Anchor Counselling

Anchor Counselling A safe and supportive space to explore whatever is making life difficult for you

When we struggle with health anxiety, we worry that minor symptoms or normal body sensations may mean that we have a ser...
14/06/2025

When we struggle with health anxiety, we worry that minor symptoms or normal body sensations may mean that we have a serious illness. This belief can persist even when we have had reassurance from a medical professional or test results to the contrary.

It can often begin with a minor symptom which leads to a search to understand and to find answers. The worrying is relentless and we fear the worst. What we are really looking for is reassurance but even when we get this, it never feels enough. We may continue to worry or, alternatively, find a new symptom to worry about. This anxiety, in itself, can cause further symptoms which intensify our negative thinking.

Health anxiety can be a sign of a nervous system that is stuck in survival mode. The perception of physical symptoms can trigger a fight or flight response, which makes us feel that we are under threat and in danger. We try to find safety by seeking information that will provide reassurance.

When we do this we are training our brain to believe that checking = safety and so the cycles continues. Instead, we need to learn to feel safe in our bodies again and so be able to notice symptoms without spiralling.

If you struggle with health anxiety, I am here to support you. You are not being dramatic, you are doing your best with a brain that needs some help in feeling safe.

Please feel free to get in touch via my website ⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at ⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

⚓️Your story is always important and I will listen. ⚓️You will be in a safe space.⚓️You will be heard, you will be under...
12/06/2025

⚓️Your story is always important and I will listen.

⚓️You will be in a safe space.

⚓️You will be heard, you will be understood and you will be accepted.

If this is what you feel you need right now, please contact me via my website⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

When we are children we rely on our parents to meet all of our practical and emotional needs. If this does not happen we...
07/06/2025

When we are children we rely on our parents to meet all of our practical and emotional needs. If this does not happen we can start to feel that our needs are a burden for the people we love and so we learn to suppress and disconnect from them.

This creates an internal conflict between the part of us that still has those needs and the part of us that feels ashamed and guilty for having them. We internalise the belief that having needs makes us weak and demanding. We believe that our needs will push people away and so we over function, forcing ourselves to be strong and super-independent.

This is often seen as:

* Minimising our needs and feeling anxious about having them
* Pretending we are ok when we are not
* Never asking for help
* Over-explaining when we ask for something
* Apologising for our feelings
* Finding it difficult to set boundaries

However, beneath this shame we have a deep longing to be seen and valued for person we really are and the way we feel.

If you feel you are ready to explore and reconnect with your needs, to work towards understanding that they are not a burden but information that help you to connect with yourself and those around you, I am here to help you.

Please get in touch via my website ⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk
Or email me at ⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

It is Mental Health awareness week and this year the theme is "Community”Being part of a safe, positive community is vit...
15/05/2025

It is Mental Health awareness week and this year the theme is "Community”

Being part of a safe, positive community is vital for our mental health and wellbeing. We thrive when we have strong connections with other people and supportive communities that remind us we are not alone.

⚓️ www.anchor-counselling.co.uk
⚓️ jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

Exam time is upon us and it can be difficult for both the young people sitting the exams and their families who are tryi...
10/05/2025

Exam time is upon us and it can be difficult for both the young people sitting the exams and their families who are trying to support them.

Offering emotional support to our children involves creating a safe and understanding environment where they feel able to ask for help when they need it and comfortable expressing their doubts and fears when feelings of anxiety creep in.

Some of the ways we can do this are by:
⚓️Being present and available when they need us

⚓️Listening actively when they want to talk

⚓️Validating their emotions

⚓️Helping them navigate their way through the difficult moments

⚓️www.anchor-counselling.co.uk
⚓️jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

Today is World Earth Day 2025.Earth Day reminds the world about the importance of environment conservation and sustainab...
22/04/2025

Today is World Earth Day 2025.
Earth Day reminds the world about the importance of environment conservation and sustainability, encouraging us to come together and take action for a healthier planet and brighter future.

The day raises awareness and inspires change, fostering a deep connection with nature. People with good nature connectedness tend to be happier. Nature can generate many positive emotions, such as calmness, joy, and creativity.

Nature connectedness is also associated with lower levels of poor mental health, particularly lower depression and anxiety.

