Victoria Moores, Counselling in Hastings

01/11/2025

This piece is beautifully written and so accurately describes the pain of change and choosing not to settle. Transitions of any kind are difficult, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.

Healing often comes with loneliness, but that’s a good sign. It means you’re raising your standards and waiting for the love you deserve.

28/08/2025

People have the best intentions when they wish us a good day. The reality is a lot of days aren’t easy or good. So have “a day” instead - just a day of mundane basics if that’s possible for you - and call that a win.

29/07/2022

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29/07/2022

11/07/2022

Don’t underestimate the immense power of small changes. In therapy, there can be big ‘ah ha’ moments, but it’s more normal to find personal change through small experiments in doing things differently. They add up!

An iconic illustration and one that (in our experience) proves to be true over and over again: small steps lead to a big change.

"I used to map out overly ambitious milestones for myself.

Things like, "I'm going to run 5 miles every day.”

Sometimes I'd be able to hit those milestones for a while, but eventually I'd get burnt out, or life would become too busy, or I'd physically injure myself. I'd be left feeling defeated, and like I'd never make it to my longer-term goals.

Now, I set myself smaller, much more achievable milestones and keep in mind that if something is worth doing at 100%, it's probably also worth doing at 20%. E.g. if I think it's good to run 5 miles, running 1 mile is probably also pretty good."

🖼: @ Lizandmollie

14/12/2021

I love this idea of 'listening benches,' where people can show that they have time to talk - or a need to talk - by simply sitting down.

People carry invisible emotional backpacks and this would be a way of making that weight a bit more visible. Just imagine the life-stories that could be shared and the connections that could be created.

I want to flag this to Hastings Borough Council - it would be great to have a similar initiative here.

BBC Scotland's Angie Brown takes a seat on an Edinburgh bench where people are urged to chat to tackle loneliness.

29/11/2021

This is a nice reminder of the things that are truly within our control - and the things that are not.

Thank you to the person who shared this with me. I think it’s a great visual reminder.

Knowing the limits of our personal responsibility can be strangely helpful.

02/06/2021

“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you, as a result of what happens to you.” — Dr. Gabor Mate

14/05/2021

During COVID-19, I am offering reduced-price relationship counselling for couples (and other dynamics, like poly).

You don't have to be at crisis point - therapy can be helpful for general relationship health too.

If you're curious and would like to see what relationship therapy is like, the first 50-minute session is free. Further sessions are £25 each (discounted from £50).

I am currently working remotely via Zoom. Please message me if you'd like more information.

(Photo credit: Nicolás Barra Robles, via Wikimedia Commons)

13/05/2021

Holding onto things for a long time can be exhausting.

This glass of water story is lovely. Working out how to let go can be really hard; you don’t have to do it alone.

22/04/2021

Conversations would be so different if people asked “What do you LOVE to do?” rather than “What do you do?”

There’s more to life than job titles.

13/04/2021

Sometimes it feels very hard to say "no." When you constantly prioritise other people, it can take a toll on your physical and emotional health.

Yes, it's possible to un-learn your people-pleasing tendencies. Here's how.