Stephanie Miller Counselling

20/04/2026

The world and ourselves can feel differently depending on our nervous system state

Safe:
* I don’t need to look for threats
* I can connect fully with my loved ones and others
* I feel freedom to play and to be creative

Fight / Flight:
* I spend a lot of time looking for threats
* I feel anxious
* I can’t sit still

Collapsed:
* No amount of sleep helps me to feel restored
* I feel disconnected from others / the world / from myself
* I feel shameful / I want to hide away

This is the meaning that we make out of the world when our internal nervous system state changes, this isn’t necessary the world changing

We can get stuck in states for a very long time and forget how to find our way back out

Therapy is about understanding where are we in our nervous system and how is that impacting the quality of our life. We learn how to map our pathways into other states ❤️‍🩹

04/04/2026

Wondering whether to find a counsellor?

Counselling can be a daunting prospect. Who will they be, what will I have to talk about? What will I have to face, can I handle my emotions?

I hear these fears so very often as a counsellor. It can be really scary! I’ve so very rarely however experienced these fears come true. You can learn to build a healthy relationship with us, you can talk about what you need to (when you’re ready to), and you can handle your emotions

In private practice, any ethical counsellor will allow you to guide your own sessions. You decide when you want counselling sessions. You decide what you want to talk about and when you want to talk about it and if you change your mind then you stop. Stop talking about that thing, stop counselling or take a pause, and if you want to, then you come back. It’s all about what you need and we’ve got you in that 🫶🏼

Lots of love in your healing journeys ❤️‍🩹

25/01/2026

08/01/2026

Play is essential. Countless times I’ve seen a loss of play diminishing mental health

27/12/2025

03/12/2025

This week is Grief Awareness Week, and a chance to recognise how any type of loss can affect our wellbeing.

There’s no right or wrong way to feel — grief affects everyone differently.

If you're finding things difficult, there’s support that can help.

➡️ https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/grief-bereavement-loss/

19/11/2025

Talking saves lives and we need to be honest about our mental health. It’s alright for boys and men to cry. Mental heath is just as important as physical health.

14/08/2025

Why It’s Hard to Let Go:

When you haven’t consistently felt seen, safe, or emotionally nourished in past relationships, even small moments of connection can feel like everything you’ve been waiting for.

Once oxytocin is involved, letting go can feel like a death.

Your body doesn’t just miss them—it aches for them.

Quoted from Chasing Love That Hurts. You can read more here: https://traumatorecovery.gumroad.com/l/zmjjxu

03/08/2025