10/05/2025
I had a lovely evening out last night with a woman who I have got to know and enjoy spending time with, after she lost her husband to su***de.
I have been able to connect with him and find out various bits about what happened which has been a great comfort to her, when there had been a lot of unanswered questions surrounding his death. There are still some unsolved bits, but I don’t think she will ever truly know everything surrounding it all.
Its not been easy for me, as it can take a long time from what happened after they cross over, to be ok, and he was very reluctant to talk to me at first. It was a year after that he was ready to talk to me properly about it. I was then able to pass this on to his wife. There were other bits too that I had to wait to share with her, as per her husbands request, and last night I was finally able to discuss what they were. 4 years after it happened.
I promised him that I would look after his wife too, which I continue to do, as we have stayed in touch ever since it happened.
I won’t give the details of everything that happened out of respect to her, and because its a private personal matter, but it was a lot for her to deal with. As it would be for anyone in that situation. Those that get left behind have so many mixed emotions/feelings and questions surrounding it all.
Anyway, it was really lovely to see her, and she is a lot brighter now than she had been. I feel like there has been some amount of closure for her that has helped her to get where she is now.