truth is, trauma often hides in plain sight. It’s in the way you feel triggered by a conversation, the way you struggle to set boundaries, or the way you expect relationships to end in disappointment.
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What most people don’t know is that trauma doesn’t need to be a massive, life-altering event. It can stem from feeling unseen, unheard, or unsafe—sometimes for years.
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Healing trauma isn’t about forgetting what happened; it’s about giving yourself the space to feel, process, and release the hold it has on you.

If you’re ready to start untangling the past and creating a better future, therapy helps to you break free from the patterns you never chose but find yourself stuck in.
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Healing starts here.

❤️‍🩹Send me a DM or head to my profile to book a free 15 minute call.

19/09/2024

Childhood trauma isn’t just the major thing that happened to you, but also what you DIDN’T get.

Things like:
❤️‍🩹Emotional support
❤️‍🩹Feeling protected
❤️‍🩹Being listened to
❤️‍🩹Only feeling loved if you’re being “good”

Even if you’re not where you want to be right now, you’ll get there.

Save this post for later when you need a reminder 💞

Lizandra x

10/09/2024

It’s normal to seek and want the approval of others.

When that’s the only way we can feel good about ourselves it means it gives people the power to take it away.

That’s where you can start to feel worthless and unlovable.

When we find our worth within ourselves it’s something that’s a constant, no matter how the people around us behave.

If you have an anxious attachment this is especially important because you’ll often seek external validation to feel loved and accepted.

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