Victoria Moores, Counselling in Hastings

29/07/2022

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29/07/2022

11/07/2022

Don’t underestimate the immense power of small changes. In therapy, there can be big ‘ah ha’ moments, but it’s more normal to find personal change through small experiments in doing things differently. They add up!

An iconic illustration and one that (in our experience) proves to be true over and over again: small steps lead to a big change.

"I used to map out overly ambitious milestones for myself.

Things like, "I'm going to run 5 miles every day.”

Sometimes I'd be able to hit those milestones for a while, but eventually I'd get burnt out, or life would become too busy, or I'd physically injure myself. I'd be left feeling defeated, and like I'd never make it to my longer-term goals.

Now, I set myself smaller, much more achievable milestones and keep in mind that if something is worth doing at 100%, it's probably also worth doing at 20%. E.g. if I think it's good to run 5 miles, running 1 mile is probably also pretty good."

🖼: @ Lizandmollie

14/12/2021

I love this idea of 'listening benches,' where people can show that they have time to talk - or a need to talk - by simply sitting down.

People carry invisible emotional backpacks and this would be a way of making that weight a bit more visible. Just imagine the life-stories that could be shared and the connections that could be created.

I want to flag this to Hastings Borough Council - it would be great to have a similar initiative here.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-59609662

BBC Scotland's Angie Brown takes a seat on an Edinburgh bench where people are urged to chat to tackle loneliness.

29/11/2021

This is a nice reminder of the things that are truly within our control - and the things that are not.

Thank you to the person who shared this with me. I think it’s a great visual reminder.

Knowing the limits of our personal responsibility can be strangely helpful.

02/06/2021

“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you, as a result of what happens to you.” — Dr. Gabor Mate

14/05/2021

During COVID-19, I am offering reduced-price relationship counselling for couples (and other dynamics, like poly).

You don't have to be at crisis point - therapy can be helpful for general relationship health too.

If you're curious and would like to see what relationship therapy is like, the first 50-minute session is free. Further sessions are £25 each (discounted from £50).

I am currently working remotely via Zoom. Please message me if you'd like more information.

(Photo credit: Nicolás Barra Robles, via Wikimedia Commons)

13/05/2021

Holding onto things for a long time can be exhausting.

This glass of water story is lovely. Working out how to let go can be really hard; you don’t have to do it alone.

22/04/2021

Conversations would be so different if people asked “What do you LOVE to do?” rather than “What do you do?”

There’s more to life than job titles.

13/04/2021

Sometimes it feels very hard to say "no." When you constantly prioritise other people, it can take a toll on your physical and emotional health.

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-and-learn-to-say-no_uk_6074546ac5b6616dcd7c1212

Yes, it's possible to un-learn your people-pleasing tendencies. Here's how.

01/03/2021

Are you a bit of a night owl? Me too. Some interesting thoughts here.

01/02/2021

From my own experiences of therapy, this quote rings true.

While there are definitely ‘ah ha moments’ in counselling sessions, the real change comes from learning new ways to be, with yourself and with other people...learning how to drive differently, so you can reach any destination.

It’s a bit like a jigsaw puzzle, where the ‘ah ha moments’ are the corners and the outside edges. That creates a frame of understanding to build on.

Learning new ways of being is all the puzzle pieces in the middle. When those pieces fall into place, that’s when real change happens.

Mental Health is not a destination, but a process. It's about how you drive, not where you're going.

30/01/2021

Sometimes the dullest day-to-day tasks feel impossible.

This is a lovely story about how being honest about THAT thing that’s really bugging you - no matter how ridiculous it seems - can help.

The simplest answers often go into hiding when we’re stressed.

28/01/2021

Therapy often involves taking small steps that go against your normal pattern. Sometimes it's worth asking "What would I normally do - and what could I do differently?"

Gentle experimentation helps get different results.

For example, if you always say "yes" to people and find yourself feeling overstretched, perhaps you could experiment with saying "no" once in a while and see what happens.

29/12/2020

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