Fight for Finn

13/10/2023

Please join us 🙏🏼💛

10/10/2023

thank you 💙🩷

23/09/2023

Yesterday was the year anniversary of the day we brought Finley home from the hospital. We were so full of hope and overwhelming love. Today, Finley would have turned 13 months old. So it feels like the right day to share how we will be remembering our boy this baby loss awareness week, 9-15th October. The devastation of losing a child is all consuming. Grief does not follow 5 simple steps or fit neatly into a certain amount of time. We are triggered countless times daily from known and unknown sources. The loss of our son and the dreams we had for him will stay with us forever. We now must learn to build a life around that loss. One way we’ve found helps, is to openly talk about Finley, to keep the bond between us and him very much alight. To do things for him and with him. So, on Saturday 14th October I will be completing a 10km walk/run (let’s be realistic!) with my sidekick Jules.

My aim in this post is not to raise money (although that is ultimately what these charities need) but to raise awareness. You have already given enough to our family, we will always be grateful for the support shown to us, that allowed us to get Finley back to the UK. The purpose of this post is to publicly thank and promote the amazing work done by some incredible charities and individuals. Those of whom we would not be here today without. So please join me in sharing support and awareness to the following:
EACH - East Anglia’s Children’s Hospice https://www.each.org.uk/
Unique - Understanding Rare Chromosome Disorders https://rarechromo.org/
Sands - improving the care bereaved parents receive https://www.sands.org.uk/
4 Louis - providing memory boxes to parents https://4louis.co.uk/memory-boxes

I cannot stress how much these charities have helped and continue to help us. Grief is lonely and isolating. These people allow us to feel it but also show us how to find the glimmers.

If you’d like to join me for a section of the run please get in touch, likewise if you do want to donate to any of the charities in Finley’s name then please do. But please, no pressure. We just want to say thank you and give back. ✌🏼💛 You can read more about Finley’s story on my fundraising page.

https://fundraising.sands.org.uk/fundraisers/abigailkay/ribbon-run

Want to join me in supporting a good cause? I'm taking part in the Ribbon Run for Sands and raising money for a cause close to my heart. I would love your support. £20 could provide a bereaved family with a memory box to help create and keep safe precious and lasting memories of their baby. If you ...

28/02/2023

We will be celebrating the life of our son Finley Rain Brian Richard Phillips on Saturday 25th March 2023.
The service and wake will take place at The Corn Barn, CountryWays, Little Knowle Farm High Bickington Umberleigh (near Barnstaple) North Devon, UK EX37 9BJ. Time tbc.
We are deeply moved at how Finley touched the hearts of so many in his short yet exceptional life and as such we wish to open up this event to those who would like to attend.
Please do let us know by Friday 10th March if you are able to join us so that we can confirm numbers to the venue.
Thank you so much, all our love Abigail, Nick and Finley ###

20/02/2023

Yesterday morning our Finley slipped away into his final sleep. His journey was too hard and he just couldn’t do it anymore. He was the most beautiful, strong, clever and brave boy and we are so lucky to have been his parents for almost 6 months. He brought us so much joy and love like we’ve never known. We are completely broken but even in his final weeks Finley knew he had to get us home to England with family before he said goodbye to us. Please respect our privacy at this raw and deeply painful time. We are not ready to receive messages or calls yet. Thank you for everything you did to help our warrior. He will forever be in our hearts. ❤️

18/02/2023

A truly wonderful day! Finley met his Uncle Moo (Matt to most people!) and after a long 4 weeks in hospital, Bangkok and Ipswich…our boy is home ❤️ We are still waiting on future treatment plans but for now he is home and we intend to have quite a few pyjama days! Big hugs and love from all of us ###x

17/02/2023

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17/02/2023

Thank you to Christy O’Brien at Surrey Live What's On for sharing our story. We are especially grateful for your time and the continued support form so many of you ❤️

Abigail Kay was living in Thailand when her son Finley was born leaving her to fork out thousands in medical bills

03/02/2023

Landed, settled and exhausted! Thank you so much to all the incredible people who have helped us whilst/since leaving Bangkok. The removals and shipping company United Removals who literally packed up our lives in a day. The amazing people who helped us in so many ways over the last 5 years but proved in the last 5 months what a special community they are. The team who organised the entire process for us and stayed by our sides throughout. The wonderful team who have done everything in their power to help us since before Finley was born. The staff who showed huge compassion during the flight. The NHS nurses, doctors, ambulance team who took us in, held our hands and reassured two very frightened parents. Never ever take the for granted, we are so lucky to have access to such a good healthcare and to such an inspiring and hardworking, caring system and individuals. And finally, to every single person who wished us well, donated and raised funds, spread the word, cooked us meals, wiped our tears and picked us up off of the floor. We don’t have enough words to thank you all and our love for you all is ever lasting. And lastly, to Finley, our warrior, our strength and inspiration. We are so proud of his courage. Here’s to you baby boy. You are powerful and you are loved. ❤️

02/02/2023

I can’t believe I am writing this as we’ve spent the last few days with stomachs tied up in knots, worried for something to go wrong, but I can announce that we are off! Finley was accepted to Ipswich hospital on Wednesday. He won’t stay there for his treatment but he will be cared for there until the best hospital for him can be found. This gets us home and into the NHS, who have accepted Finley’s case. What a relief! So, we are now waiting to be transported to the airport by ambulance. Finley is stable, sleeping and breaking the nurses hearts as he leaves. We cannot thank the staff in the NICU at Bumrungrad hospital enough. Through the darkest and hardest days they have been nothing but caring and calming. Nick and I haven’t had a moment to breathe this week, we’ve packed up our lives within a few days. Apologies for not replying to all the messages of love we’ve had. We will get around to it! After all, it is you, our heroes who have made this possible. We will never be able to thank you accordingly but please know you are in our hearts forever. So, now to the airport! Thailand, you’ve been the best home away from home. We’ll miss you and our family here so much. So this isn’t goodbye, it’s see you again. UK, see you soon ❤️ hope it’s not too cold! ###

01/02/2023

A wonderful and gifted friend has made me this ring using the last of Finley’s breast milk. Breast feeding is such a personal journey and one that was taken away from me. Finley was never able to latch so I expressed milk around the clock for him to drink from his bottle. However at 3 months we were advised to move him to formula as he needed the extra calories and his little gut couldn’t stomach any of the little dairy I had left in my in my diet. Luckily I was able to find a mother to donate the 250-300 pouches of breastmilk that I had in my freezer to, my time and efforts weren’t wasted and I’m glad I could help another little boy and mummy. With the last pouch that I expressed this ring was made ❤️ I can’t thank enough. The meaning of this ring is beyond sentimental. In some way it makes me feel closer to Finley whilst he is not with us, for that gift I will be forever grateful.