21/11/2025
📖 How to Write a Eulogy
Being asked to write a eulogy is often seen as an honour, but it can also feel overwhelming. If you are unsure where to begin, this gentle guide can help you structure your thoughts and create a meaningful tribute for someone special.
▪️What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is a speech or piece of writing that celebrates the life of someone who has died. It is often shared at a funeral or memorial service and can include memories, achievements and the qualities that made them unique.
▪️What to include
When you are unsure where to start, breaking it down into small sections can help.
▪️Biography
Think about their early life. Where they grew up, their childhood, their family and the milestones that shaped them.
▪️Memories
Write down personal memories and speak with close friends and family to gather theirs too. These can be touching, meaningful or even light-hearted moments if appropriate.
▪️Personal Traits
What made them who they were? Consider their personality, their kindness, humour or resilience and how these traits appeared in your memories.
▪️Milestones and Achievements
Share their important moments. Relationships, family life, career, travel, hobbies or accomplishments that brought them joy or pride.
▪️Religious Passages
If they were religious, you may choose to include a reading or quote. If you are unsure, speak with the family.
▪️How to structure a eulogy
• Beginning: Introduce yourself, your connection to the person and acknowledge the people attending.
• Middle: Tell their story. You can go chronologically or build the speech around a theme, combining memories, traits and achievements.
• Conclusion: Offer final reflections. You may end with a quote, a piece of music or simple words of comfort before saying your final goodbye.
▪️Final tips
• Speak to friends and family
• Find themes that feel natural
• Think of it as telling their story
• Make it personal and true to them
• Include quotes or readings if appropriate
If you need support with planning a funeral or would like confidential advice about arrangements for the future, Ashby Funeral Care is here to help with guidance and compassion.
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