Talking Therapy with Diane Jones

18/05/2026

It often feels to me that sometimes the hardest part of growth is recognising your own value and I realised that I’ve personally struggled with this in so many areas over the years……
So, after two years as a qualified counsellor, supporting clients through anxiety, grief, relationship struggles, trauma, self-worth and life’s many challenges, I have made the decision to increase my counselling fee from £40 to £50 per session.

This reflects not only my qualifications and continued professional development, but also the care, empathy and dedication I bring to every session.
I know reaching out for support can feel daunting, so I aim to provide a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space where you can feel heard, understood and supported at your own pace.

🌱 Short or long-term counselling available
🌱15-minute free consultation call
🌱 In person in Cliffe Woods, Kent or online

Thank you to everyone who has trusted me with their journey so far 🦋🙏🤍

Butterfly Cove Counselling
Diane Jones MBACP

17/05/2026

Getting ready to watch my son get married yesterday reminded me that relationships rarely follow a straight line.
To be honest it’s taken me a while to truly understand that love is not about perfection……but that love asks us to grow, heal, risk again, and stay open even after disappointment.

What I do know is that second chances are not failures but they are evidence of courage, hope, and the human capacity to begin again.
The day was filled with so much love and was a beautiful reminder that new beginnings can happen at any stage of life.

A very special day for our family and so grateful to be part of these wonderful moments ❤️

14/05/2026

One of my favourite inspirational voices, Brené Brown, recently shared that she is celebrating 30 years of sobriety and it’s made me admire her even more.

I have known many people whose lives have been deeply affected by alcohol addiction. It can change people, control lives, impact relationships, and affect both physical and emotional health. Reaching a milestone like this takes immense courage, honesty, strength, and determination.

If you are struggling with alcohol or any other addiction, please know that support is available and recovery is possible. You do not have to face it alone 🦋

Yesterday marked my 30-year sobriety birthday, and I wanted to celebrate by sharing one gratitude for each decade.

1. My sobriety will always be the most important thing I do, because it allows me to fully love—and be loved by—the people who matter most in my life. I’m grateful for it every single day, even when it feels like a street fight.

2. Five years ago, a woman approached me in an airport and thanked me for writing about sobriety as a superpower. She said it helped her get sober. I’m grateful for all the people whose words helped me along the way. Before boarding her flight, she asked if I’d accept a gift from a stranger. I said yes. She handed me her first AA chip. I carry it in my purse every day. We were never strangers.

3. My favorite line from the AA Big Book reads: “That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we have been placed in a position of neutrality—safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition.”

Understanding and keeping in fit spiritual condition has been a decades-long challenge for me. I wrote about it in the final chapter of Strong Ground and I thought I’d share that full chapter with you today as a “thank you.” To read, go to the home page of brenebrown.com.

Today I am sober af and I am grateful. ❤️

13/05/2026

Yesterday my granddaughter was “helping” me water the garden 🌸 But within minutes, the flowers became less interesting and I became the target!
It made her laugh and she was completely free in the moment with no fear of getting it wrong, making a mess, or breaking the rules.

It made me think about how many of us grew up being the “good girl” or “good boy.”
The ones who behaved, stayed quiet, followed the rules, pleased others, and learned very early not to take up too much space.
I see this so often in my counselling work.
Somewhere along the way, many of us lost touch with that carefree, playful, childlike part of ourselves.

So today, maybe this is your reminder…

Take a day off from perfection.
Laugh louder.
Be sillier.
Dance in the kitchen.
Splash in puddles.
Do something just because it brings you joy.

Your inner child may be waiting for an invitation back out to play 🦋

11/05/2026

I used to analyse absolutely everything over and over but I realise now that I was looking to understand what I had done wrong, where I could blame myself and how I could apologise.
When challenges come now I try to give myself time to understand what going on for me, what’s coming up for me and quieten that inner child in me that’s searching for ways to put it all right.

Whether you’re in therapy or not, this is something you can start to practice in your own life….time to notice
Healing isn’t about rushing to feel better
It’s about allowing yourself the space to truly understand what’s sitting there and needs your attention 🦋

10/05/2026

It’s often a bit of chance trying somewhere new isn’t it
I can check the pictures, details and reviews, but still have to take a little leap of faith that it’s going to be what I’m actually hoping for.

This weekend we found a last minute campsite just outside Canterbury and actually, it was better than we expected…….Friendly, surrounded by woods and so peaceful.

It made me think about my client work where many of us wait until we feel 100% certain before making a change, opening up, trusting someone, or trying something different. But actually growth rarely comes with guarantees. Sometimes healing begins with a small leap of faith into the unknown.

And often, just like this weekend, what we find on the other side is calmer, kinder and more grounding than we imagined 🦋

Have you ever taken a leap of faith that turned out better than you expected?
I’d love to hear your story in the comments ✨

06/05/2026

Are you carrying things you’ve never spoken out loud.
We all have a hidden side, a part we keep tucked away and in the counselling room, I see how many people carry experiences they’ve never shared with anyone.

But what if that’s the very part that needs your compassion the most.
I know from personal experience that these unspoken parts of us don’t disappear… they quietly shape how we feel, think, what we believe about ourselves and often how we relate to others.

Take a few minutes for yourself today and have a watch of my latest video sharing my thoughts on this.
Does this resonate with you 🤍🦋

Exploring the shadow side, the hidden parts of ourselves we often keep buried due to shame, guilt, or self-blame.As a counsellor, I see how many people carry...

01/05/2026

If you are someone who copes by pushing things down or keeping busy know that we all develop ways of coping with stress and challenges.
In my client work, I often see strategies like avoiding, over-cleaning, eating, or drinking.

But what if we softened things and got curious instead…
What has made you smile in the past?
What has brought you laughter or a sense of lightness?

When stress arises, could you come back to those moments and give yourself more of what lifts you?

29/04/2026

This little garden idea turned into something special with the winding wisteria above the gate.
Now I walk through curtains of soft, hanging blooms which feels like a gentle, peacetul welcome for every client who arrives

It also occurred to me that it’s like the work we do together… growth and healing from years of neglect can take time, we may have to be patience with ourselves, and offer gentle care 🦋🤍🙏

26/04/2026

Busy week, A lovely party yesterday celebrating a 60th… and today my mind woke up full of “shoulds”…
The house is a mess.
Paperwork is waiting.
An ironing pile calling my name.
But last year I made a pact with myself…

When that feeling of pressure and “I should…” creeps in, I pause.
I check in and listen to what I actually need……not just what responsibility is shouting at me.

Of course, sometimes those responsibilities do need our attention.
But sometimes… we have a choice.
Today, by noticing, I chose differently.

I chose the beach.
The sea
The breeze
The rest

What are you needing today? 🦋