Your story is important.I will listen.You will be in a safe space.You will be heard.You will be accepted.If talking ther...
11/04/2025

Your story is important.
I will listen.
You will be in a safe space.
You will be heard.
You will be accepted.

If talking therapy is what you need right now, please contact me via my website⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

Mother's Day is a happy day of celebration for many of us. However, it can be a deeply difficult day for those who are s...
30/03/2025

Mother's Day is a happy day of celebration for many of us. However, it can be a deeply difficult day for those who are struggling with:

⚓️ The loss of their mother

⚓️ An abusive relationship with their mother

⚓️ Unresolved difficulties with their mother

⚓️ Worrying about being a good enough mother

⚓️ The loss of a child

⚓️ Fertility issues that make
motherhood feel unattainable

⚓️ Children who have grown up and moved away

If today is hard for you, please know you are not alone.

If you need help and support, please do reach out.

⚓️ www.anchor-counselling.co.uk
⚓️ jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

When trauma happens, especially early in our lives, we try to make sense of it. Often the easiest explanation for a chil...
29/03/2025

When trauma happens, especially early in our lives, we try to make sense of it.

Often the easiest explanation for a child is that it must be their fault.
This is because it feels safer to blame themselves than to accept that the people they depend on are unreliable, neglectful or even harmful.

By convincing themselves that it's their fault, they feel they have some control over the situation. They believe that if they can become the person they feel they are expected to be, their caregivers might finally love them.

Such self-blame is a way to stay loyal to a system that doesn't show any signs of change. When the family (or any system) isn't aware of its failings and refuses to change, self-blame becomes the only way to make sense of the pain and of our experience.

If you are struggling with self-blame and feel you would like to become kinder and more compassionate towards yourself, I am here to help and support you.

Please get in touch via my website ⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at ⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

⚓️⚓️Online Sessions Available⚓️⚓️If you are time-limited, find travel difficult or simply feel more comfortable in your ...
23/03/2025

⚓️⚓️Online Sessions Available⚓️⚓️

If you are time-limited, find travel difficult or simply feel more comfortable in your home, I am here to offer help and support via online counselling sessions. Together we can explore what is making life difficult for you and help you to find a more positive way forward.

I also offer a free consultation call to get us started so that you can tell me a little about what brings you to counselling, ask any questions and get a feel for whether I am the right person for you

Please get in touch via my website ⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at ⚓️: jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

Today is the International Day of Forests. This is a global observance dedicated to raising awareness about the importan...
21/03/2025

Today is the International Day of Forests. This is a global observance dedicated to raising awareness about the importance of all types of forests and trees outside forests.

This day emphasizes the crucial role that forests play in sustaining life on Earth, from providing habitats for biodiversity to combating climate change and supporting the livelihoods of millions of people. It is a time to reflect on the value of forests and to promote efforts to protect and restore them.

Forests are also a wonderful place for us as they can generate many positive emotions, such as calmness, joy, and creativity and can facilitate concentration.

Research shows that people who are more connected with nature are usually happier in life and more likely to report feeling their lives are worthwhile.

⚓️www.anchor-counselling.co.uk
⚓️jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

For some of us there is an internal resistance to being vulnerable. We avoid vulnerability not by any conscious choice b...
19/03/2025

For some of us there is an internal resistance to being vulnerable. We avoid vulnerability not by any conscious choice but by an instinct resulting from the trauma of hurt, betrayal or rejection. And so, we find it hard to speak our truth, to allow closeness with others and to enjoy new experiences, particularly where we may feel seen.

Instead of leaning into love, creativity and joy, we remain braced for danger. We fear vulnerability because, in the past, being vulnerable resulted in pain and so it feels dangerous to us. The idea of uncertainty is terrifying because we have a strong sense of needing to be in control to feel safe. However, control is the very thing that keeps us stuck.

Healing is about slowly and gently building the capacity to be vulnerable. It is about learning that openness can co-exist with safety. In this way, we can begin to feel alive again because we feels safe to do so.

If you are finding it hard to allow yourself to feel vulnerable, I am her to help and support you.

Please reach out to me via my website ⚓️: www.anchor-counselling.co.uk

Or email me at ⚓️:jeni@anchor-counselling.co.uk

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Enterprise House, Boathouse Meadow Business Park, Cherry Orchard Lane
Salisbury
SP27LD

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Tuesday 9am - 5pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
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