Barry Winbolt Online

19/01/2026

Phrases like “It is what it is” and “That’s just how things are done” sound harmless—but they often shut down thinking altogether. This piece explores how thought-terminating clichés operate in politics, workplaces, parenting, and everyday life, and why recognising them matters if we want better decisions and real dialogue.

Thought-stopping clichés are the familiar phrases we reach for when thinking feels like too much effort. Spot them to free up communication

15/01/2026

Relaxation enables a biological reset by calming the nervous system and restoring clarity. It also helps you tor recover faster from stress, and builds mental resilience.

Relaxation builds mental resilience by restoring the nervous system, improving emotional regulation, and helping you recover from stress.

10/01/2026

Set Your Morning Routine for Wellbeing and Productivity

By sharpening your morning routine, you set yourself up for a healthier, more balanced day. With just a few mindful changes, your mornings can be a time of rejuvenation, tuning your well-being from the moment you wake up....

Your morning routine can set you up for a healthier, more balanced day. Adopt these simple habits to tune into your well-being

09/01/2026

Tolerance for others' opinions is the key to harmony and a resilient relationship. Love depends more on understanding than winning arguments.

Tolerance for others' opinions is the key to harmony and a resilient relationship. Love depends more on understanding than winning arguments.

08/01/2026

You don’t need a polished background or fancy setup to start.
If you care about your topic and know what you want to say, that’s enough.

Hit record. Keep it simple. Edit for clarity, not perfection.
You’ll learn more by doing than by overthinking—and your voice will get clearer every time.

04/01/2026

Is it worth five minutes of your time to learn how to stop an argument? Take control and make yourself proud. Confident people know it's not about winning.

Is it worth five minutes of your time to learn how to stop an argument? Confident people know it's not about winning.

01/01/2026

My new book, How to Think Like an Optimist in 5 Easy Steps gives you practical, evidence-based strategies that work in real life. It shows how to change your thinking style to boost resilience, improve wellbeing, and deal more effectively with setbacks and uncertainty.

Change the way you think not who you are. Learn how to Think like an Optimist and benefit from new opportunities, wellbeing, and success.

30/12/2025

Here's an idea that can have real impact in a person't life. When someone says “I’m unhappy”, “I need to see you in my office at 3.00”, or “Don’t call us, we’ll call you”, the chances are the listener will provide their own overlay of meaning and start to worry. In which case, it.....

29/12/2025

In this short episode, I take a serious look at how the explanations we have for other people’s behaviour can wreck our peace of mind, and our relationships. You’ll hear how a single, emotionally charged explanation can take over your thinking, make you ruminate, and turn minor conflicts into ma...

27/12/2025

Saying "sorry" can be a powerful first step to remedy a troubled relationship,

If you aree not sure how to apologise or if you should, remember that saying sorry is a profound act which can trigger a healing process.

20/12/2025

We like tidy explanations. Causes, reasons, evidence neatly lined up. But that habit comes at a cost. When we dismiss what we can’t explain, we unwittingly close the door on some helpful, surprising, and transformative moments.

Much which happens to us in our lives is mysterious and unexplained.Accepting magic means being open to more possibilities.

14/12/2025

How to Develop Adaptability in the Face of Changing Circumstances

REWRITE THIS Adaptability isn’t about ...