Victoria Jane Therapy

18/05/2026

AI is not the threat to your child's mental health.
The absence of a regulated, present adult is.

After years working in Local Authority residential homes with young people in crisis, I’ve seen something important:

Children do not become emotionally unsafe because technology exists.
They become emotionally unsafe when the adults around them are emotionally unavailable, dysregulated, disconnected, exhausted, or inconsistent.

A child with access to AI, gaming, social media, or technology still needs the same thing they have always needed:

Presence.
Connection.
Boundaries.
Co-regulation.
Emotional safety.

This is where the work of Nonviolent Resistance (NVR) changed my understanding of behaviour.

NVR teaches us that escalation is rarely solved by more control, punishment, or fear. Young people do not calm through dominance. They calm through the steady presence of regulated adults who refuse to disconnect from them.

Many parents today are trying to compete with screens, influencers, algorithms, and online worlds…
But the deeper issue is often this:

Children are emotionally alone while surrounded by stimulation.

The solution is not simply removing devices.
It is rebuilding relational safety.

A present adult can interrupt shame.
A regulated adult can absorb escalation without abandoning connection.
A consistent adult becomes the anchor a young person returns to when the world feels chaotic.

Technology is moving fast.
But children still develop through relationships.

And no algorithm will ever replace the nervous system of a calm, emotionally available adult.

17/05/2026

Competence is not the same as capacity. You can be very good at something that is slowly emptying you.

MOTHERS change the world.

You are the first person your child looks up to, to demonstrate how to live, when you sacrifice your needs, play small, stay quiet when something affects you or get angry, that’s what they learn too.

To prioritise yourself is selfish, keeping healthy boundaries and having fun is exactly what you want them to do, so why don’t you model that?

The Generational Reset is about breaking the inherited patterns, to survive this next digital era, they will need to know how to be a human with values.

16/05/2026

This was my story for years.
I believed life was meant to be hard, it proved I earned what I had built. The fuel was anger, frustration and resentment, I would show them I was good enough.
Understanding how I came up with this belief, meant I could swap it out and find my peace.

11/05/2026

Irena Kahne - Mindology Institute This is so perfectly written. Therapy is an investment in yourself, just the same as going to the gym and having your nails done, except the change is so much deeper.

Veš, kaj je eno največjih napačnih prepričanj o hipnozi?

Da prideš enkrat. Da “popraviš” problem. In da si potem rešen.

In ja hipnoterapija JE neverjetno hitra. Včasih človek po eni sami seansi prvič po letih globoko zadiha. Prvič začuti mir.
Prvič razume, zakaj reagira tako, kot reagira. Prvič ne sovraži več sebe.

In to je močno. Priznam. Včasih mi kdo reče, da se počuti kot, da se je magično nekaj spremenilo.

Ampak največji feler se pogosto zgodi ravno tukaj.

Ko človek začuti prvo olajšanje in potem odneha.

Ker misli:
“Zdaj sem okej.”

Ampak osebna rast ni samo gašenje požara. Ni samo to, da prideš takrat, ko razpadaš.
Ni samo reševanje trenutne bolečine.

Gre za nekaj veliko globljega.

Gre za odnos, ki ga gradiš sam s sabo.

Vsakič, ko se pojaviš na terapiji. Vsakič, ko si vzameš čas zase.
Vsakič, ko investiraš vase svoji podzavesti sporočaš:

“Vreden sem sebe.”
“Vredna sem spremembe.”
“Moje življenje je pomembno.”
“Ne bom se več zapustil/a.”

In ravno tukaj se začne prava transformacija.

Ne v enem “wow” trenutku.
Ampak v konsistentnosti. Vztrajnosti.

V tem, da ostaneš ob sebi tudi takrat, ko postane bolje.
V tem, da ne čakaš, da te življenje ponovno zlomi.
V tem, da ne začneš delati na sebi šele decembra, ko pišeš novoletne zaobljube in obljubljaš sebi, da bo “naslednje leto drugače”.

Ker iskreno?

Delo na sebi ni namenjeno samo temu, da preživiš težke trenutke.
Namenjeno je temu, da te težki trenutki ne uničijo več tako kot nekoč.

Da znaš držati sebe. Da znaš regulirati svoj notranji svet.
Da znaš ostati prisoten tudi v bolečini. Da ne razpadeš vsakič, ko pride zavrnitev, izguba, strah ali sprememba.

In šele takrat zares razumeš, koliko ti je delo na sebi že dalo.

Ne takrat, ko je vse lepo.
Ampak takrat, ko življenje preveri, koliko si zgradil/a v sebi.

Zato jaz ne verjamem v “hitre popravke”. Verjamem v procese.
V ljudi, ki so pripravljeni res stopiti na pot k sebi.
Počasi. Iskreno. Predano.

Ne govorimo o letih in letih terapij. Govorimo o dovolj veliki predanosti sebi, da zaženeš nove notranje programe, nove odzive, novo identiteto.
Da ne ostaneš ista oseba z istimi ranami in istimi vzorci še naslednjih 10 let.

In zato bom v naslednjem tednu odprla nekaj individualnih terminov.

Ne za vse. Ampak za tiste, ki čutijo, da je čas.

Čas, da nehajo samo “preživljati”. Čas, da nehajo čakati pravi trenutek.
Čas, da nehajo upati, da se bo nekaj spremenilo samo od sebe.

Če čutiš, da si pripravljena/pripravljen stopiti v proces resnične notranje preobrazbe, spremljaj objave v naslednjih dneh.

Ker moj urnik je zelo poln in prostor bom odprla samo za ljudi, ki so res pripravljeni nekaj premakniti v svojem življenju.

Se beremo kmalu ❤️

05/05/2026

Sometimes you have to call “Enough!” You’ve worked so hard doing everything, when will you spend time enjoying it?

22/04/2026

You’re Exhausted From Being Everything to Everyone… Except Yourself

You say yes when you mean no.
You overthink conversations long after they’ve ended.
You carry guilt for things that were never yours to hold.

And no matter how much you give… it never quite feels enough.

Deep down, you’re tired.
Not just physically but emotionally. Mentally.
Tired of second-guessing yourself.
Tired of trying to keep everyone happy.
Tired of feeling like you’re losing who you really are.

This Is What You Learned to Be

At some point, you learned that:

* Your needs come second
* Keeping the peace matters more than your truth
* Being “good” means being selfless, quiet, agreeable

So you adapted.
You became the strong one. The reliable one. The one who holds it all together.

But underneath that…
There’s a version of you who feels unheard, unseen, and disconnected.

If this resonates with where you are right now, check out my website and book a free call.
I’m not just qualified, I’m experienced!
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02/04/2026

I used to think rest was laziness.

Like if I slowed down, I was falling behind.

But burnout isn’t productive,
and running on empty doesn’t get you ahead.

31/03/2026

RTT changed my life.

I studied talk therapy before this
but something was still missing.

Talking helps you understand the problem.

RTT helps you change it.

29/03/2026

You’re not tired, you’re trapped.
Same days, same habits, same results.

Be honest… how long have you felt like this?

15/03/2026

🤗 Happy Mother’s Day everyone ❤️

14/02/2026

It’s always good to see things from a different angle 🍀