Ellie Belfield Counselling

Ellie Belfield Counselling I offer a confidential space in which to gather your thoughts and find resolve that works for you

05/05/2026

Was this you as a child? ✋🏽

Rules that made no sense + you = 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♂️❌️

Neurodivergent folk can experience a burning sense of justice towards things that feel unfair.

This can cause us to rebel, speak out, protest or even feel deep guilt.

It's not that we're trying to cause conflict, it's that we are reacting from a moral place of what feels right to us.

As children we can feel particularly powerless in the face of statements like "life's not fair."

- that feels faaaar too simple for our complex yet literal brains!

If this resonated with you, hi!

I'm a psychotherapist specialising in helping neurodivergent, highly sensitive and neurocurious folk to better understand themselves 🩷

Together we'll make the world feel a little more manageable every day.

Instead of actually buying new glasses for over £100 each time I thought I'd just try on different styles in each canva ...
04/05/2026

Instead of actually buying new glasses for over £100 each time I thought I'd just try on different styles in each canva post on this theme.

Felt that I needed to disclose that as I am obsessed with being honest and giving ALL the details 😅 (iykyk)

A sense of justice can also manifest in our personal lives as needing to give every detail, needing to close every door, tie every loose end.

We can inadvertently end up getting involved in things that aren't really to do with us, just because we so deeply want to help and make things right.

This is a beautiful thing, but it can also cause overwhelm and feelings of powerlessness.

In therapy, we'll explore your relationship to your morals and where you would like to find more balance in feeling & acting with them.

Here when you're ready 🩷

You've seen the posts that tell you you have ADHD because you lose your keys three times a week and don't like being tol...
03/05/2026

You've seen the posts that tell you you have ADHD because you lose your keys three times a week and don't like being told no.

As a qualified therapist, I'm not keen to oversimplify complex brain distinctions, or pathologise normal human behaviour.

What I am keen for, is the process of learning to truly understand yourself in a safe, psychologically-informed environment so that you can really get to know your unique needs and how to navigate your life.

It's a journey I'm on myself, and I can honestly say it gets better when I've released the shame I used to hold about my personality and can now say things like:

"I'm peopled out"
or
"I'm more of a 1 on 1 kinda gal"
or even
"I'm just gonna need some quiet time today as I can feel myself reaching burnout"

In therapy, we'll find you a roster of helpful phrases to keep your personal boundaries intact without it feeling exhausting each time.

It's different for everyone, which is why the process of getting to know the WHOLE of you is so important - not something that happens in a 20 minute GP appointment (though I'm not dissing the value of those either !🥰)

Here when you're ready 🩷

When you're stuck in people-pleaser mode, every interaction can feel like a test."Was I nice enough?""Did they think I w...
24/04/2026

When you're stuck in people-pleaser mode, every interaction can feel like a test.

"Was I nice enough?"
"Did they think I was being a bitch?"
"I probably shouldn't've said that."

You resolve not to open your mouth again. 🤐

But in doing so, you take a silent back seat, and become invisible.

It's not that you don't have enough friends.

It's not that you need more people.

It's that you need to build your confidence from within in order to feel safer expressing your true self.

Unfortunately, we'll never magic a world free of judgement. Making observations is in human nature.

In therapy, I'll guide you to start validating yourself, making friends with the hidden "less desirable" parts of yourself..

So that eventually, you'll stop judging yourself so much and start feeling freer to interact organically with others.

Goodbye loneliness, hello self acceptance. 🩷

23/04/2026

Often we can think that healing comes suddenly like a bolt of lightning ⚡️

But it's more likely a slower evolution, a gradual shift into becoming the person you really want to be.

Sometimes it starts with telling the truth sooner.

Not abandoning yourself to keep the peace.

If that feels hard, there's usually a deeper reason.

And it's something we can work on in therapy 🩷

Two things can be true:we can set boundaries AND feel guilty,without it meaning that the "right" thing to do is retract ...
23/04/2026

Two things can be true:

we can set boundaries AND feel guilty,

without it meaning that the "right" thing to do is retract them.

This work is exactly what I help my clients with.

Irvin Yalom says: "We can only take our clients as far as we've travelled", and I do feel that.

By walking my own journey and sometimes doing the hard things, it allows me that lived experience to empathise with you and further support your transformation.

Can you think of any of your opposing parts?

I specialise in helping recovering people-pleasers & the neurocurious find ways to be themselves in the world.Neurodiver...
22/04/2026

I specialise in helping recovering people-pleasers & the neurocurious find ways to be themselves in the world.

Neurodivergent folk can really struggle to show up authentically as we’ve had a lifetime of navigating systems where we need to perform & get things “right”.

Right now, this persona you’ve created as the unbotherable happy-go-lucky comedian/therapist feels impenetrable.

But truly, you’d love to be able to open up more, and inside, you’re hurting.

Even when someone has upset you, you brush it off. Feigning not minding is key to maintaining the relationship.

(I wonder where you learned that?)

In therapy, I help my clients to see where they have been acting from a place of maintaining the relationship, rather than showing up authentically.

Starting to gently bridge that gap is what will help us to feel closer to people in a more genuine, honest way. 🩷

21/04/2026

For some, it feels easier to hold space than to occupy it.

So when someone asks you how YOU are, you're searching around for the ~appropriate~ answer.

That's not because you're secretive, it's because somewhere along the way you learned it wasn't safe to share your true feelings.

Independence was safer than reciprocal relationships.

In therapy, we can explore the depths of your masking so that you can start feeling truly yourself with others 🩷

Are you focusing on maintaining the status-quo of a relationship at the cost of being truly you?When we start paying att...
20/04/2026

Are you focusing on maintaining the status-quo of a relationship at the cost of being truly you?

When we start paying attention to that inner voice, we might also notice the judgements that come up around it:

• "that's rude"
• "that's mean"
• "don't say that out loud"

We might feel like expressing ourselves genuinely would be too much, or that our true feelings might hurt the other person.

Honestly?

They might...but real relationships involve healthy rupture and repair.

Therapy with me is about learning to tolerate others' discomfort instead of always taking it on as your own cross to bear.

When you're ready to start this self-evolving journey, I'm here 🩷

17/04/2026

When you're not sure...BUT THERE ARE SIGNS 🤣

As a therapist on her own journey navigating a high sensitive nervous system and deeply thinking brain, I get it.

Maybe we resonate with the traits, but don't feel "deserving" of a diagnosis because it's "not that severe".

I'm not suggesting we push for diagnoses - I don't have one! (Other than PMDD, which coincidentally is commonly experienced by adhd women, but I digress..)

What I do in therapy room is get to know YOU. 🩷

Because I understand from personal experience that we are all beautifully nuanced.

And often it's not that we need to change, it's that we need others to understand us better.

That starts with deeply understanding ourselves.

Here when you're ready to start that journey ⛰️

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